The narcissist and his partner are nearly always doomed for failure. The narcissist has too many narcissists and codependents in his life, thus he is never able to juggle everyone and make everyone happy. He is stretched too thin by his obligations. Being the people-pleaser that he is, he cannot seem to satisfy any of them while at the same time satisfying himself. Too many people depend upon the narcissist for their survival, and he depends too much upon his parasitic relationship with those people to ever walk away from them.

The narcissist has low self-esteem, and he has failed at most things throughout his life. Thus, the narcissist becomes constantly paranoid. He is constantly feeling like a failure. He is constantly looking around to see if he is going to get in trouble with someone for not doing something right. He is ever waiting for an iron fist to come down and someone to yell at him. He has built up fear, anger and rage. The moment that he even smells someone getting ready to yell at him for something, he is already ready to blow up in a big way.

The narcissist no longer has kid-size tantrums that he did when he failed as a child. He is angry about his constant failures in life, and thus he releases an adult size rage toward anyone who even hints at being discouraged with him. Other people's expectations of him are too high, and also his expectations of himself are set too high. He is constantly jumping through hoops in trying to perfect everything, thus he never actually perfects anything at all.