Today’s episode explores one of the most tender, and often misunderstood, parts of dementia care: denial. Kelly will talk about why denial shows up, why it isn’t always stubbornness, and how fear, identity, and self-protection play a role. She'll also offer ways to start compassionate conversations, how to respond when others don’t see the problem, and what to do when denial becomes unsafe — without damaging trust or dignity. If you’ve ever heard the words, “I’m fine, nothing is wrong,” and felt stuck between worry and love… this episode is for you.

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RESOURCES:

https://www.everydayhealth.com/alzheimers-disease/how-talk-loved-about-signs-alzheimers-disease/

https://www.askelbi.com/post/when-your-parent-is-in-denial-about-dementia-how-to-navigate-this-difficult-conversation-with-compassion

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As this year comes to a close, I just want to take a moment to thank you for being here. Whether you’re listening while driving, folding laundry, sitting quietly after a long day, or taking a much-needed pause—you matter, and I’m really glad you found your way to this space.

The holidays can bring warmth and connection, but they can also bring grief, stress, complicated family dynamics, and reminders of how much has changed when memory loss is part of your life. If this season feels heavy for you, please know—you’re not doing it wrong. You’re responding to something hard with love, and that takes courage.

My hope is that, wherever you are right now, you can offer yourself a little grace. Connection doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. Presence doesn’t have to look the way it used to. And love doesn’t disappear just because things are different.

Thank you for trusting me with your time, your stories, and your hearts this year. It’s truly a privilege to walk alongside you in this journey.

From my heart to yours, I’m wishing you moments of peace, comfort, and gentle connection this holiday season. And always—remember, no one should walk this journey alone.

-Kelly

The holidays bring joy, memories, and for long-distance caregivers, a mix of love and guilt. In this episode of A Balancing Act, Kelly offers loving, practical ways to stay connected with your loved one living with dementia, even from miles away. Learn how to make every call and visit more meaningful, how to support the caregiver at home, and how to find help for yourself when it’s time to hang up the phone, or travel back to your home. Because caregiving doesn’t stop when there is distance between you-it just changes shape.

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RESOURCES:

https://magazine.medlineplus.gov/article/helping-from-miles-away-strategies-for-long-distance-caregiving

https://www.caregiveraction.org/i-dont-live-my-family-im-caregiver/#:~:text=Several%20tools%20and%20resources%20can%20aid%20in,advice%20from%20other%20caregivers%20facing%20similar%20challenges.

https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/care-options/long-distance-caregiving

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Thanksgiving is here, and while the holidays can be full of joy and tradition, they can also be challenging when someone you love is living with memory loss and dementia, In this episode, Kelly explores how to adjust expectations with compassion, how to support your loved one at their level of ability, and how to protect connection over perfection. Whether you’re hosting a big family meal or calling from a distance, these ideas can help bring more peace and less overwhelm to the day.

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Resources:

https://nhdementiatraining.org/2021/12/20/tips-for-spending-holidays-with-those-with-dementia/

https://alzheimer.ca/en/help-support/i-have-friend-or-family-member-who-lives-dementia/holidays-special-occasions

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In this episode, we talk about what happens when a loved one begins losing their sense of time — mixing up days, seasons, appointments, or believing events are happening “right now” when they aren’t. These time slips can be confusing and emotional for everyone involved. We’ll explore why the brain struggles to track time in dementia and share gentle ways to respond, reduce stress, and stay connected when time doesn’t feel steady anymore.

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RESOURCES:

https://cicoa.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Memory-Aids_Dementia.pdf

https://www.homecare.co.uk/advice/time-perception-and-dementia

https://alzheimer.ca/en/help-support/im-caring-person-living-dementia/providing-day-day-care/setting-routines-reminders

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Taking away the car keys is one of the hardest moments in dementia care. It’s not just about safety. It’s about love, dignity, and protection. In this week’s episode, Kelly will guide you through the signs it’s time, how to talk about it, what to do if your loved one refuses, and how to plan for what comes next, all while helping your loved one feel supported, not punished.

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RESOURCES:

https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/safety/dementia-driving

https://thecaregiversjourney.org/sometimes-its-easy-sometimes-its-hard-practical-tips-for-removing-driving-privileges-from-our-loved-ones-with-alzheimers-or-other-dementias/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/driving-and-dementia-take-away-the-keys

Driving Assessment Resources:

• American Occupational Therapy Association (AOTA)

aota.org/driver-safety

•A l z h e i m e r ' s A s s o c i a t i o n

Guidance on dementia & driving, 24/7 Helpline:

alz.org | 1-800-272-3900

• AAA Senior Driving Self-assessment tools & local programs:

seniordriving.aaa.com

• AARP Driver Safety Program Courses & resources for older adults:

aarp.org/auto/driver-safety/

• S t a t e DMV

Many offer senior testing or referrals. Check your state's DMV website.

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Many families delay a dementia diagnosis because they’re afraid of what it means—losing independence, disrupting family life, or facing an uncertain future. But silence only makes the journey harder. In this episode, Kelly explores where stigma comes from, why it keeps people from seeking help, and how we can begin to change the conversation. You’ll hear stories of fear, resilience, and community, and learn ways to break the silence so no one has to walk this journey alone.

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RESOURCES:

https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/medical/diagnosis-after-early-signs-of-dementia/

https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/diagnosis/why-get-checked

https://hub.jhu.edu/2016/06/02/risks-of-not-diagnosing-dementia/

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One of the hardest challenges in caregiving is when a loved one with dementia refuses help. You see the risks — missed meals, cluttered spaces, unpaid bills — but every offer is met with “I don’t need help” or “I can do it myself.” It’s frustrating, even heartbreaking. In this episode, Kelly unpacks the reasons behind refusals — from changes in the brain to pride and fear — and explore the most common areas of conflict. Most importantly, you’ll learn practical strategies to shift your approach so that you can reduce conflict, preserve dignity, and find those small but powerful wins in your caregiving journey.

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RESOURCES:

https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/blog/how-offer-help-someone-dementia-who-doesnt-want-it#:~:text=For%20some%20people%2C%20they%20may,having%20a%20diagnosis%20of%20dementia.

https://www.bridgesbyepoch.com/2025/03/10/resistance-and-refusals-in-a-loved-one/#:~:text=Pride%20and%20dignity:%20Early%20dementia,play%20a%20role%20in%20resistance.

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