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  • Navigating Politics and Sibling Estrangement
    Feb 20 2026

    With either the holidays or family gatherings, it's important to anticipate contentious political discussions and to consider how you will handle them when they arise. These discussions often evoke feelings of hurt, defensiveness, abandonment, and isolation – exacerbating distance and even estrangement between siblings and family members. In today’s episode, we discuss why politics drives a wedge in relationships, and what we can do to avoid deepening the divide? How can we create warm, loving interactions with family members who don't share our views?

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

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    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    19 min
  • The Risks of Family Texting and Estrangement
    Feb 20 2026

    Family text and chat threads can be a way for members to experience closeness, but these exchanges also can introduce distressing, hurtful elements into relationships. Texting is a limited form of communication, as participants can’t hear the tone of a comment or read a facial expression. That can lead to many misinterpretations. Sometimes, the exchanges can escalate into bullying, ultimately resulting in alienation and estrangement. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of family texting and how we can best protect ourselves when things become toxic.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    20 min
  • Smearing and Sibling Estrangement
    Feb 20 2026

    Smearing, an intentional, premeditated effort to tarnish or undermine an individual's reputation, credibility, or character, often emerges in estrangement. This manipulative tactic is a kind of power grab; the perpetrator discredits the target while gaining more credibility, acceptance and approval from parents, siblings, or others. Smearing can alter the family narrative, and the target often feels overwhelmed and helpless. In this important episode, we look at smearing tactics and how to respond to them.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    23 min
  • Comparing Sibling and Parental Estrangement
    Feb 20 2026

    Our podcast has focused on sibling estrangement; however, parental alienation also is on the rise. In general, the reasons for estrangement are emotional abuse, mismatched expectations about roles, personality or value clashes, neglect, or traumatic history. But we rely on parents for basic emotional needs while siblings play a supporting role, and the power dynamics in these relationships are distinct. How are these two painful experiences of estrangement similar and different? In this episode, we explore how each of us must negotiate on our own how to maintain a place in the family and, at the same time, separate, differentiate, and individuate from parents and siblings.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    20 min
  • The Confusing Aftershocks of Sibling Estrangement
    Feb 20 2026

    Estrangement causes profound grief. That pain is even worse when the shunned sibling has no idea why the relationship ended. Not knowing the reasons for the cutoff can be its own form of torture and rumination. A cut off may feel personal, though it may not be personal. Some cut off because they feel jealous or competitive. Others are hiding something shameful. This episode explains what causes these breakdowns in communication, how it affects us, and what we can do about it.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    21 min
  • Belonging and Excommunication with Sibling Estrangement
    Feb 7 2026

    How to cope with ex-communication in the family? In some families, a few members may hijack the narrative and impose their own perceptions on others through distortions and lies. A skewed narrative may lead to cutting off those who don’t conform to the family identity. This is a devastating outcome, as humans have a fundamental need to belong. Sibling relationships are particularly vulnerable and competitive, as differences in lifestyles, incomes, and personal beliefs can disturb relationships. When a family member is banished, the shunned and the shunner may be flooded with feelings of shame and guilt. This episode explores ways to cope with excommunication in the family and how to find a place to belong.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    20 min
  • Estrangement: Why It Happens
    Feb 7 2026

    Now, more than ever, people are opening up about their painful family relationships and how these tenuous connections have led to estrangements. Why are relationships so much more fragile now compared to other times in history? Several new social trends are contributing to fragmented family relationships. A disposable culture, the changing nature of the family, and a rise in individualism are some of the factors that have produced fertile ground for estrangement. In this insightful episode, we explore the many reasons behind the trend.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    19 min
  • Emotional Detachment, Numbness, and Sibling Estrangement
    Feb 7 2026

    Emotional detachment and numbness -- when a person dials down feelings and is unable or unwilling to engage with others to avoid feeling pain -- is often experienced in sibling relationships.We may share our deepest emotions with a brother or sister, but he or she doesn't necessarily receive or respond to our vulnerability, leaving us feeling empty and disappointed. Those who are numb struggle to sustain intimate relationships. This episode explores why people are numb, how this affects individuals and relationships, and how to accept or alter this pattern of interaction to achieve more fulfilling connections.

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    For informative articles on sibling estrangement, please visit http://www.siblingestrangement.com/blog

    I also host a Sibling Estrangement Support Group on Zoom: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    For more info on my workshops on rumination and navigating the stages of grief with sibling estrangement, please visit: https://siblingestrangement.com/groups/

    Ali-John is starting up the Wellness Rewards Club in January 2026! This will be a chance to be part of a club, through a YouTube membership, where you get some premium strategies for managing sibling estrangement.

    Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@SiblingEstrangement

    To buy Fern's book on Sibling Estrangement: https://www.lakeforestbookstore.com/book/9780525561699

    Link to the workbook Sibling Estrangement Journal on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank

    To connect with Author Fern Schumer Chapman, please visit her website at: https://www.fernschumerchapman.com

    Or visit her Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/FernSchumerChapmanAuthorPage

    You can read Fern's Sibling Estrangement articles on Psychology Today here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/fern-schumer-chapman

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    21 min