What makes a man emotionally unavailable? And what does it take to change that? In this episode, Tim Tedder sits down with Jason Lange, a men's coach and group facilitator, to explore one of the most underaddressed dimensions of relationship healing: the inner world of men.

Jason draws on his own journey to explain how many men enter adulthood without two fundamental skills: self-awareness and the ability to communicate what they feel. The cultural script of masculinity, built around stoicism, self-reliance, and the suppression of vulnerability, doesn't just leave men emotionally isolated. It quietly undermines their capacity for the kind of intimacy that healthy relationships require.

The conversation moves naturally into the territory of infidelity, not just as a relationship crisis, but as a symptom of deeper unmet needs and undeveloped skills. Jason shares what he consistently sees in men on both sides of betrayal: those who cheated often lacked the ability to communicate what was missing or to set honest boundaries; those who were cheated on often struggle to understand their own role in the relational disconnect that developed over time.

But this episode is bigger than infidelity. Jason makes a compelling case for why every man should be in a men's group—not just men in crisis, but any man who wants to grow. Men's groups offer something rare: a structured, accountable community where men learn to connect with their own bodies and emotional lives, practice difficult conversations, and receive honest feedback without shame. As male loneliness continues to rise, Jason argues that this kind of relational infrastructure isn't a luxury; it's essential.

LINKS and EXTRAS

Episoded Page: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcasts/058

Jason Lang’s Website: https://evolutionary.men

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