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Talking to Strangers

What We Should Know About the People We Don't Know
Lu par : Malcolm Gladwell
Durée : 8 h et 42 min
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Malcolm Gladwell, host of the podcast Revisionist History and author of the number-one New York Times best seller Outliers, reinvents the audiobook in this immersive production of Talking to Strangers, a powerful examination of our interactions with people we don’t know. 

How did Fidel Castro fool the CIA for a generation? Why did Neville Chamberlain think he could trust Adolf Hitler? Why are campus sexual assaults on the rise? Do television sitcoms teach us something about the way we relate to each other that isn't true? 

While tackling these questions, Malcolm Gladwell was not solely writing a book for the page. He was also producing for the ear. In the audiobook version of Talking to Strangers, you’ll hear the voices of people he interviewed - scientists, criminologists, military psychologists. Court transcripts are brought to life with re-enactments. You actually hear the contentious arrest of Sandra Bland by the side of the road in Texas. As Gladwell revisits the deceptions of Bernie Madoff, the trial of Amanda Knox, and the suicide of Sylvia Plath, you hear directly from many of the players in these real-life tragedies. There’s even a theme song - Janelle Monae’s “Hell You Talmbout”. 

Something is very wrong, Gladwell argues, with the tools and strategies we use to make sense of people we don't know. And because we don't know how to talk to strangers, we are inviting conflict and misunderstanding in ways that have a profound effect on our lives and our world. 

The audiobook edition of Talking to Strangers was an instant number-one best seller, and was one of the most pre-ordered audiobooks in history. It seamlessly marries audiobooks and podcasts, creating a completely new and real listening experience.   

©2019 Malcolm Gladwell (P)2019 Hachette Audio

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"Malcolm Gladwell is a fabulous narrator of his latest book... His pleasing tone, phrasing palette, and exceptional skill with dramatic pauses all sound natural, yet add sparkling energy to his writing." (AudioFile Magazine)

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The first Malcolm Gladwell book I did not enjoy.

I am a big fan, usually.
Other books were well structured while this one is all over the place.
The audio by other people makes it difficult to understand, as the quality isn't very good.

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I couldn't stop listening.

this book was amazing, I found it so interesting and thought provoking, an incredible journey through Gladwell's skillfully pieced together and informative storytelling.

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important

this is such an important book for our times. we cannot begin to heal if we can't understand the challenges of simply listening to one another.

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Deceiving title

A boring succession of random stories meant to prove a single point : everybody lies. Not what I expected.

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If this is the future of audiobooks, beam me up Scotty !

Amazing audio production of an excellent book. Gives a lot to think about, as always with Gladwell’s production, and the incredible delivery quality makes it entertaining as nothing else. Kudos Pushkin Industries !

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  • GMbienlire
  • 26/10/2019

Disappointing

I'm a fan of Malcolm Gladwell and was very disappointed by this book. I found it to be a string of disconnected stories awkwardly pieced together around a weak theme: talking to strangers. The book is about misjudging people and deception. It tries to demonstrate that defaulting to trust is a better option for human relationships than systematic suspicion. Where it really fails is in bringing in the theme of "strangers." It does not clearly state when people qualify as strangers to each other, and it is completely unclear from the examples as some cases are about foreigners, immigrants, out-of-towners, white vs black, and others are about people who work tightly together, or are part of the same community (judges, defendant), and teenagers who live with their parents and are yet deceiving them. I found the research interesting but incomplete and the analysis superficial. The author reads his own book and does an OK job at it. I prefer professional narrators. The book also includes audio clips and acted narration, like in a podcast. The execution is OK but not great. All in all, a less than average performance.

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  • Chuan Li
  • 23/10/2019

Far fetched theories on a few unrelated stories

This is by far the worst book I read from the author. I guess this his attempt to try something new, but failed miserably. His theories and observations are far fetched from reality. This book is a political statement more than an anything else.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 28/09/2019

Unnecessary

Deadspin was right. Malcolm Gladwell had no business bringing up Jerry Sandusky or Brock Turner in this mess of a thesis statement that draws all the wrong conclusions about sexual assault and harassment—an issue he’ll never understand personally and goes so much deeper than “impulse control.”

