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    One basic need all children have, educator Alfie Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful and largely unknown research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.

    More than just another book about discipline, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people.

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    Great book for parents or anyone who handles/care for children. Very thought provoking. excellent structure and narration.

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    • Heather
    • 18/08/2016

    Best parenting book I've read!

    Funny, practical, filled with anecdotes and puns between research and a lot of reality checks. It just makes scary sense. I wish the whole world could get this as a required course for having kids and getting into a relationship. The world would be a better place. No scripts for when child said A you say B, but an entire paradigm shift about what you really want your child to become and whether your immediate B will even get you there. This is a total wakeup call, even if you think you're on the right track. We parents can always learn a little more and do a little better so our kids end up stronger, more empathetic as well as independent and healthy.

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    • Katie
    • 20/06/2019

    Liberating!

    I won't sugar coat it, this book will feel like a punch in the gut at first. I have been gentle/positive parenting for a number of years and when I first started reading this it felt like a nasty blow that some of my more gentle approaches were still part of the problem in our family. My son has OCD and anxiety. I stuck with it, listening to Alfie's suggestions. As I have been applying these practices in my own life and with my children my son's OCD symptoms have dropped dramatically! I feel like I have my son back. We laughed together for the past week without any anxious meltdowns and minimal ocd rituals. I highly recommend listening to this book along with 'Non-Violent Communication'. I feel empowered as a parent and love that I get empower my children and witness them growing and flourishing. One day they will be parents and will get to be even better with their children.

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    • Ty and Alex
    • 05/05/2018

    A different, more effective lens for parenting

    A wonderful change of perspective on how the traditional "common sense" approach to parenting is probably causing just as many problems as it solves.

    As a father of 4 kids under age 7, Unconditional Parenting caused some uncomfortable moments of reflection. However, the overall message is optimistic and positive, and the changes in approach are easy to practice. I enthusiastically recommend this to parents of children at any age, but the earlier the better.

    My only critique of the book has to do with structure, not substance. The book spends a great deal of time reviewing how common parenting practices are ineffective in creating the long-term characteristics we want in our kids (kindness, empathy, patience, persistence, Independence, etc.). The chapters are well written and well argued, but the reader must make it through half of the book being told how and why the way we parent is well intended but probably wrong before the positive approaches recommended by the author are explained in detail. As a reader/listener, this made it difficult to persevere as I questioned my self image as a good father, and I did leave the book unfinished for a long period before returning to it and finishing. The benefits of finishing are worth it, but it seems that balancing discussion of why common practices do not work with explaination of the recommended alternative practices within each chapter would, at least for me, have helped to keep me engaged and encouraged.

    Great book that should be required reading for any new parent

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    • nycgirl
    • 22/11/2016

    Pretty solid stuff here

    I enjoyed it. I already had an idea as to what works for my 7 year old, but this confirms it even more. Writer isn't boring with his voice and really gives you some Ah Ha moments. Love that.

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    • amberdallas33
    • 10/03/2018

    He doesn’t think much of parents

    I wanted to like this book. Kohn seems to love and respect children and makes some interesting points about the dangers of dominating your child. He doesn’t seem to have the same respect for parents, however, who love and KNOW their own children. He makes a lot of good observations about the failings of modern discipline and I kept waiting to hear some ideas that would work. Instead I heard him insult religion in an arrogant and incredibly ignorant way, and draw conclusions out of thin air. He uses a mocking tone when voicing parents’ concerns and (although I admit I didn’t quite make it to the end) seems to think you can work everything out with your child simply by talking through it and saying yes as much as possible. His methods might work for some, but they certainly won’t work for all, and while I am as soft and loving a mama as it gets, I will not be treating my children as my equal any time soon. They need me and my husband to use our own wisdom drawn from experience to set boundaries and guide them into adulthood. I trust us a lot more than Alfie Kohn does.

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    • Csos
    • 06/10/2016

    Amazing book!

    I have read tons of parenting books and this is the only one that really seems to have the best interest of the child in mind. I am more of an authoritarian parent and it has really opened up my eyes on how punishments and rewards are perceived by my children. This book has finally explained to me in a way that I can understand why not every wrong doing should have a consequence. My children are happier and so am I.

