Why do we keep doing things we know don’t work?

Why do we stay too long, shut down, numb out, people-please, self-sabotage—sometimes even when we can see it coming?

In this episode of Unpacking The Mind, we talk about patterns—the deep, automatic ones that shape our relationships, our self-talk, and our choices.

Not as personal failures.
Not as proof that something is wrong with you.
But as survival strategies you learned early on—often without realizing it.

We explore why awareness can feel so uncomfortable, why “knowing better” doesn’t instantly lead to change, and why asking “What did this help me survive?” can be more powerful than asking “What’s wrong with me?”

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding yourself—with honesty, curiosity, and compassion.

Because you’re not broken.
You’re repeating something that once kept you safe.

Why do we keep asking ourselves “Why am I like this?”

In this first episode of Unpacking The Mind, we talk about the quiet discomfort of not fully understanding ourselves — the gap between what we feel, what we do, and who we think we are.

We explore why humans crave explanations for their inner lives, how psychology can offer language and frameworks without turning us into experts, and why recognizing patterns in ourselves can bring relief even before anything changes.

This isn’t about diagnosing or fixing yourself. It’s about curiosity. About making sense of the messy space between thoughts, feelings, and behavior — and realizing that you’re not alone in the confusion.

If you’ve ever been surprised by your own reactions, stuck in patterns you don’t fully understand, or searching for meaning in your inner life, this episode is a place to start.