Stop. Communicate and Listen, Stacie's back with a brand new mission (admit it, you read that in the style of Vanilla Ice). But Seriously! Stacie is back and talking about the skill of active listening, and how it can improve your communication skills and help you have better conversations with the people in your life.

In This Episode

• Objective Listening

• Subjective Listening

• Intuitive Listening

• How Sympathy and Empathy differ

"It's unbelievably imperative that not only do we talk to each other, but we listen to each other"

"You want to be genuinely interested"

"You notice their tone of voice, you notice their body language"

"You're empathizing with the person, you're putting yourself into their situation"

"There's a difference between sympathy and empathy"

"You have to listen because you don't know what that other person is experiencing"

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In this episode of Communication Untangled, Stacie Speaker reunites with Alison Deutsch . Alison is a certified positive psychology practitioner and professional coach who has experienced the challenge of relocating with her young family 4 times over a period of 10 years both domestically and overseas. Stacie first welcomed Alison as a guest on Reignite Your Light, and is thrilled to speak with her again!

In this episode

• Stress and how the body responds to it.

• The 3 Super Powers and how they keep you calm.

• The cuddle hormone, and hugging yourself.

• Shining light on the issue, and feeling powerful.

• Taking power away from yourself and subtle self sabotage.

"That moment when you're up in front of the room, or the mic goes live... it's like a free fall"

"The breath is a way of calming down that fear"

"We all need a chance to breathe"

Here is the link to Alison:

http://www.alisondeutsch.com/

Here are the links to the Ted Talks we mention:

https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are

https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend

Anastasia Netri is a coach and guide and has been for nearly a decade. She works with people who wish to live a self realized life awake and free.

In this episode, Stacie and Anastasia:

• Discuss self-realization, what it feels like, and why it's so important.

• Personal and Professional conversations, and how Anastasia navigates them.

• Values and where they fit into personal and professional relationships

"We form these identities and we don't know who we are"

"Knowing who you are has everything to do with good communication"

"This person I am as a coach doesn't really get turned off when I'm in relationships."

"How is it that they see the world from their point of view?"

"What we value dictates how we see the world"

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Stacie welcomes her podcast producer, Scott Doucet of Podcast Bay to the show to discuss the results of a quiz he took in order to determine his communication archetype! Scott leads a production team, and runs a community of podcasters and aspiring podcasters online, ans so communication is a massive part of his day to day. He wanted to learn more about his archetype, but more importantly, how he can communicate more easily with others.

In this episode:

• Scott shares his Communication Archetype with Stacie

• He shares the challenges that come along with his communication style

• The role of empathy in communication

• Men and Women communicating with each other

• How Scott can communicate better with the people in his life

Quotes

"My archetype is almost counter-productive at times"

"The phone is my nightmare"

"Everybody has to have the willingness to put themselves in someone else's shoes"

"Everyone needs their moment"

"You don't understand. You don't get it"

"You are just there to listen, and not fix"

"Listening is not just letting someone speak"

"You have to listen in order to be heard"

"People leave bosses, people don't leave jobs"

Take the Quiz!

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Stacie welcomes back Luke Iorio!! Stacie interviewed Luke on her last Podcast, Reignite Your Light, and had a great time speaking with him. He's the President of IPEC, and hosts his own podcast as well!

Stacie brings him back to the Communication Untangled podcast as a result of a post he posted on social media #notokay. He made a large point about how distorted our communication is, and how little we actually try to understand one another.

Luke and Stacie talk about how to have those difficult conversations, or if opinions greatly differ: how do you stop it from turning into a shouting match? Luke shares various questions you can ask yourself during a conversation that can help you build a strong connection and great conversations.

He gets excited over one of Stacie's question about how to teach children to listen in order for generational improvement. Luke gives great examples of things that parents can do to encourage empathy and understanding within our children.

