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  • Moving on from divorce

    Moving on from divorce
    Jun 13 2024

    Summary

    In this conversation, Liz Harrington, The EFT Coach, shares her journey of healing and personal growth after going through a divorce. She emphasizes the importance of inner healing and how it impacts relationships. Liz also discusses the challenges of divorce, including the emotional and financial aspects.

    She highlights the need for support and understanding for men going through divorce. Additionally, Liz provides insights into navigating new relationships when children are involved.

    This conversation covers topics such as blending families and co-parenting, the importance of money mindset, money mindset and divorce recovery, gender roles and relationships, assessing compatibility and seeking help, the stigma of divorce, cultural differences, and challenges faced by Asian women.

    The conversation also mentions a book titled 'Money, Marriage, and Motherhood: How Not to Get F*cked Over, What You Can't Afford Not to Know.' In this conversation, Liz Harrington, The EFT Coach, discusses the importance of money, marriage, and motherhood in relationships. She emphasises the need for future-proofing relationships through financial planning and equal contribution to pensions.

    Liz also highlights the positive aspects of divorce and the opportunity for growth and healing it can provide. The conversation explores the impact of mobile phones on relationships and the challenges faced in modern relationships.

    The conversation concludes with the importance of doing inner work and healing before entering into relationships.

    Takeaways

    Inner healing is crucial for having a healthy relationship after divorce.

    The healing journey is ongoing and requires continuous self-reflection and growth.

    Divorce can be emotionally and financially challenging, and it is important to seek support and guidance.

    Men often face a lack of support and understanding during divorce, and it is important to address this issue.

    Divorce can be a positive experience, providing an opportunity for growth and healing.

    The excessive use of mobile phones can negatively impact relationships and hinder genuine connection.

    Balancing income and responsibilities is crucial for a successful partnership.

    Doing inner work and healing before entering into relationships can lead to healthier connections.


    Chapters

    05:41 The Importance of Inner Healing

    08:11 Healing Generational Wounds

    11:52 The Healing Journey and Relationship Patterns

    14:27 The Healing Process as a Game

    23:04 The Lack of Support for Men in Divorce

    26:43 Navigating New Relationships and Children

    33:52 The Importance of Money Mindset

    36:26 Money Mindset and Divorce Recovery

    41:23 Gender Roles and Relationships

    44:10 Assessing Compatibility and Seeking Help

    51:18 The Stigma of Divorce and Cultural Differences

    59:21 Challenges Faced by Asian Women

    01:00:00 Book Title: Money, Marriage, and Motherhood

    01:00:22 The Importance of Money, Marriage, and Motherhood

    01:01:18 Future-Proofing Relationships with Financial Planning

    01:02:29 Balancing Income and Responsibilities in a Partnership

    01:03:55 The Gift of Divorce

    01:05:48 The Impact of Mobile Phones on Relationships

    01:07:44 Challenges in Modern Relationships

    01:09:09 The Negative Effects of Technology on Relationships

    01:13:09 The Importance of Emotional Support in Divorce

    01:16:25 The Future and Mission of Helping Others

    01:18:22 Advice to Younger Self: Speed Up the Healing Process

    01:19:51 Healing Childhood Wounds and Generational Healing

    Contact info

    Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts

    Alan is a Life Coach, Specialising in Relationships working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

    Alan's socials & website Links can be found on his ⁠⁠link tree⁠⁠

    Liz Harrington

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizharringtontheeftcoach/

    https://www.facebook.com/lizharringtoneft

    www.theeftcoach.com
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    1 h et 25 min
  • Relationships on the road

    Relationships on the road
    Jun 6 2024

    Summary

    Beckie Martin shares her experience of living on the road with her family in an RV. She discusses how the idea of living on the road went from a dream to a reality after watching a YouTube video. Beckie talks about the challenges of living in a small space and the process of downsizing.

    She emphasises the importance of communication and finding balance in relationships. Beckie also highlights the impact of life on the road on her daughters' education and personal growth. She shares her experiences during the COVID-19 pandemic and the varying restrictions in different locations. In this conversation, Beckie shares her experiences of living on the road with her family.

    They discuss the confusing COVID-19 rules and restrictions they encountered, as well as the positive aspects of their travels, such as meeting new people and creating lifelong friendships. They also talk about defying societal expectations and living life on their own terms.

    Beckie emphasizes the value of traveling for self-discovery and learning about different cultures. She offers advice for dating and relationships, including the importance of not speaking negatively about your partner behind their back. Overall, the conversation highlights the transformative power of travel and the connections it can foster.

    Takeaways

    Living on the road in an RV requires downsizing and managing possessions.

