Why is everyone suddenly dressing like they ride? From "equestrian-core" to "country luxe," the horsey aesthetic is galloping through fashion — but what does it really say? In this episode, Kiki Astor, fresh from a research trip at her hunting lodge in Virginia's horse country, getting ready to release her upcoming dark old money gothic equestrian romance Scarlet Fever, explores why the equestrian look is the ultimate old money uniform: disciplined, neutral, and quietly expensive.

We'll talk about Ralph Lauren's lifelong love affair with the hunt, the five essential garments that define authentic equestrian chic (and how not to look like you're wearing a costume), and the etiquette of foxhunting — from who may wear scarlet to what never to say about someone's horse.

It's a masterclass in tweed, tack, and taste — because true equestrian style isn't about showing off; it's about knowing the rules.

As daylight wanes and autumn deepens, the first week of November offers unique opportunities—and subtle challenges—for anyone who cherishes etiquette, aesthetics, and intentional living. In this episode of Awkward Etiquette: Old Money and New Manners with Kiki Astor, Kiki reveals how to navigate early November with elegance, balance, and old-money flair.

What you'll learn in this episode:

1. Daylight Savings Time Etiquette:
Adjust your daily routines gracefully, pour drinks earlier, and embrace the cozy rhythms of the season—without sacrificing sophistication. Learn how small timing changes can elevate your lifestyle and keep you effortlessly on top of social expectations.

2. Selective Hospitality:
Discover the art of hosting with intention. From gracefully declining invitations to offering one-on-one refuge instead of trying to please everyone, Kiki shares how to cancel plans politely, truthfully, and with elegant alternatives—because refined social navigation is always in style.

3. Autumnal Home Rituals:
Bring seasonal charm to your home with old-money-approved practices: polishing silver, waxing floors, stocking quality candles, and rotating throws and portières. These subtle touches honor the season, elevate your home's gravitas, and add understated sophistication to everyday life.

4. Sensory Living:
Cultivate warmth and romance by focusing on sound, scent, and texture—from cedar-scented storage to the Calandre glow of ambient lighting. Kiki explains how attentive, sensory-focused living can transform a simple space into a haven of comfort and style.

5. Wardrobe of Withdrawal:
Learn to embrace seasonal fabrics like velvet and linen, revive the hostess dress for intimate gatherings, and indulge in self-care without falling into sloth. November is the perfect time to make quiet elegance and comfort your wardrobe mantra.

6. Intentional Connection:
Reconnect with old friends and family thoughtfully. Create opportunities for others to contribute, and enjoy low-pressure, intimate evenings—like a chic aperitivo—where conversation and connection take precedence over performative socializing.

No…vember is the month when introversion is chic, minimalism is luxurious, and balance—between solitude and connection, leisure and responsibility—is essential. Join Kiki Astor as she guides you through the subtle arts of selective hosting, seasonal refinement, and the timeless pleasures our ancestors once celebrated.