Episode Overview

When a relationship ends, it can feel completely disorientating - like the ground has shifted beneath you and nothing quite makes sense anymore. In this episode, we talk honestly about heartbreak, obsession, rejection, and the deep vulnerability that comes with losing not just a partner, but a version of yourself.

Drawing on our own experiences of breakups across different stages of life, we explore why the pain feels so consuming, how self-worth often gets tangled up in rejection, and why healing doesn’t happen in a straight line. This is a conversation for anyone in the thick of it - or anyone who still carries echoes of past heartbreak.

Key Discussion Points

• The obsession phase: rumination, analysing everything, and chasing connection
• How low self-worth amplifies the pain of rejection
• The three-month mark: noticing when the fog starts to lift
• Why laughing again can feel wrong - and why it’s actually a sign of healing
• The pull to reach out for dopamine and familiarity (even when you know better)
• Why heartbreak isn’t weakness - it’s proof you can love deeply

Listener Takeaways

• Feeling broken after a breakup doesn’t mean you’re weak - it means you cared
• The pain won’t last forever, even if it feels endless right now
• A relationship ending doesn’t take your worth away - it asks you to find it within yourself
• Healing happens quietly, often without you noticing at first
• Awareness, not regret, is what allows real growth
• One day you’ll wake up and realise they weren’t the first thought in your mind — and that’s the beginning of coming back to yourself

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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.