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  • Jim
  • 11/09/2019

Enjoyable listen with some facts incorrect

I enjoyed listening to this audiobook.

I take issue with some of the passages in the section where he writes about me. I’m James Mitchell, the person who interrogated 9/11 mastermind Khalid Sheik Mohammed (KSM). Some of what Gladwell writes confounds elements of different instances into unrelated events. These are factually incorrect, He could have cleared these up had he bothered to talk to me before he went to final print, but he didn’t. I won’t address those here.

More importantly, Gladwell implies that Enhanced Interrogation Techniques (EITs) were (1) used to pressure KSM into “confessing” to attacks; and (2), that efforts to question KSM about future attacks were marred because KSM was being subjected to EITs when he provided information that the CIA used to disrupt plots and capture or kill terrorists still at large. But, those two things are inaccurate. I know it makes for a better story, but that’s just not what happened.

EITs were never used to pressure KSM to “confess” to anything…period…full stop. And, EITs were not—let me repeat— not being applied when KSM provided information that helped CIA prevent a second wave of 9/11 style catastrophic attacks on the West coast or aided in the capture terrorists still at large. I explain all this in my book (Enhanced Interrogation) which can be found on audible.

Finally, Gladwell makes much of KSM confessing in open court to a large variety of attacks and plots (including 9/11 and killing Daniel Pearl). Gladwell seems to be saying that KSM confessed to these things because, years after their brief use, the EITs compelled him to confess to things he didn’t actually do. To be clear, we did not discuss many of the things on KSM’s confessed list during his interrogations and debriefings. My guess is that if KSM confessed to crimes he didn’t commit, then it was to imbed his true crimes in a list of bogus plots in order to cast doubt on his confession later, should he need to or simply to mess with court proceedings. It is not necessary to evoke the boogie man of cognitive impairment to explain KSMs duplicitous behavior.

Readers interested in exploring this topic further should read the SSCI Minority Report dated June 20, 2014. That's the minority report, not the majority report.

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  • ba
  • 04/10/2019

Started good and ended well but was horrible in the middle

What you hear on the review is the first chapter and then it has nothing todo with the devil cops killing . then the middle is full of history lots and lots of history. If you like to year history from way back on all kinds of strangers meeting each other and fighting then this is the book you will enjoy. I hated all of it but the first chapter and the last chapter. He does a great job of telling a story and from a good point of view.

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  • Jenny
  • 11/09/2019

A new era in audio books...and maybe in relating to others

I am ruined forever on all the usual audiobooks. This was utterly fabulously produced, and now I shall expect all audiobooks to sound like fascinating podcasts ;) Ha! Really though, Malcolm has dramatically raised the bar on audiobooks.

Second, I just had a conversation in which my husband and I were talking about how complex people are....that sometimes things are not as they’d first seem. True to form, Malcolm sweeps us into a story about one thing, and then suddenly it is about something totally unexpected yet profoundly relevant in helping us see and understand the story (and characters in it) at hand.

This book has moved me toward working to hold a more gracious posture in my interactions with others and myself without sacrificing wisdom. I cannot forget the three interlocking realities he explores in this book: default to truth, the illusion of transparency, and coupling. If everyone in America could sit quietly with this information and truly consider it, we may perhaps create a kinder—and wiser— society. I’m recommending this to everyone. Although, some content is not intended for young ears. Parents be aware if you’re listening in the car with kiddos in the back.

