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    "This is a self-help book on how to argue effectively, conciliate, and gently persuade. The authors admit to getting it wrong in their own past conversations. One by one, I recognize the same mistakes in me. The world would be a better place if everyone read this book." (Richard Dawkins, author of Science in the Soul and Outgrowing God)

    In our current political climate, it seems impossible to have a reasonable conversation with anyone who has a different opinion. Whether you're online, in a classroom, an office, a town hall - or just hoping to get through a family dinner with a stubborn relative - dialogue shuts down when perspectives clash. Heated debates often lead to insults and shaming, blocking any possibility of productive discourse. Everyone seems to be on a hair trigger.

    In How to Have Impossible Conversations, Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay guide you through the straightforward, practical, conversational techniques necessary for every successful conversation - whether the issue is climate change, religious faith, gender identity, race, poverty, immigration, or gun control. Boghossian and Lindsay teach the subtle art of instilling doubts and opening minds. They cover everything from learning the fundamentals for good conversations to achieving expert-level techniques to deal with hardliners and extremists. This book is the manual everyone needs to foster a climate of civility, connection, and empathy.

    ©2019 Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay (P)2019 Hachette Audio

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    "In the course of my work over the past quarter century I have been having impossible conversations with Holocaust deniers, creationists, anti-vaccination advocates, 9/11 Truthers, chemtrail conspiracy theorists, believers in astrology and ESP, proponents of alternative medicine, religious fundamentalists of many faiths, and dozens more people with whom I disagree vehemently. I've gotten pretty good at it but I had no idea what I was doing until I read How to Have Impossible Conversations, a sterling compendium of the most effective techniques of communication. I wish I'd had this important book at the start of my career as I would have saved myself many a fruitless dialogue. This book is the start of healing our contentious and divided age." (Michael Shermer, publisher Skeptic magazine, Presidential Fellow Chapman University, author of Why People Believe Weird Things, The Moral Arc, and Heavens on Earth, and for 18 years a monthly columnist for Scientific American)

    "This fascinating book provides not only useful instruction on how to talk with someone who thinks differently, it also offers a powerful method of questioning and reducing confidence in unsubstantiated beliefs to help people think about what is true." (Helen Pluckrose, editor, Areo Magazine)

    "I thought I knew all I needed to know about conversations and arguments. I was wrong. I just knew a lot about debates and rows. In their insightful and highly readable new book, Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay offer all kinds of ingenious pathways to constructive dialogue. At a time when public discourse has degenerated into mud-slinging and when campuses favour every kind of diversity except viewpoint diversity, this is an invaluable contribution. I guarantee that reading it will make you more - much more - persuasive." (Niall Ferguson, Milbank Family Senior Fellow, The Hoover Institution, Stanford)

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    amazing book

    the content of this book should be taught at school! this is a must read.

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    • Robin
    • 27/02/2020

    Important Skills Spoiled By Author Opinions

    The important skills are presented in a clear, easy to understand format. Unfortunately the author inserts his political opinions throughout the book, which makes the book far harder to listen to. I wish the author had taken his own advice and stuck the the solid rules he lays out for the reader instead.

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    • megan
    • 20/09/2019

    Good Read

    I would suggest this to anyone who has been having a difficult time having conversations with people with different views. I learned that I have not been listening and trying to throw facts at people. This is where I plan to start in my practice of having good conversations. Thank you for writing this book. I'm sure I will re-read it.

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    • Alex Levy
    • 25/03/2020

    No other book will be as relevant after COVID-19

    I mean it. The conversations we are going to have, we MUST have, are going to be rather difficult. Peter and James are 'godsend' because they have given us a guide to make the most of these conversations. In a world after COVID-19, the world will talk . . . a lot. The question is, are we going to have impossible conversations and do something about them, or not? I would put all my money betting that, if we all read How To Have Impossible Conversations, we most certainly will. PS - Peter offers an Easter Egg in the afterword. (It's worth it!).

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    • Darwin8u
    • 31/05/2020

    How2sow doubt while not seeming to poop on friends

    "Conversations that remain civil empower you, and change even the staunchest of minds are possible--even across deep divides." - Peter Boghossian and James Lindsay My first take on this book was it was "a pretty good practical guide. Not perfect." But the more I read, the more the message of civility grinds into the walls of debate technique and manipulation. I don't think this book was written with good faith. It isn't about patching the divide between the right and the left, the godless and Jesusland. That is its mask. If you are looking for technique, the book is great. If you are looking at a modest/humble approach to civil conversations, there are bits that sparkle (think of a lure), but in the end it is a cynical to not appearing to be a troll by changing your techniques, but they actually seem to encourage just a more socially palatable form of trolling. I am a bit disappointed. I felt that while giving a nod to distancing themselves from manipulations, the book was mostly just an extended "how to" for manipulation. I was hoping for more of a how to have civil conversations, and got how to sow doubt and win in the long-term by not shitting on your friends. I wish I still could have returned my book. I rarely do this with books, but if I had the opportunity to return it I would have. If I had the foresight to NOT purchase this book, I would have avoided it. One note: both authors were part of the Grievance studies affair in 2017 and 2018.

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    • Tomas P Cservenak
    • 04/04/2020

    Great way to keep friends in tough conversations

    Also great deescalation techniques. Should be required reading for any new business or relationship, awesome

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    • Wayne
    • 28/05/2020

    The listener should expect more!

    How to Have Impossible Conversations is disappointing because it promises so much and delivers so little. I purchased it because (1) i have a requirement that I place on myself that at least 10% of the sudiobooks I listen to will be non-fiction and (2) it was a $3.95 (the price of a good cup of coffee) Audible Daily Deal. The techniques that the authors say one should practice and drill are for the most part common sense. They also do not work when a conservative is seeking to exchange political views with a progressive because almost all progressives are unwilling to even talk with a conservative for fear it might changes their minds causing them isolation from other progressives. Chapter 7, just before the end of the book, is a cursory discussion of concepts from Jonathan Haidt's excellent 2012 social psychology book The Righteous Mind. If listeners to the pablum of How to Have Impossible Conversations find themselves ordering Haidt's book that the meager offerings will be worthwhile. What makes audiobooks a great medium is the quality of narration and thankfully there are many outstanding narrators. The authors would have done well to hire a professional narrator because Professor Boghossian stinks at it. I would apologize if I seem sarcastic but it's the book's fault! Now let's get back to some good fiction.

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    • Anonymous Ed
    • 26/01/2020

    It's jammed with helpful information

    This book is extremely helpful, but it moves pretty fast. A course with study material, tests and labs could be developed from the knowledge contained within it - but only taught by instructors that have mastered the material and demonstrated high levels of proficiency in it. These conversational techniques should be taught along with logic in all schools in my opinion.

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    • Amazon Customer
    • 08/12/2019

    amazing book

    I thought I was decent at conversation until I read this book it changed my life

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    • Grant
    • 31/01/2020

    Fast Speaker

    The person who was narrating the book spoke too fast at times. I think this book would be better read in person.

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    • William G. Voit
    • 06/01/2020

    Excellent book!! So much to take in and ponder on.

    This is awesome book. It will be on my short rotation list to listen to again after I reflect on the contents. So much to take in and ponder on.

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    • Jason Renoux
    • 20/08/2020

    Communication is key

    At first I had a hard time following since I plug in when I ride my bike but the second time around, giving it time to sink in, I much enjoyed it. Communication is key and knowing how to or not, approach it, will be defining factor to the success or failure.