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    • Scott
    • 12/03/2021

    An ironic mocking tone

    The most ironic thing about this book is the author’s continual use of a mocking and belittling tone when he is mimicking bad parenting practice. Many of the phrases I have used in my parenting, so I can’t help but listen to his sarcasm and feel he is judging me, or believes I am inferior to him as a parent.

    The concepts are solid. The delivery would be a lot better received if the reader could feel unconditional positive regard from the author.

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    • Sandeep S.
    • 20/06/2020

    The best book on parenting I've read

    As a mental health professional, you'd think that I would already know much of the information in this book. but this book for me was groundbreaking. While I have had a considerable amount of training on behavioral strategies and a lot of information found in many popular parenting books, this approach to parenting is refreshing and at the same time makes so much sense - as a human being wanting, to take care of, teach, coach, guide, and relate to my kids in a respectful manner. I can't say enough good things about this book. Definitely worth a read.

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    • vitalii
    • 16/11/2019

    Thought-provoking book

    Very interesting approach, many things to think about and maybe even use. The most important to me that author tries to use data and common sense to support his opinion.

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    • Allison E
    • 30/09/2019

    Very Inspiring and Thought Provoking

    Lots of details and research listed on WHY you should be an unconditional loving parent. Also explaing the theory behind it and how it is a better alternitive than traditional or authoratative methods. Stating the Why's very clearly on how Gentle parenting is misunderstood and misrepresented. Gives different examples and guidelines toward the end of the book. Very Montessori & RIE aligned IMO.

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    • Regula
    • 15/02/2020

    interesting and gives you a new way of thinking

    well explained, well spoken. brings new way of thinking to parenting, explained with research. Information density is high, difficult to listen to it on the side.

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    • Amazon Kunde
    • 19/08/2021

    Best book on parenting I came across

    Comprehensive, logical, yet warm-hearted and positive. I wish this book and the concept of unconditional parenting was known to every parent on the planet <3
    I just finished it but will restart listening to it immediately to take notes this time.
    Extremely valuable and of great importance. It has shown me where I can improve and become better as a mum but also as a person. Thank you Alfie Kohn!

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    • John Doe
    • 25/04/2021

    Good, interesting, informative and well researched

    Very interesting read, well researched and very well argued, this has opened my eyes to a new world of parenting. Thank you.

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    • Christian Stegle
    • 07/04/2021

    Perfekt

    Perfekt für meine Kindererziehung zum Einbringen und Verstehen was in Kindern vorgeht falls sie mal anders reagieren als man selbst gerade nachvollziehen kann.

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    • Rosemarie Juilfs
    • 24/02/2020

    such a great title.. + it's making so much sense

    I love that he reads h8s book himself, he's bringing in his passion for the subject.
    I really like the examples he is giving when explaining things... and everything he is describing just makes so much sense.
    everybody who is interested in a parenting style with unconditional love... not just saying it but warning the child to receive exactly this massage, should read this book!

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    • Guckstdu
    • 17/08/2019

    Unverzichtbar

    Die ersten Kapitel erläutern ausgiebig, warum Belohnungen, Strafen und das Zurückhalten von Liebe und Fürsorge in der Kindererziehung unvorteilhaft und schädlich sind. Es werden Studien und Nachweise zitiert als Beleg dafür.
    Alfie Kohn erzählt auf mitunter humorvolle Weise, was für eine gute Eltern-Kind Beziehung und eine umfassend positive Entwicklung wichtig ist, gibt konkrete Tipps zu Verhalten und Formulierung ohne eine generelle Patentlösung vorzugaukeln.
    Gelesen ist das Buch sehr gut. Es werden Zitat Anfang und Ende mitgelesen, sodass man gut folgen kann (nicht etwa wie in Siblings without rivalry, bei dem man oft nicht weiß, wer gerade spricht). Kohns Stimme finde ich sehr angenehm, das Lesetempo optimal.
    Ich habe das Buch oft weiter empfohlen. Es wird auch von Coaches im Bereich Gentle Parenting sehr gerne empfohlen.

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    • Flora Grolitsch
    • 06/02/2019

    Must read!!!!!

    Should be taught in school to everyone. Lifechanging and so vital! If you have kids: read this!

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    • N. Andreas
    • 26/09/2018

    Every parent should read this book.

    In our society, the fear of "spoiling" a kid is widely spread. Consequences are supposed to be a very effectiv means to prevent getting a tyrant. Praising is important to motivate kids.
    This is all so wrong and a lot of people don't know this...