If someone audited your life right now — not your intentions… not your potential… not your plans…

…but your actual habits…

Would you pass?

If I pulled your bank statement… your screen-time report… your calendar… your step count… your last 90 days of decisions…

Would it reflect the person you say you’re becoming?

Or the person you’ve been drifting into?

Because here’s the truth:

Most people don’t fail dramatically.

They fade quietly.

They don’t collapse.

They coast.

And coasting feels safe — until you look up five years later and realize nothing changed.

Today is not a motivational episode.

What is the one goal you’ve quietly given up on?

Not the one you talk about. Not the one you post about. The one you used to believe was possible.

The weight you were going to lose. The business you were going to start. The discipline you were going to build. The version of yourself you were going to become.

What happened?

You didn’t fail because you’re incapable.

You failed because hard things expose us.

They expose our lack of structure. They expose our emotional swings. They expose the gap between who we say we are and what we actually do.

And most people… They don’t quit because the goal is impossible.

They quit because the process is uncomfortable.

But here’s the truth:

Comfort has never built anything worth having.

Strength is built. Discipline is built. Confidence is built. Character is built.

And today we are going to talk about how to accomplish hard things — not by wishing, not by hyping yourself up, but by building a system that forces growth.

Because you don’t rise to your wishes.

You fall to your structure.

And if you build the right structure — you will win.

One of the themes that kept surfacing in John’s interview was reality—honest evaluations based on current conditions. Not wishful thinking. Not nostalgia. Just the truth of where you are and what’s in front of you. That idea connects directly to the previous episode with Paul, the VP of Operations, when we talked about leaders who finally “get it.” John talked about the same moment—but from the classroom—when students suddenly get it. That spark. That clarity. That alignment.

We’ll also dig into something John modeled so well: understanding your passion—your true north, your compass, whatever you want to call it—and committing to it early. We’ll talk about wealth, too, and why it’s so often misunderstood. Because if John’s life teaches us anything, it’s that real wealth has very little to do with money.

That conversation with a Vice President of Operations wasn’t just about where he ended up—it was about how he got there. And today, we’re going to slow that down.

In this episode, I’m replaying some of the highlights from that interview—moments worth sitting with a little longer. Moments that show how most of us start in roughly the same place, with only slight differences in circumstance, opportunity, or timing… and yet we grow into very different roles.

We’ll talk about what separates people who drift from people who build. About the quiet desire successful people seem to have to control their own destiny as much as possible. And about the habit of recalibrating—checking their mindset, adjusting course, and making sure they’re still becoming who they intended to become.

Every once in a while, you meet someone whose work quietly shapes a community for decades. Someone who doesn’t chase the spotlight, but whose impact is felt in the lives of hundreds — maybe thousands — of young people. Today, we get to sit down with one of those people.

My guest is John Elkins, a history teacher who is wrapping up an incredible thirty‑year career. This is his final year in the classroom before retirement, and I wanted to capture his wisdom while the chalk dust is still fresh on his sleeves.

We’re going to talk about what’s changed in education, what hasn’t, the moments that shaped him, the lessons he hopes his students carry into adulthood, and what it really means to build a career — not wish for one.

Whether you’re a teacher, a parent, a student, or just someone who cares about legacy, this conversation is full of insight.

“Most people see success from the outside. They see the title. The office. The authority. What they don’t see is the work.”

Welcome to Built Not Wished. This podcast is about how real lives are constructed— not imagined, not manifested, not wished into existence— but built through effort, discipline, mistakes, and time.

Today’s guest holds the title Vice President of Operations. But that’s not what this conversation is about. We’re not here for executive jargon or polished soundbites. We’re here for the road— the early jobs, the awkward seasons, the lessons that only show up when you’re tired and unsure but keep showing up anyway.

This is a conversation about becoming.

If you listened to the inaugural episode, you already know what this podcast stands for: competence over hype, discipline over dopamine, and reality over motivational posters.

Today we’re talking about goal setting — but not the Instagram version.

We’re talking about real goals. Goals grounded in data. Goals grounded in your actual current condition. Goals that move your life forward instead of stroking your ego.

This is a podcast about building a life that actually works— not the kind that looks impressive online, but the kind that holds up under pressure… on a bad day… in a hard season… when nobody’s watching.