In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Adam Lucas, a screenwriter who specializes in adaptations, to explore the word imposter — not as a diagnosis, but as a question.

Why do so many of us feel like frauds in spaces we’ve earned the right to occupy? Whether pitching creative work to powerful decision-makers or stepping into parenthood for the first time, the doubt can feel immediate and disorienting.

Adam reflects on navigating high-stakes creative rooms while still questioning his legitimacy. He also speaks candidly about early parenthood — and the subtle pressure to feel joy instantly, even in the midst of uncertainty and adjustment.

But what if the doubt isn’t internal at all?

What if it’s environmental?

From pitch rooms to parenting, we examine how expectation, masculinity, and cultural conditioning shape our sense of legitimacy — and whether “imposter syndrome” is less about lacking skill and more about navigating other people’s egos, judgments, insecurities, and fears in spaces that quietly question our value.

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

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"Witness" is a continuation of "Reckoning"—but this time, the work moves from accounting to presence.

In this episode, I take you to Rwanda, a country forever shaped by the 1994 genocide against the Tutsi. Walking through memorials, listening to survivors’ stories, and sitting with the weight of what happened here demands a different kind of attention—one that cannot rush, explain away, or turn suffering into abstraction.

To witness history is not simply to learn it. It is to allow the truth of what happened to stand—without flinching, without turning away, and without placing distance between “then” and “now.”

As I try to navigate Rwanda's history with both care and honesty, I’m confronted with the ways I’ve avoided being a full witness to my own story—the parts I’ve minimized, softened, or left unnamed. This episode explores what it means to stay present with truth, even when it’s uncomfortable, and how bearing witness—collectively and personally—becomes an act of responsibility rather than observation.

This is not a travelogue.

It’s about the moment witnessing history makes avoiding your own impossible.

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I used to believe you could control what parts of yourself were allowed to change. That growth could be selective, strategic, and contained. For most of my life, I knew how to keep things separate and still succeed. But then it stopped working.

When you begin to explore yourself - your beliefs, your norms, what you inherited versus what you're choosing - eventually everything becomes fair game. There comes a moment when avoiding parts of yourself is no longer a viable way to live.

This is Part 1 of a two-part story - two episodes, two words - tracking what happens when the life you've carefully separated starts demanding to be integrated. The realization that compartmentalization isn't protection - it's postponement. Unfortunately, you rarely get the luxury of feeling "ready" before the walls come down.

Sometimes you have to cross borders - literally and figuratively - to learn it's time to settle the accounts within your own life. And in Part 2, a second word takes the story somewhere I didn't expect.

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

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What parts of yourself have you learned to keep quiet in order to belong?

Who is really allowed to speak freely in our workplaces and relationships?

How much of your life is shaped by what you DON’T say?

In this episode, I am joined by author, speaker, and organizational consultant Elaine Lin Hering to explore the word silence not as a lack of sound, but as a social force—one that shapes power, belonging, and whose voices are allowed to matter.

Elaine is the author of "Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully", a groundbreaking book that examines how silence is taught, rewarded, and enforced in families, workplaces, and culture—and how it often protects systems more than people. Together, we unpack how silence shows up in professional spaces, in relationships, and in our own inner lives, especially for those whose identities make speaking up more costly.

This conversation moves beyond encouragements to “just speak up,” and instead asks harder questions: Who is being asked to take the risk? Who is being heard? And what does it really take to create cultures where voice is safe, welcomed, and valued?

Show Notes & Resources

This episode includes references to Elaine’s writing as well as the work of other researchers. In the section below, you’ll find links to Elaine’s book "Unlearning Silence" and other resources discussed in the episode.

Articles Referenced:

• https://hbr.org/2024/06/how-to-get-your-team-to-actually-speak-up
• https://www.yourpowerunleashed.org/blog/2023/5/21/womens-use-of-low-power-language-at-work-is-not-diminishing-but-very-strategic
• Buy the book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/720975/unlearning-silence-by-elaine-lin-hering/
• Get free monthly tips on how to solve for silence: https://hello.elainelinhering.com/newsletter

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

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What do we mean when we talk about currency—and who gets to decide what holds value?

In this episode of "Can I Have a Word?", I explore how currency extends far beyond money. From desirability and youth, to social access and belonging, this conversation examines how value is assigned, circulated, and sometimes quietly withdrawn—especially within queer spaces and broader social systems.

This is the shorter audio version of the episode. If you’re interested in spending more time with these ideas, the full, expanded conversation—with additional reflection and context—is available on YouTube.

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

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Discipline is often understood as something rigid—tight control, strict routines, or the ability to push through discomfort at all costs. But that version of discipline doesn’t work for everyone, and it rarely lasts.

In this episode, we explore discipline as a practice rather than a test of toughness. When discipline is intentionally designed around your own standards, needs, and capacities, it becomes sustainable—and surprisingly freeing.

Clear intention creates focus. Focus creates momentum. And over time, that consistency can open a path toward purpose, rather than pulling you away from it. This episode reflects on how discipline, when grounded in alignment instead of rigidity, can help us move with clarity toward what actually matters.

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

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What does it mean to feel safe when the world keeps proving how quickly certainty can collapse? In this episode, I explore how our relationship to safety changes the moment violence feels close—geographically, emotionally, or personally. A recent mass shooting at the headquarters of my former employer forced me to confront how fragile the familiar can be, and how often we mistake comfort or institutional prestige for real protection.

Through personal reflection, I examine how safety shows up differently across identities, workplaces, and communities—and who is expected to stay composed even when danger is no longer hypothetical. This conversation sits inside the tension between fear and honesty, challenging the stories we cling to in order to feel secure.

Ultimately, I offer a reimagined definition:

Safe is more than protection—it’s the presence of trust that anchors us in uncertainty.

Production Team

Host/Creator - Carl James

Lead Engineer - Josh Wilcox

Editor - Walter Nordquist

Logo Design - Stephanie Cardenas

Music - Yennaedo Balloo

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In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and returning guest Ty McKinnie, a singer-songwriter whose honesty and introspection make every conversation feel grounded. Our word is "Becoming" — a lifelong unfolding, the continuous evolution toward your most authentic self, refined by experience but never complete.

Together, we explore what it really takes to grow:

- Letting go of who you were

- Navigating tension, doubt, and self-trust

- Allowing creativity to shape your identity

- Finding support through your evolution

- Treating "becoming" as both surrender and intentional practice

This is an honest conversation between friends — unfiltered, thoughtful, and rooted in the ongoing process of becoming ourselves.

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