Self-sabotage is often a misnomer for avoidance of uncomfortable topics, don't you think? Nicoa argues that many people claim to self-sabotage as a rationalization for not addressing important issues, such as financial management or personal health. Of course she speaks from experience and emphasizes that avoidance is common and usually rooted in past experiences yet to be understood. Ready to identify what you are avoiding? Understand why? Take proactive steps towards your goals? Journaling and setting specific actions to overcome these avoidances will be KEY to a LIFE BY DESIGN.

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Nicoa has the pure delight of interviewing the daughter of our very first Coffee With Nicoa guest Caroline Keeler S1 Ep2 - the delightful Devon Keeler! They discuss Devon's life by design, including her upbringing in Michigan and the US Virgin Islands, her career shift from biology to clinical research and her all around personal growth journey. Devon emphasizes the importance of balancing intuition and logic, especially after her aunt's passing, which influenced her career choice in oncology. She reflects on the significance of self-worth, finding joy, and the value of being open to new experiences. This conversation captures the importance of aligning actions with personal values and the power of self-reflection in shaping one's authentic LIFE BY DESIGN!

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PEACE over PAIN? Well, coaching helps! How? As a complement or alternative to therapy, emphasizing its future-focused approach. Using the analogy of a snake bite, Nicoa highlights the importance of healing rather than obsessing over the cause of pain. Nicoa encourages self-coaching practices, such as journaling, YOU CAN DO THIS YOURSELF! Creating a LIFE BY DESIGN you have to identify and release past grudges, embrace YOUR joy, love, and satisfaction. There's power in rationalizing past events to move forward positively, promoting forgiveness for personal well-being and to create A LIFE BY DESIGN YOU WILL LOVE!

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Nicoa interviews the amazing JADE BEALL, a mother, self-love coach, and world-renowned photographer known for her truthful images of women. Jade's work, including her books "The Bodies of Mothers" and "The Crone Body," has garnered global attention and inspired millions. She discusses her journey from body dysmorphia to truly embracing her beautiful body, her experiences with s*xual abuse, and her powerful healing process. Jade emphasizes the importance of self-love, forgiveness, and creating a safe space for vulnerability. She also shares her recent life changes, including selling her house and simplifying her life to focus on her art and family. Nicoa is a BIG FAN and can't wait for you to be inspired by Jade for your own LIFE BY DESIGN!

You can find Jade on her website and instagram !

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Guess who is BAACCKK ?! Trisha Bowker from Season 1 EP21 - Nicoa does a check in with her former client and reflect on so many changes that have unfolded! Listen in to her journey of some significant life changes and career shifts all in line with her LIFE BY DESIGN. If you'll recall Trisha was about to make a major career shift - what happened? Trisha emphasizes the importance of self-care, therapy, and learning to accept help along the way in her life of decisions and life's curve balls including the impact of her mother's breast cancer diagnosis. A down to earth realistic LIFE BY DESIGN we can all likely relate to!

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Nicoa introduces the "doorway effect," a method she learned from Michael Phelps to combat anxiety by replacing negative thoughts with positive affirmations as you transition between rooms, leveraging the brain's practice of dumping short-term memory. Nicoa also shares a personal practice of using mirror work (see LOUISE HAY's work) to boost self-esteem, recounting a client's experience as well as her own habit of affirming her body in the mirror, which significantly improved her body image. She encourages viewers to explore these techniques further, referencing resources like Louise Hay's books on mirror work and self-love.

MORE INFO :
The doorway effect is a psychological phenomenon that causes short-term memory loss when moving from one location to another, especially through a doorway. It's also known as the "location updating effect".

Here are some examples of the doorway effect:

• Running upstairs to get your keys, but forgetting what you're looking for when you reach the bedroom
• Opening the fridge door and reaching for the middle shelf, but forgetting why you opened the fridge

The doorway effect occurs when our attention shifts between levels. When we move to a new room and think about different things, our brain forgets our goals.

The doorway effect was first observed in a 2011 study by researchers at the University of Notre Dame. In the study, participants walked through a doorway into a new room and then took a quiz about an object in their backpack. Their responses were slower and less accurate after walking through the doorway.

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You never know who you're gonna meet when you volunteer at WILMINGTON COFFEE FEST! Nicoa overheard Travis Pomerleau, a former electrical engineer, who transitioned to running a coffee roasting business after being laid off during COVID-19 talking about his LIFE BY DESIGN and knew she'd found her next podcast guest! He shares his journey emphasizing the importance of taking calculated risks, maintaining financial stability, and leveraging his senses as a guide - critical in the coffee roasting process. They discuss the emotional and practical challenges of transitioning from a stable corporate job to entrepreneurship! What works? Self-awareness, therapy, and community support being key to navigating his life change. Listen in to get inspired to embrace the adventure and seek personal growth through intentional actions. LIFE BY DESIGN!

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Nicoa bonds with one of her happiest new friends, Summer Lambert, a renowned photographer and storyteller in Wilmington, NC. They chat about Summer's life by design and chuckle over her obsession with traffic cones and the Olympics. Summer shares her journey from a young girl with a passion for photography to a professional who engagingly captures beautiful life stories for her clients. From her time at Nicoa's engagement party, to traveling to Ghana, as well as the impact of her brother-in-law's passing, Summer's life lessons emphasize the importance of community, faith, family, self-care, and finding joy in everyday moments.

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