Thom’s Nutshell Wisdom:

“Practice conversations to convey rather than convince.”

Healthy Conversation is “present-centered.” In a healthy conversation, we don’t need to know exactly what we’re trying to convey. With defenses down, we learn more. How much “we,” and how much “I” can we include in any relationship? How can we get on the same side of the problem?

Anxiety is at the root of why we do this. We feel threatened so we feel a compulsion to manipulate someone into our point of view. The first step of dismantling this is awareness that its happening. Then we “befriend our experience,” which we derive from the work of Nathaniel Branden.

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• (00:03:54) - John Ammodeo on Self-Acceptance
• (00:08:17) - Talking to Your Partner
• (00:12:03) - Getting On the Same Side of the Problem
• (00:18:20) - The Importance of Negotiation in a Mixed Relationship
• (00:21:10) - Tom Petty on His Relationship With Deedee
• (00:24:13) - I Had A Complaint About My AA Friend