A lot of men don’t realize they’re codependent.
They just think they’re being “good husbands,” “nice guys,” or “doing the right thing.”

I break down the real, everyday behaviors that point to codependency in men—especially how it shows up in relationships, dead bedrooms, anxious attachment, and emotional burnout.

This isn’t about shaming men.
It’s about recognizing patterns that quietly destroy attraction, confidence, and self-respect.

If you:

• Walk on eggshells in your relationship
• Feel responsible for your partner’s emotions
• Tie your self-worth to her mood, approval, or sexual interest
• Or feel like you’re slowly disappearing inside your own relationship

This video is for you.

I’ll explain why these behaviors develop, why they feel “right” in the moment, and why they usually lead to less intimacy—not more.

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For an anxious guy, nothing is more confusing than discovering that your avoidant, seemingly asexual wife was having an affair.

No touching.
No sex.
Years of rejection.

And yet… she was sleeping with someone else.

I break down a real message from a man in a long-term dead bedroom who discovered his dismissive-avoidant wife had been cheating for years. We dig into anxious vs. avoidant attachment, why this dynamic is so common, and why the affair usually has nothing to do with you lacking masculinity, confidence, or sexual value.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• “How could she want sex with him but not me?”
• “What does an avoidant partner actually want?”
• “Why counseling never seems to work with avoidant spouses?”
• “Was I just too needy or anxious?”

…this video will make things click.

We’ll also talk about:

• Why “new” always beats “safe”
• Why anxious partners are usually the only ones willing to do the work
• Why avoidant people struggle in long-term monogamy
• And why this pattern tends to repeat itself again and again

If you’re dealing with a dead bedroom, infidelity, or the anxious–avoidant trap, you’re not alone.

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In today’s episode, I read an email from a husband living one of the most brutal modern realities: his wife says she’s “touched out” and has no energy for intimacy… yet somehow has unlimited emotional energy for another man at the gym.

This is the pattern I see over and over in dead bedrooms:

She didn’t lose desire.
She redirected it.

If you're a man dealing with a sexless marriage, emotional disconnect, or a wife who has checked out but won’t leave — this one’s going to hit hard.

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