    Communication and finding balance are key to maintaining relationships in a small space.

    Living on the road provides opportunities for personal growth and expanding one's perspective.

    The COVID-19 pandemic presented unique challenges for those living on the road. Confusing COVID-19 rules and restrictions can be frustrating and nonsensical.

    Traveling allows for meeting new people and creating lifelong friendships.

    Living life on your own terms and defying societal expectations can lead to personal fulfillment.

    Traveling provides opportunities for self-discovery and learning about different cultures.

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction and Background

    01:03 Dreaming of Life on the Road

    04:49 Considering Alternative Living Arrangements

    05:55 Challenges of Living in a Small Space

    07:03 Managing Possessions and Shopping Habits

    08:20 Accumulating Stuff and Downsizing

    09:06 The Impact on Relationships

    10:13 Finding Balance and Communication

    16:04 Challenges of Going with the Flow

    19:06 Impact on Children and Education

    22:14 Expanding the Bubble and Challenges

    23:11 Experiences during the COVID-19 Pandemic

    24:34 Confusing COVID-19 Rules

    25:05 Meeting New People on the Road

    26:34 Having Conversations and Making Connections

    27:45 Living Life on Your Own Terms

    29:12 Creating Lifelong Friendships

    30:13 Defying Societal Expectations

    31:32 The Value of Traveling and Self-Discovery

    33:37 Working and Traveling in Australia

    35:03 Finding Ways to Make Traveling Possible

    36:11 Meeting People from Unexpected Places

    37:08 Learning about Different Cultures

    38:38 The Smallness of the World

    40:47 Trusting Your Gut and Overcoming Fear

    43:45 Advice for Dating and Relationships

    46:32 Connecting with Beckie

    Contact info

    Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts

    Alan is a Life Coach, Specialising in Relationships working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.


    Alan's socials & website Links can be found on his ⁠link tree⁠

    Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks

    Beckie Martin

    Instagram:

    www.instagram.com/we.will.figure.it.out

    YouTube:

    https://youtube.com/@We_Will_Figure_It_Out?si=NO98mgWZ5SaiEf3T

    Or Facebook:

    https://www.facebook.com/wewillfigureitout?mibextid=LQQJ4d
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    45 min
  • Relationships with food - Rewired Eating

    Relationships with food - Rewired Eating
    May 30 2024

    Sumary

    In this conversation, Alan interviews Ian Bickle from Rewired Eating. They discuss Ian's background in the culinary industry and his journey to becoming a personal trainer and nutrition coach. They explore the importance of having a healthy relationship with food and the dangers of diet culture.

    They also touch on the impact of social media on body image and the need for individuals to define their own worth beyond physical appearance. The conversation concludes with a discussion on relationships and the importance of self-reflection and personal growth.

    In this conversation, Ian Bickle discusses his journey in bodybuilding and how it impacted his relationships and relationship with food.

    He emphasises the importance of recovery after extreme dieting and the need to regain balance in physical and mental health. Ian also highlights the dangers of comparing oneself to others on social media and the importance of self-acceptance and self-love.

    He advocates for a personalised approach to nutrition and the importance of understanding one's own intuition and values. Ian encourages individuals to seek coaching and therapy when necessary and to prioritise their overall well-being.

    Takeaways

    Having a healthy relationship with food is important for overall well-being

    Diet culture can be harmful and lead to disordered eating

    Body image issues are prevalent in today's society

    Self-reflection and personal growth are key to healthy relationships

    Defining one's worth beyond physical appearance is crucial Extreme dieting for bodybuilding competitions can have negative effects on physical and mental health, including loss of periods, thinning hair, fatigue, and loss of libido.

    The recovery process after extreme dieting is often overlooked and involves regaining balance in physical and mental health, including cognitive function, libido, and overall well-being.

    Comparing oneself to others on social media can lead to body image issues, disordered eating, and unrealistic expectations.

    A personalised approach to nutrition, based on individual intuition and values, is essential for a healthy relationship with food.

    Coaching and therapy can be valuable tools in helping individuals navigate their relationship with food and improve overall well-being.

    Guest info :-

    Body builder turned healthy eating coach Ian Bickle,

    Www.Rewiredeating.Co.Uk


    Find out if you have a healthy relationship with food with Ian's complimentary scorecard.

    Https://www.rewiredeating.co.uk/scorecard/

    The Host :-

    Alan is a life coach, who specialises in the area of relationships, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.


    Alan also works with couples in crisis to turn their relationship around and bring deeper connection, more passion, understanding and intimacy.

    Alan can be found on all FB, Instagram, Ticktok and linked in.

