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    Pink and pretty or predatory and hardened, sexualized girlhood influences our daughters from infancy onward, telling them that how a girl looks matters more than who she is. Somewhere between the exhilarating rise of Girl Power in the 1990s and today, the pursuit of physical perfection has been recast as a source - the source - of female empowerment. And commercialization has spread the message faster and farther, reaching girls at ever-younger ages.

    But, realistically, how many times can you say no when your daughter begs for a pint-size wedding gown or the latest Hannah Montana CD? And how dangerous is pink and pretty anyway - especially given girls' successes in the classroom and on the playing field? Being a princess is just make-believe, after all; eventually they grow out of it. Or do they? Does playing Cinderella shield girls from early sexualization - or prime them for it? Could today's little princess become tomorrow's sexting teen? And what if she does? Would that make her in charge of her sexuality - or an unwitting captive to it?

    Those questions hit home with Peggy Orenstein, so she went sleuthing. She visited Disneyland and the international toy fair, trolled American Girl Place and Pottery Barn Kids, and met beauty pageant parents with preschoolers tricked out like Vegas showgirls. She dissected the science, created an online avatar, and parsed the original fairy tales. The stakes turn out to be higher than she - or we - ever imagined: nothing less than the health, development, and futures of our girls. From premature sexualization to the risk of depression to rising rates of narcissism, the potential negative impact of this new girlie-girl culture is undeniable - yet armed with awareness and recognition, parents can effectively counterbalance its influence in their daughters' lives.

    Cinderella Ate My Daughter is a must-read for anyone who cares about girls, and for parents helping their daughters navigate the rocky road to adulthood.

    ©2011 Peggy Orenstein (P)2012 HarperCollins Publisher

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    • Marie
    • 28/06/2012

    No solution just worry

    Hide your daughters 'cause it's a big bad world out there in pink taffeta. For the positive, I learned some interesting bits of trivia about Disney princesses and European fairy tales. Otherwise I found it to be a big book of worry that offered few if any solutions of what to do about all the evils of modern American consumerist life that threatens to engulf girls in a pink tide of an unreal sense of self, princess fantasy, and an over reliance on looks over feelings. Okay, it is a dispatch from the "front lines" of girlie culture and not a guide book with any solutions. Best to follow this up with a book by an expert and not a journalist who can help parents move from the battle lines to more peaceful shores.

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    • Trudy Owens
    • 09/04/2016

    are we limiting or broadening girls' options?

    Unlike some authors, Orenstein does a great job reading her own work.

    But this is actually a book you should read, underline, and take notes on, then reread. Then apply.

    Orenstein is a great writer and has done homework to write this book, read research, psychological treatises, learned the history of baby dolls and Barbie dolls, done interviews with girls and their moms, experts on many subjects, and even analysed current and original versions of fairy tales.

    Her analysis goes off into many, many areas, but always the question is Does this give girls more choices or fewer? Do current trends oversexualize girls, and how do females then develop healthy sexual relationships?

    You really have to read (listen to) it to get it all, but some of the interesting things she concludes are:

    *Princesses avoid female bonding. Only one girl can reign.
    *The pink preponderance "fuses girls' identities to appearance."
    *The current brainless glut of princess things leads not to fantasy, imagination, and increased self-worth, but rather to a manic dependence on appearance and consumerism.
    *Shopping and appearance (nails, hair, makeovers) are the main mother-daughter bonding experiences.

    Her discussion of original versions of fairy tales is fascinating, and the ways our modern movies have changed them disturbing. Speaking of these original tales, she says:

    1. without adult female guidance, we may be "cultivating a legion of step-sisters--spoiled, self-centered materialists, superficially charming but without the depth or means for authentic transformation."

    2. The prince is not the cause of Cinderella's transformation; rather, she is. And she asks the Prince to witness the woman she has been all along, and to accept her as she is. This ability for self-transformation is what we all want for our daughters after all.

    Orenstein has spoken clearly on topics that concern me as a mother and grandmother, and, I am sure, many others as well. This book makes concrete some of the ideas that have been puzzling or disturbing us, so we are now better able to talk with our daughters and to make wise consumer choices.

    I will be reading more by Orenstein. Bravo.

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    • Jon
    • 09/07/2012

    Engaging discourse about gender construction.

    Would you consider the audio edition of Cinderella Ate My Daughter to be better than the print version?

    Yes, it's a complicated topic, and the author reading the book makes the feminist dialogue easier to understand. It is more like having a conversation with Peggy, discussing opinions of gender instead of reading a long lecture.

    What was one of the most memorable moments of Cinderella Ate My Daughter?

    When she discusses allowing her daughter to have choice, instead of coercing her towards commercial femininity or coercing her away from it. I though that was a very relevant and poignant passage as eventually it's a complicated issue and her daughter can be as typically feminine princess-y as she wants.

    What did you learn from Cinderella Ate My Daughter that you would use in your daily life?

    That it's important to discuss commercialization of media with your children so they can on some level engage with the socialization of gender, instead of commanding them to present their gender one way or another.

    Any additional comments?

    Brilliant, thoroughly enjoyable.

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    • Carolyn
    • 24/06/2012

    Grandmothers Must Read

    Peggy Orenstein once again has hit the nail square on the head. Marketing being the nail that closes the coffin of childhood. Children as such have never had it easy. They were and still are exploited whether by the farm needing hands, the drudge factory of centuries past and now, the hungry maw of salespersons in need of consumers. Where is the line? Should you raise your child as an Amish or Hutterite or, let them slide into a life that will forever feed the giants of industry? Our country survives on capitolism creating jobs and selling product. Talk about a two edged sword. As an old feminist I thank you Peggy Orenstein for trying to make sense of this crazy world.

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    • Topa
    • 07/09/2015

    Everyone with a daughter should read

    This book opened my eyes. I highly recommend. It is also a super easy listen.

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    • Amazon Customer
    • 02/02/2021

    Disappointed

    This started out strong. Then she mentions wanting her daughter to be sexually active before marriage, and dives into politics. That should have been left out...
    Not to mention it goes off track, then never circles back. It doesn't really end, there's no "wrap up" if you will. Like when a lecturing teacher runs out of class time. It started to get strange around chapter 7 then never recovered.
    I'm very disappointed. I loved the first half, but I'm sad at how bad the last few chapters were.

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    • mimi
    • 11/09/2020

    a must read for parents of girls

    an eye opening report on how the world of pink influences girls, boys and parents alike.

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    • Lea Beast
    • 21/07/2020

    Important read - great voice

    Peggy is very easy to relate to. I appreciate her important conversations within the book and love her podcast. She sheds light on a lot of issues in a real way. I do wish there were a few more solutions proposed, but I enjoyed the book and would share with friends.

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    • Lindsey R.
    • 17/07/2019

    Thought provoking

    Very interesting and thoughtful! A dive into how media influences girls perceptions of themselves and the world and how parents can thoughtfully guide their daughters (and sons) through the competing and mostly unfavorable media messages.

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    • Alyssa
    • 25/07/2017

    Great thought provoked

    I found myself continually questioning my conceptions and going about it in a non-preachy way as Peggy questions herself all the time, well done