You’re speaking their love language.So why isn't it working?

If you’ve read the books, taken the quizzes, and tried to love your partner or child “the right way” - but something still feels off - this episode is for you.

In this thought-provoking conversation, we take a deeper look at one of the most popular relationship frameworks in pop psychology - The 5 Love Languages - and explore why speaking your partner’s or child’s love language might not be enough to create real emotional security.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner and love language quizzes everywhere, it’s the perfect time to ask a harder question: What actually makes love feel safe?

We’re diving into the powerful difference between love languages and attachment theory, especially in parenting and long-term relationships. You’ll learn why you can “get the behaviors right” - acts of service, physical touch, quality time, gifts, words of affirmation - and still feel disconnected. Because while love languages focus on what we do, attachment shapes how safe we feel.

In this episode, we explore:

• The hidden limits of the 5 Love Languages framework

• How attachment styles impact marriage and parenting

• Why emotional safety matters more than grand gestures

• The role of nervous system regulation in secure relationships

• How unresolved childhood patterns shape how we give and receive love

• What kids are really learning about love by watching your relationship

• Three practical anchors that build secure attachment at home

If you’re interested in attachment parenting, emotionally healthy relationships, nervous system regulation, breaking generational patterns, or building deeper connection in marriage, this conversation will challenge and encourage you.

Because secure attachment isn’t built in the highlight reel.
It’s built in the hard moments - through responsiveness, repair, and regulation.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing “all the right things” but something still feels off, this episode will help you understand why — and what actually grows roots that last.

🎙️ Let’s go deeper than love languages.

♥ Your Parent Coach, Brittney

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