    Links can be found on his link tree www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer

    Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks
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    1 h et 13 min
  • Moving past anxiety & panic attacks

    Moving past anxiety & panic attacks
    May 23 2024
    Summary In this episode, Helen Goad discusses panic attacks, anxiety, and emotional health. She shares her personal experience with her partner's panic attacks and how it led her to become a hypnotherapist. Helen explains the role of the old brain in triggering panic attacks and the difficulty in distinguishing between imagination and reality. She also highlights the impact of trauma and generational effects on anxiety. Helen emphasises the importance of allowing all emotions to have their place and the challenges in expressing emotions, especially in children. In this conversation, Helen Goad discusses the lack of respect and understanding surrounding mental health issues. She shares her experience of witnessing her husband's journey through mental health challenges and emphasises the importance of creating a supportive space for loved ones who are struggling. Helen provides practical tips for managing anxiety, such as breathing exercises and taking moments to pause. She also highlights the power of music in expressing emotions and finding joy in life. Finally, Helen encourages equal partnership and understanding in relationships to bring about a revolution in the world of dating and relationships. Takeaways Panic attacks are the old brain's response to a perceived threat, even if there is no physical danger present. Anxiety can be triggered by learned responses and can accumulate over time. Emotional health involves allowing all emotions to have their place and expressing them in a healthy way. The medical approach to mental health often focuses on managing symptoms rather than addressing the root causes. Expressing and managing emotions is crucial for overall well-being and mental health. Create a supportive and understanding environment for loved ones struggling with mental health issues. Practice breathing exercises and take moments to pause to manage anxiety. Use music as a therapeutic tool to express emotions and find joy. Focus on the positives and train the brain to see more of the positives in life. Promote equal partnership and understanding in relationships to bring about a revolution in the world of dating and relationships. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:09 Understanding Panic Attacks and Anxiety 10:57 Triggers and Neural Pathways 24:56 Managing Anxiety and Seeking Help 28:51 Mental Health vs Emotional Health 32:08 Expressing and Managing Emotions 33:01 Challenges in Expressing Emotions 33:57 Lack of Respect and Understanding 35:01 Witnessing Gary's Journey 35:23 Living with Someone Struggling 36:48 Creating a Supportive Space 37:15 Challenges of Parenting 38:13 Supporting Someone in Distress 39:17 The Power of Breathing 40:17 Taking Moments to Pause 41:16 Using Senses to Ground Oneself 42:06 The Importance of Silence 43:24 Finding Joy in Life 44:08 Finding Joy in Music 44:28 Expressing Emotions Through Music 45:26 Keeping Things Simple 46:25 Practicing Mindfulness in Daily Activities 48:17 Training the Brain to Focus on Positives 49:48 Finding Moments of Joy 51:46 The Therapeutic Power of Music 53:06 Using Music to Express Emotions 54:13 Messages of Wisdom to Teenage Self 01:03:45 Revolutionizing Relationships with Equality Contact info Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts Alan is a Life Coach, Specialising in Relationships working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Alan's socials & website Links can be found on his link tree Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks Helen Goad https://www.facebook.com/hypnosispenrith https://www.linkedin.com/in/helen-goad-37369111a/ https://www.instagram.com/calmmindacademy https://calmmindacademy.co.uk/ helen@calmmindacademy.co.uk Free resource – 3 Quick and Easy Steps to Reduce Anxiety https://calmmindacademy.co.uk/reduce-anxiety-tool
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    59 min
  • Looking beyond the knight in shining armour

    Looking beyond the knight in shining armour
    May 16 2024

    Summary

    In this conversation, Arneen, a dating and relationship coach based in New Zealand, discusses the dating culture and challenges in the country. She highlights the relaxed and slow-paced nature of dating in New Zealand, as well as the limited dating pool.

    Arneen also explores the influence of Maori culture on relationships, emphasising the collectivist and family-oriented values. The conversation delves into the concept of men as prizes and the importance of managing expectations in dating.

    The impact of personal growth and environment on relationships is also discussed, along with the need to look beyond the idealised image of a knight in shining armour. The conversation explores the projection of ideal partners and the importance of looking beyond these projections. It delves into the impact of upbringing and society's conditioning on relationship expectations.

    The desire for safety and security, as well as the need to feel seen and special, are discussed. The concept of knights in shining armor and the tendency to overlook important qualities in partners are examined.

    The conversation also addresses the impact of masculine energy in relationships and the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies. It challenges stereotypes and superficial expectations, and highlights the importance of understanding men's desires and emotional capacity.

