In this Call Me Courage episode, Kena shares a personal journey of transformation through understanding keystone habits and the domino effect of courage. If you’ve ever struggled to maintain motivation or wondered how to create lasting change, this episode offers practical insights to reframe your approach and build momentum one courageous step at a time.

A single positive habit can trigger a domino effect of improvements in life, emphasizing the importance of starting small and focusing on one change at a time.

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page.

https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

KEY TOPICS

• Keystone habits and their impact
• The importance of starting with one habit
• How habits influence multiple areas of life
• Recognizing and changing negative keystone habits
• Building confidence through small wins

TAKEAWAYS

• Every keystone habit begins with one decision repeated daily.
• You don't become confident first; you start the habit and confidence grows.
• Finding your first domino is crucial for lasting change.
• Focus on one habit at a time to create a domino effect.
• Negative habits can also create a domino effect of decline.

TITLES

• The Power of One Habit: How to Trigger a Domino Effect in Your Life
• Start Small: The Secret to Lasting Change

SOUND BITES

• "Every keystone habit begins with one decision."
• "Start with the first domino, and confidence will follow."
• "Focus on one habit, and the rest will follow."

CHAPTERS

00:00 The Struggle with Motivation

00:52 My Weight Loss Journey

02:48 The Power of Keystone Habits

05:31 Finding Your First Domino

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RESOURCES

Lifestyle RX Program - https://lifestylerx.ca

Kena's Reflection on Habits -https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/post/the-power-of-one-how-a-single-habit-can-transform-your-life

Understanding Fawning: The Survival Response Behind People-Pleasing

You have heard of fight, flight or freeze response. What if I told you there is a fourth one? Well there is, fawning

Discover how what we often labeled as people-pleasing might actually be a complex trauma response called fawning. In this Call Me Courage Midweek Inspiration & Motivation episode, Kena explores the emotional roots, signs, and healing journey associated with this behavior, offering insights for anyone looking to reconnect with their true self.

• The difference between people-pleasing and fawning, and how it’s rooted in survival mechanisms
• The concept of fawning as a trauma response linked to complex PTSD, explained through Pete Walker’s insights
• How childhood experiences shape adult behaviors of codependency and constant caretaking
• Recognizing the signs of fawning in relationships: hyper-vigilance, emotional monitoring, loss of self-awareness
• The importance of understanding that fawning is not a flaw but a coping strategy
• Steps toward healing: setting boundaries, self-awareness, seeking support, and reconnecting with personal needs
• The role of therapy, support groups, and spiritual communities in the healing process
• How awareness can empower you to live more authentically and courageously

CHAPTERS

• (0:02) - Introduction: Are you a people pleaser? Fawning as a survival response
• (0:30) - Understanding fawning and complex PTSD
• (2:10) - The distinction between character flaws and trauma responses
• (3:36) - Reframing codependency: Trauma, not character defect
• (4:27) - Childhood conditions that lead to fawning behaviors
• (5:24) - The cycle of sacrifice and the illusion of love
• (5:54) - The hyper-vigilance of fawners and loss of safety
• (6:24) - Reflection on childhood needs and adult resilience
• (6:55) - The liberation of understanding your survival mechanisms
• (7:25) - The impact of unresolved pain on loved ones
• (7:53) - Steps toward healing: boundaries, self-worth, and support
• (8:04) - Practical tips for reclaiming your true self
• (8:53) - Resources for healing: therapy, community, spiritual practices

RESOURCES - Below are Amazon Canada Links, books can be found on other Amazon platforms in other countries.

• Fawning by Ingrid Clayton https://a.co/d/07X8D6U0
• CoDependent No More by Melody Beattie https://a.co/d/01nWrvjR
• Complex PTSD from Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker https://a.co/d/062UWsoP

Connect with Kena:

https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/contact-8

The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

#fawning #fawner #codependent #codependency #peoplepleaser #c-ptsd #trauma #traumaresonse #healing #clarity #confidence #courage #callmecourage #callmecouragepodcast

In this episode of the Call Me Courage Podcast, Sandra and Kena explore how to shift from shame and inadequacy to power and self-trust. They discuss practical methods like the VALID framework, the importance of self-awareness, and healing old wounds to reconnect with the true self.

The conversation delves into the understanding of inadequacy and shame, emphasizing the importance of recognizing inadequacy as a signal, not a truth.

Sandra shares the three words she says when connecting to her true self, truth, peace and power”

• Bring me truth
• Bring me peace
• Bring me power

Sandra references the Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin D. Banyan 1-2-3 Steps

1. Identify / name the feeling.
2. Identify the cause of the feeling (unfilled need, want or desire).
3. Identify a satisfying response - that is an action that fulfills the need, want or desire.

Please Note - The opinions shared on this podcast are solely those of the hosts, Sandra and Kena. If you are in crisis or feel you may be in danger, please seek professional help. Additional support resources can be found on the Call Me Courage blog page. https://www.callmecouragepodcast.com/blog

SANDRA’S KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy is a signal, not a truth — and shame grows when we mistake the feeling for our identity.
• Avoidance is protection, not failure — it shows us where something deeper needs care.
• The VALID method and Banyan’s 123 process help us separate past from present and find a satisfying, grounded response.
• Reconnecting with our True Self — through intention and not taking things personally — is the antidote to self betrayal.

KEYWORDS: self-awareness, shame, inadequacy, healing, VALID method, self-trust, emotional intelligence, personal growth

KEY TOPICS

• The VALID method for emotional healing
• The role of shame and inadequacy in self-betrayal
• How to reconnect with your true self
• Using feelings as signals for growth
• Separating past wounds from present triggers

TAKEAWAYS

• Inadequacy is a signal, not a fact.
• Naming feelings validates our true selves.
• Healing involves separating past beliefs from present reality.
• The VALID method guides from feeling to empowerment.
• Patience and self-compassion are crucial in growth.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Healing from Shame

04:19 The Valid Method: Naming Feelings

07:09 Identifying the Cause of Inadequacy

10:18 Shifting from Inadequacy to Empowerment

13:26 The Process of Learning and Growth

16:14 Reconnecting with the True Self

18:59 Inadequacy as a Signal for Growth

21:59 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

26:23 NEWCHAPTER_2

RESOURCES

The Secret Language of Feelings by Calvin Banyan - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VJX7V7X

VALID Method Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsLGuM1jZqA

#Shame #Betrayal #Inadequacy #feelthefeeling #namethefeeling #namefeeling #truth #peace #power #innerself #VALID #clarity #confidence #courage #callmecouragepodcast #callmecourage