What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter?

In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly men disengaged from conversations about abuse.

Together, the discussion explores how abuse escalates from subtle control to coercion and violence when harmful behaviors go unchallenged. Anthony offers practical, realistic ways men can interrupt that cycle—without grandstanding—by setting boundaries, shutting down objectifying language, checking in when something feels off, and choosing empathy over silence.

The episode also highlights WINGS, a Chicago-area organization providing safe housing for survivors, children, and pets, along with education on domestic violence, strangulation, and traumatic brain injuries. Anthony explains why memory gaps in survivors may reflect injury rather than inconsistency—and why this understanding is critical for law enforcement, prosecutors, and healthcare providers.

If you’ve ever wondered how to help someone experiencing abuse, this episode offers a grounded framework: be safe, be clear, be steady. You don’t need to be a survivor to stand with survivors—and you don’t need a platform to make a difference.

Anthony’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/anthony-pasquini/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61584143305857

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthony-pasquini-1a7924238/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe