What I Know Now is not a lesson…. it’s a testimony.

In this episode, I tell the truth about who I was before healing, what pain taught me, and how God turned my deepest wounds into purpose. I speak honestly about surviving instead of living, loving from emptiness, staying where I knew better, and finally choosing myself without guilt.

This episode walks through childhood wounds, family patterns, unsafe relationships, therapy, boundaries, singleness, faith, and the quiet strength it takes to rebuild yourself from the inside out. It’s about losing people while healing, finding your voice after silence, and learning what real love looks like when God is at the center.

There are no filters here.

No rushed healing.

No pretending it didn’t hurt.

This is for anyone who has ever questioned their worth, stayed too long, loved too hard, or felt like they disappeared inside their own life. It’s for the woman who survived seasons she wasn’t prepared for — and still found her way back to herself.

Contrary to popular belief… healing isn’t pretty.

But it is holy.

And it is possible.

Before there was fruit, there was surrender.

In this episode, I’m taking you back to the moment everything shifted. The moment I stopped running, stopped numbing, and finally surrendered to God for real.

What started as a whisper became a full transformation. Through obedience, honesty, and some painful pruning, I learned that surrender isn’t weakness, it’s the start of freedom.

This is my story of becoming. Of laying down what once comforted me to pick up what was calling me. From breaking old habits to building a deeper relationship with God, this episode is the truth behind my growth, my peace, and my faith.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re being stripped just to be planted, this one’s for you. Because your breaking wasn’t the end. It was the beginning of something sacred.

This week, I’m pulling back the curtain on what it really takes to protect your peace without losing your softness. I talk about the version of me that stayed silent to keep others comfortable, the lessons I learned from heartbreak, and how I went from people-pleasing to setting boundaries without guilt. This isn’t about becoming cold, it’s about reclaiming your warmth and refusing to let it be used against you.

If you’ve ever struggled with honoring yourself after a lifetime of overextending, this episode is your reminder: you can be soft and still stand your ground.

Before I found my tribe… I lost someone.

This episode is for the grief we never talk about. The friend who never became a full chapter, but left their name on every page.

Joseph wasn’t a boyfriend. He wasn’t a fling.

He was the friend who saw me when I didn’t even know how to be seen.

We never said it out loud, but I felt it. And maybe he did too.

This is the goodbye I never got to give and the truth I never said out loud.

🦋 In this episode, I talk about:

• Unspoken love and silent grief

• Being emotionally overdrawn from people-pleasing

• How one loss shaped every connection after

• My journey from performance to peace

• What healing really looks like when it’s not pretty

And this weekend? I’m going to the concert we would’ve joked about going to together… with a jersey that honors him. Because some love shifts, but never fades.

💔 Contrary to popular belief… unspoken love is still love. And grief? It doesn’t need permission to be real.

This episode is all about true friendship and the hard, honest road it takes to get there. I’m talking about the loneliness before the love, the lessons that broke me, and the women who showed up when I stopped begging to be chosen. Sit back, feel your feelings, and let this one remind you: you’re not hard to love just used to surviving.

I was stood up… but I didn’t fall apart.

Instead, I found clarity. In this pilot episode, I unpack the moment that sparked it all. How being left alone became the mirror I didn’t know I needed. This is where the journey began: not with heartbreak, but with the decision to choose me. Welcome to Contrary to Popular Belief™️, a safe space where healing isn’t always pretty, but it’s always worth it.

The Safe Space I Needed Didn’t Exist, So I Made It