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  • 23/09/2019

Deeply disappointing

I started listening to MG years ago and found his books to be insightful, considerate and fair minded. The last book I listened to was a little disappointing because there were a few instances in which the continuity of his logical analysis was broken. This book just got worse. Maybe it is because I’ve listened to volumes more nonfiction since those first books or because I’ve now spent many years in scientific studies myself or because of formal instruction in literature review, and if I went back the same inconsistencies would be there in past books. Perhaps his analysis of a topic has gotten worse, I don’t know. In this book he tends to establish some premise (several times) that governs the interactions of strangers, citing researchers, landmark studies, and field experts, then he applies the premise unevenly to the topic, or even one sidedly. Moreover he applies landmark experimental findings to situations that they were never meant to define, this is logical fallacy. Experiments are highly specific, they are designed to test small ideas and eliminate as many confounding factors as possible, they cannot be so broadly applied. It’s dishonest and creates false conclusions or at very least un-validated conclusions. This book is rife with misapplied science and one sided or unbalanced applications of concepts.

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  • Michael
  • 14/09/2019

This is a "should read"… Thought-provoking

I've been a member of audible since two months after its creation. This is only the second review I have ever posted with a library size numbering in the thousands and countless other books that I have returned; now I'll tell you why I am posting.

I have always enjoyed Malcolm Gladwell's books so I was a bit apprehensive because I had read a few notable book reviewers reviews on this most recent publication. Therefore my mindset going into the book was cautious tending towards a negative perspective.

I almost stopped reading after the first few chapters as I really could not buy into the perspective and underlying assumptions being posited. Nonetheless, I could not dismiss them out of hand and given Mr. Gladwell has been, for the most part, in his writing apolitical I pressed forward and glad I did.

By the time I ended the book I can say this, regardless of your political bend this should leave you with some thought-provoking questions about society, our governmental structures, and how we view one another. The sophomoric approaches pontificated by politicians offering some law that will resolve all things is "magical thinking". The currents social drumbeat to see others outside your circles ['strangers' as defined by Mr. Gladwell] as threats and believe we can discern their intentions and motivations better than they can themselves are factual states of being in our time.

'If you don't agree with me therefore you must be evil' mindset is not helping any of us to understand another. Given the thought-provoking postulates of this book I wonder if we would come together as a nation if faced with, God forbid, another 9/11 event as we once did just a short few years ago.

I hope you take the time to read the book. If you do decide to read the book I hope you'll set aside your own presuppositions and hear out Mr. Gladwell. I don't endorse all he has put forward but I applaud him for identifying and articulating clearly a problem we all face.

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  • Charlie :)
  • 18/09/2019

Wow – What a letdown. Left me aggravated on many l

Ok I’m going to say first that I have loved some of this authors other books but this was by far a real let down. He seems to be grasping for gotcha hot topics from T.V tabloids and pop news networks. There is some interesting information but the conclusions that he tries ever so hard to force the reader into coming along with are full of bias and miss direction. I get through between 60-75 book a years and rarely do I have one that just makes me feel “how can someone draw this conclusion from the information”. I even went back and review some of the information presented and it is simply very bad. I’m sure I will get another one of his books because not everything can be great, but this is going to lead people who don’t think critically or who go and do research regularly filled with bias and misdirection of so many key pieces of information.

Secondly there is un need background noise “music” during the audio. It is distracting and distracting. I feel it is fine going into and out of chapters, but it is in random places here “I assume to paint an effect and support the mood he is trying to lead the read in”

I would suggest skipping this one although I’m sure with the marketing behind it and his other success this book will rank high on the charts. I do not regret the credit used, because I now have more reference to the fallacies of people logic and how easy it is to put out bad information and watch how quickly some will take it is fact.

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  • 17/09/2019

OK, but feels like it never gets to the point.

I bought this book thinking it was more like a how to guide in dealing with strangers, tips / techniques, etc.

The book is really a bunch of case studies spanning the last century. I kept waiting for a conclusion or a final chapter tying all the ideas presented throughout the book together but I feel like that never came.

It was still an interesting book and I don’t feel like I wasted my time, just really not what I was expecting.

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  • Mikhail Romanov
  • 26/01/2020

This book won't help you talk to strangers

Unless you are a CIA officer on the way to talk to an intelligence agent.

Despite the title and description, the book is about how bad people are at detecting lies during interrogation, crime investigations, and so on. There's nothing about a normal person trying to talk to strangers.