    The conversation concludes by emphasising the appreciation of natural beauty and authenticity, as well as the intentions behind chivalrous gestures. In this conversation, Alan & Arneen discuss the impact of modern dating and the role of dating apps. She shares her personal journey to becoming a relationship coach and highlights the importance of self-discovery and personal growth in building healthy and meaningful relationships.

    Arneen emphasises the need for deep conversations and early exploration of values and boundaries in relationships. Overall, the conversation highlights the challenges and opportunities in navigating the world of dating and relationships in the 21st century.


    Takeaways

    Look beyond projections and explore the depths of a person's character.

    Balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships for a healthy dynamic.

    Understand men's desires and emotional capacity for better communication and connection.

    Self-discovery and personal growth are essential for building healthy and meaningful relationships.

    Having deep conversations early on in a relationship can help avoid wasting time on incompatible partners.

    Chapters

    06:02 The Kiwi Way of Dating

    07:46 The Man Drought in New Zealand

    13:19 The Perception of Men as Prizes

    14:36 Managing Expectations in Dating

    25:03 Knowing Who You Are in Relationships

    28:08 The Impact of Environment on Relationships

    32:07 Looking Beyond the Knight in Shining Armor

    34:02 The Importance of Looking Beyond Projections

    35:21 The Impact of Upbringing and Society's Conditioning

    36:17 The Desire for Safety and Security

    37:23 The Need to Feel Seen and Special

    38:28 Overlooking Important Qualities in Partners

    39:01 The Impact of Masculine Energy in Relationships

    40:04 The Importance of Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

    43:13 Differentiating Between Healthy and Toxic Relationships

    50:33 Challenging Stereotypes and Superficial Expectations

    52:25 Understanding Men's Desires and Emotional Capacity

    54:09 Appreciating Natural Beauty and Authenticity

    57:09 The Intentions Behind Chivalrous Gestures

    58:06 The Impact of Modern Dating

    01:13:34 The Influence of Dating Apps

    01:21:20 Deep Conversations and Early Relationship Exploration

    01:26:53 The Importance of Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

    Alan Watts - The Love Engineer.

    Alan is a relationship coach, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

    Alan's socials can be found on his link tree
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    1 h et 32 min
  • The importance of selecting the right partner

    The importance of selecting the right partner
    May 9 2024
    Summary In this conversation, Alan Watts and Jamie Stewart discuss the importance of selecting the right partner, especially for entrepreneurs and solopreneurs. They explore the challenges of networking and the need for continuous improvement in this area. Jamie shares his personal journey of finding the right partner and the impact it has had on his life. They emphasise the importance of building solid foundations in relationships and living life to the fullest. Overall, the conversation highlights the significance of self-awareness, personal growth, and finding happiness in every day. In this conversation, Jamie Stewart and Alan Watts discuss various aspects of relationships and personal growth. They explore the importance of putting oneself first, the significance of being able to receive, and the habit of politely declining offers. They also reflect on lessons learned from childhood and the power of positive inner voices. The conversation emphasises that it's never too late to make changes and challenge societal expectations. They discuss the value of learning from others, getting unstuck, and seeking help and support. Finally, they highlight the importance of approaching marriage with awareness and trusting one's gut instincts. Takeaways Selecting the right partner is crucial for entrepreneurs and solopreneurs. Continuous improvement in networking skills is essential for business success. Building solid foundations in relationships is key to long-term happiness. Living life to the fullest and pursuing personal growth are important for overall fulfillment. Put yourself first and prioritize your own well-being in relationships. Be open to receiving from others and allow them the opportunity to give to you. Challenge the habit of politely declining offers and consider saying yes more often. Cultivate a positive inner voice that supports and encourages you. It's never too late to make changes and pursue happiness in relationships and life. Learn from others' experiences and seek guidance and support when needed. Trust your instincts and listen to your gut feelings in relationships and decision-making. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:09 The Importance of Networking 08:45 Choosing a Partner and Getting Married 13:43 The Younger Jamie Stewart and Dating 15:24 The First Marriage and Divorce 18:53 Setting Relationship Foundations 26:07 Living Life to the Fullest 32:37 The Journey of a Man 38:51 Building a Kingdom Together 44:44 The Foundations of a Relationship 45:32 Putting Others First 46:13 The Importance of Receiving 47:01 Polite Declines 48:19 Lessons from Childhood 49:22 Saying Yes 50:23 Inner Voice 51:13 The Power of Positive Inner Voice 53:00 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs 54:22 It's Never Too Late 56:49 Challenging Societal Expectations 58:57 Making Decisions 01:00:21 Learning from Others 01:02:23 Getting Unstuck 01:03:00 Finding Help and Support 01:04:06 Approaching Marriage with Awareness 01:05:03 Trusting Your Gut 01:05:32 Navigating Divorce 01:06:22 Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone Jamie Stewart - www.circlenetworks.co.uk Linked in - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiecstewart/ Alan is a life coach, who specialises in the area of relationships, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Alan also works with couples in crisis to turn their relationship around and bring deeper connection, more passion, understanding and intimacy. Alan can be found on all FB, Instagram, Ticktok and linked in. Links can be found on his link tree www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks
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    1 h
  • Human Design and Relationships

    Human Design and Relationships
    May 2 2024

    Summary

    Guests, Claire and Jules discuss the concept of human design and its impact on various aspects of life, including relationships and education.

