Hey, What's Up! It's Tommy.

In this episode of Spectrum in Camouflage, my wife Kailee and I sit down for a real, late-night conversation about a recent trip I took to Puerto Rico to speak at an event. We talk about what it was like to travel alone, speak in front of a big crowd, and stay sober through an environment where drinking is usually the normal thing.

We also get honest about what was happening back home while I was gone. Kailee shares how she was feeling, what was weighing on her emotionally, and a couple changes that helped her start feeling like herself again. We talk about parenting stress, the pressure to hold it together, routines that help, and the reminder that you never really know what someone else is carrying.

By the end, we land on a simple message that matters a lot to us right now: be kind, because the person in front of you might be fighting a battle you cannot see.

• Sobriety can bring clarity you did not realize you were missing. I share how alcohol was feeding my anxiety, not helping it, and how sobriety has changed my mindset, emotions, and presence.
• Big moments feel different when you are fully clear. Speaking to 200 to 250 people felt huge, but I had surprisingly low anxiety, and I truly believe God had His hand in that whole trip.
• You are not the only one living this life. I was blown away by how many people came up to share their own autism stories, fears, and family struggles, including people I have known in business for years.
• Kailee’s reminder for parents: your struggle might not even be about your kids. It might be exhaustion, isolation, hormones, stress, or feeling like you never get time alone.
• Caffeine and constant grinding can wreck your nervous system. Kailee realized she was taking in around 1,000 mg of caffeine a day, and cutting back made a noticeable difference.
• Food freedom matters. Tracking macros can help some people, but for others it can trigger restriction and guilt. Finding what works for your mental health matters.
• Kindness is not small. Being the kind person in a stranger’s day might be the thing that helps them keep going.

If you know a parent who feels alone right now, please share this episode with them. A simple share can be the difference between someone feeling isolated and someone feeling supported.

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