The author also gets to some ridiculous conclusions:
- On average, AI is better than judges on deciding bails. That means for him you shouldn't interview for jobs face-to-face. Just scan the resume.
- Many high-profile criminals were avoiding prosecution for years. He thinks it's not because they used their power and money, but because everyone around them was naively blind, since "people are just bad at detecting lies".

90% of the book are famous stories of police injustice, intelligence screw-ups and so on. I guess author just picked a bunch of stories that fit his ideas and packaged them as "new" work.

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  • freewill
  • 21/01/2020

The book has nothing to do with the title

I wanted to give the book 1 star it deserves but found Sylvia Plath's story actually interesting. Otherwise, the book should not have been called Talking to Strangers.

There is nothing in it if you actually want to learn about the topic of talking to strangers. In fact, there is, but only if you regularly talk to murderers, sexual abusers, child molesters, spies, hitlers, and so on.

Gladwell reads story after story until you are bored to death, and think, "oh no, not another story, please." Then he endlessly goes like, "Right? Wrong! Right? Wrong!" And all these details, like "her breast was half-naked," or shower scenes. What does it have to do with talking to strangers in normal life is a mystery to me.

I was listening to this audiobook on my morning walks in the woods, and I regret it, I should have been more listening to the birds instead of Gladwell.

I would recommend this book NOT.

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 07/01/2020

it is not even a book, just a podcast

this here is not even a book. it is just a podcast. I don't know how come the author made this as a book. it is the worst book I ever heard or read in my life

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  • Andreas S.
  • 05/10/2019

Excellent as always.

While not as deeply counterintuitive as some of his other books, the author was once again true to his style. I think this book is especially important today, because it goes against the reductionist good/bad grain of todays public discourse. Strangers have reasons for acting the way they do which are every bit as complex and nuanced as our own. We can help ourselves and society at large by recognizing this depth and appreciating it in analyzing our interactions with strangers.

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  • Andrea
  • 26/01/2020

amazing facts

the book provides you with so many facts and analysis you didn't know or thought about

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 17/01/2020

Very interesting and VERY well made.

I would recommend this to anyone. The concepts touches up as well as the cases presented are intriguing. I will be listening to this sometime soon again.

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  • Natalie
  • 13/01/2020

Listened to it in one go.

Just download it and listen in. It is pretty good and brings up fascinating yet overlooked pieces of history.

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  • Daniel Blumer
  • 10/01/2020

Not impressed

I read some of Malcolms older books. I liked all of them which is the reason why I bought this one. However in my opinion this is not his best work.

Malcolm gives anecdotes to prove his point. One is regarding the UK and WW2. I am not an expert in WW2 history and maybe I got it wrong. However I do not belive that the "appeasement" was the product of politicians meeting Hitler (to put it drasticly).

There are some more anecdotes like this which seem a bit off (in my opinion).



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  • Filippo O.
  • 10/01/2020

Great listen although full of unexpected turs

It was great listening to Talking to strangers and it seems the author really knew how to narrate his own story. The frequent live or reenacted audio snippets are a nice addition and make for some variety.

Four starts instead of five because the book really feels more like a collection of separate chapters that do have a common theme but don't quite feel cohesive. The book goes from one story or case study to another, using each to explain a "thesis" or a psychological concept but, while you could draw a connection to "Talking to strangers" in a very broad sense, it doesn't feel like that was the underlying basis from while the stories emerged.

Verdict: if you're okay with getting a book that will teach several psychological concepts in an entertaining and more or less practical way, you're in for a treat. If you were looking for a guide on what exactly is wrong with the way we collectively talk to strangers and suggestions how to fix that, you're still in for a treat but it comes with a bit of head scratching.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 10/01/2020

I was expecting something else

from reading the title, I had other expectations of the content. There is a lot of research behind the book, and the ideas are helpful. However, the overall storyline is somehow lacking a logical connect. It feels more of a collection of stories and some research results. The analysis is not well developed as well. Most of the book is spent on telling stories.