Luke also brings some profound insights around compassion and kindness, and the impacts they have on us neurologically. So much depth and intelligence, so many reasons to do the right thing and seek to understand one another.

Quotes

"We're not spending enough time really truly understanding the other"

"it's the most connected and disconnected we've been"

"What are the roots of happiness?"

"The most important and under utilized aspect of communication is listening"

"In many ways, teaching or relating some of this to children is so much easier than teaching adults"

"How does it feel when you're truly accepted?"

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In this episode, Stacie goes over the 4 Communication Archetypes that she's talked about on the last 4 episodes of the Communication Untangled podcast!

Director

• Driven by the need to get things done, and the need to be in control

• Most comfortable in managing others and taking control

• Focused on results and achieving success

• They love autonomy and freedom

• Skip the small talk and give them the details

Strategist

• Systematic people who enjoy problem solving

• They are very detail oriented

• Proud of great work and willing to jump in without extra coaxing.

• Be sensitive to their time and allow them to talk in great detail.

• Let them now if something isn't going to get done.
  
  

Influencer

• Friendly an enthusiastic

• They thrive on compliments and acknowledgment

• They want work to be fun for everyone.

• They have a tendency to tease people

• They are very talkative and open about themselves.

Connector

• Excellent listeners

• Friendly and approachable disposition

• Tend to strive for strong relationships

• Consistent and reliable once given responsibilities

• They require security and won't take big risks

• They can appear to be stubborn, but often just want the best for the team.

• Be patient and show sincere interest in them.

Quotes

"Communication is everything"

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Stacie dives into the 4th communication archetype this week: The Connector. She explains why it's so crucial to understand the style of communicator you're dealing with, as well as the one that you are, in order to have smooth, effective conversations that leave you feeling great and getting results. She also summarizes the 3 types previously discussed on the show!~ If you missed out on them, go check out the last 3 episodes!

Stacie describes the connector as being very open, and easy to relate to, as they are always striving to find that way to connect with the person they are speaking to. They tend to have a relaxed disposition, making them very relaxed, warm and approachable.

A common fear among connectors is sudden change, they're not a fan of when things suddenly take a turn without time to prepare. They can appear stubborn, but that could be a result of wanting things to remain the same. They can also seem overly sensitive, because they want to ensure the boat doesn't get rocked.

Connectors are amazing planners, being able to share responsibilities and being amazing at follow through gives them an edge in forming solid relationships. They don't readily give opinions, although that doesn't mean they don't have any, and they often know the most about how work is getting done.

Quotes

"Why is it that I can talk to some people better than others?"

"The more prepared you are, the better"

"You really can do an awesome service by connecting with them on a deeper level."

"They need things to be stable"

"Social media has a way of sharing all the happy stuff"

Links

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This week is week 3 of the Communication Archetypes series! Which means we'll be uncovering the talents and style of the Influencer today. We've already discussed the task oriented and fact driven Director's and Strategists, and Stacie summarizes what we've learn about them so far, but now it's time to take a walk on the social side and see what the Influencer is all about hand how they can make their biggest splash on the world.

Stacie is actually an Influencer when it comers to being a communicator, so this one is a little near and dear to her heart. Some of their strengths include being great at breaking the ice and getting conversations started. They have a gift for persuasion and interacting with others. Influencers have very little trouble making connections with people, and actually crave it.

Influencer have their weaknesses. They have a tendency to be impatient, and don't like to be kept waiting. They sometimes have an aversion to being alone, and prefer to have at least one other person around, if not a while group. They don't the longest attention span and can often be disorganized.

How to connect with an Influencer: Encourage their gifts rather than stifle them. In a professional setting, be clear on who is going to do what, by when. You're going to want to show interest in their opinions and big ideas. Their goals are often about getting proper recognition and applause. They like being popular and fear losing that prestige.

Quotes

"This is the charmer of the group"

"They really do thrive on admiration and acknowledgment"

"How do you leave people?"