    The conversation highlights the need for a more individualised approach to education and challenges the traditional system that tries to fit everyone into the same mold.

    The speakers also explore the correlation between human design and conditions like ADHD and autism, emphasising the importance of understanding and embracing individual differences.

    Claire and Jules discuss human design and its application in relationships. They explore the unique energy of projectors and the challenges they face in understanding and being understood by others.

    They also delve into the importance of setting boundaries and managing energy for projectors. The conversation highlights the differences in eating habits, decision-making, and learning styles between projectors and other types.

    They emphasise the need to embrace individuality and live in alignment with one's design for more fulfilling relationships.

    Takeaways

    • Human design is a synthesis of ancient philosophies, quantum physics, and astrology, providing a blueprint of who we were always designed to be.
    • Understanding human design can empower individuals to live in alignment with their true selves and make decisions that feel right for them.
    • The traditional education system often fails to recognise and support the unique needs and strengths of individuals, leading to feelings of disconnection and frustration.
    • Labels like ADHD and autism can be seen as part of the human makeup rather than as separate conditions, and human design offers insights into how individuals with these labels can thrive.
    • In relationships, understanding each other's human design can lead to better communication, appreciation of differences, and a more harmonious connection. Projectors have a unique energy and understanding of others due to their shared experience as projectors.
    • Projectors need to be aware of codependency in relationships and set healthy boundaries.
    • Managing energy is crucial for projectors, as they don't create their own energy but transmute the energy around them.
    • Projectors have different approaches to eating, routine, and adapting to different environments compared to other types.
    • Understanding and embracing individuality, as well as setting boundaries, are key to thriving in relationships.


    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction and Backgrounds

    09:04 Understanding Burnout

    15:29 Introduction to Human Design

    22:07 The Impact of Human Design on Education

    33:06 Correlation Between Human Design and Conditions like ADHD and Autism

    35:35 Human Design and Relationships

    46:29 Understanding Projector Energy47:21Codependency and Boundaries

    48:01 Energy Management for Projectors

    49:16 Intuition and Energy Absorption

    50:18 Different Approaches to Eating and Routine

    50:58 Adapting to Different Environments

    51:37 Understanding Different Perspectives

    52:42 Learning and Environment

    53:20 Defined Centers and Decision-Making

    54:20 Human Design and Relationships

    55:21 Conditioning and Open Mindset

    56:12 Navigating Challenges in Relationships

    58:11 Embracing Individuality and Setting Boundaries

    59:57 Shining Your Authentic Self

    01:01:01 Struggles with Setting Boundaries

    01:02:47 Gender and Human Design

    01:03:35 Living in Alignment with Your Design

    Alan is a life coach, who specialises in the area of relationships, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Alan can be found on all FB, Instagram, Ticktok and linked in. Links can be found on his ⁠link tree⁠ www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks

    Claire & Jules

    www.spaceandfreedom.com

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/claire-morton-holistic-life-and-business-performance-strategist-507a5b67/

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/jules-k-20639617/
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    1 h et 6 min
  • Behind the curtains at Relationship Revolutions

    Behind the curtains at Relationship Revolutions
    Apr 11 2024

    This episode, the tables get turned, The host Alan Watts becomes the guest with the return of Anthony Astbury of the "Whole Man Academy" returning to ask the questions.


    You'll get to hear more of the man that is "The Love Engineer" and also what is behind the podcast.


    The journey into becoming a coach, and digging into being dad, step-dad, husband and business.


    Relationship Revolutions is presented & hosted by Alan Watts - The Love Engineer.

    Alan is a relationship & dating coach, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.


    Alan also works with couples in crisis to turn their relationship around and bring deeper connection, more passion, understanding and intimacy.


    To learn more about Anthony Astbury, checkout episode 2 of this podcast. Here https://open.spotify.com/episode/0bPZN8MOdHci8mmtzatkos?si=hPTn5iQqSlWobWc2Hx7EhA
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    1 h