Did We Grow Up in the Same House? How Family Roles Shape Your Mother Wound

In this episode, I break down common roles children play in families and how each one creates a mother wound that follows you into adulthood. Whether you were the parentified daughter who became a mini-adult too soon, the golden child living on a pedestal, the scapegoat blamed for family dysfunction, or the invisible child overlooked for being "easy," none of these roles were your choice; you were a child surviving in an established system. I explain the difference between healthy responsibility and parentification, why scapegoats are often truth-tellers who leave first, how golden children struggle with conditional love based on performance, and why invisible children learned that asking for attention was a burden. These roles don't just stay in childhood, they shape how you show up in relationships, careers, and your own parenting. I address mothers who recognize these dynamics in their families with compassion, explaining that awareness is the first step and it's never too late to repair if your children are willing. The power you have now as an adult is choosing who you are outside of that assigned role.

With this episode you'll be able to:

1. Identify if you played one of these family roles (parentified child, golden child, scapegoat, or invisible child) and how it shaped your mother wound
2. Understand why parentification is different from healthy responsibility
3. Recognize that scapegoats are often truth-tellers who had the courage to call out dysfunction and leave first
4. See how being the "easy" invisible child meant emotional neglect, not that you didn't need attention and support
5. Learn how these childhood survival strategies show up in your adult relationships, career, and parenting patterns
6. Practice stepping out of your assigned role by deciding who you want to be outside of family dynamics

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Keyword tags: Family roles, parentified child, golden child, scapegoat, invisible child, sibling dynamics, mother wound, eldest daughter syndrome, emotional neglect, family dysfunction, truth tellers, conditional love, emotional support, family systems, breaking family...