Summary

In this conversation, Arneen, a dating and relationship coach based in New Zealand, discusses the dating culture and challenges in the country. She highlights the relaxed and slow-paced nature of dating in New Zealand, as well as the limited dating pool.

Arneen also explores the influence of Maori culture on relationships, emphasising the collectivist and family-oriented values. The conversation delves into the concept of men as prizes and the importance of managing expectations in dating.

The impact of personal growth and environment on relationships is also discussed, along with the need to look beyond the idealised image of a knight in shining armour. The conversation explores the projection of ideal partners and the importance of looking beyond these projections. It delves into the impact of upbringing and society's conditioning on relationship expectations.

The desire for safety and security, as well as the need to feel seen and special, are discussed. The concept of knights in shining armor and the tendency to overlook important qualities in partners are examined.

The conversation also addresses the impact of masculine energy in relationships and the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies. It challenges stereotypes and superficial expectations, and highlights the importance of understanding men's desires and emotional capacity.

The conversation concludes by emphasising the appreciation of natural beauty and authenticity, as well as the intentions behind chivalrous gestures. In this conversation, Alan & Arneen discuss the impact of modern dating and the role of dating apps. She shares her personal journey to becoming a relationship coach and highlights the importance of self-discovery and personal growth in building healthy and meaningful relationships.

Arneen emphasises the need for deep conversations and early exploration of values and boundaries in relationships. Overall, the conversation highlights the challenges and opportunities in navigating the world of dating and relationships in the 21st century.

Takeaways

Look beyond projections and explore the depths of a person's character.

Balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships for a healthy dynamic.

Understand men's desires and emotional capacity for better communication and connection.

Self-discovery and personal growth are essential for building healthy and meaningful relationships.

Having deep conversations early on in a relationship can help avoid wasting time on incompatible partners.

Chapters

06:02 The Kiwi Way of Dating

07:46 The Man Drought in New Zealand

13:19 The Perception of Men as Prizes

14:36 Managing Expectations in Dating

25:03 Knowing Who You Are in Relationships

28:08 The Impact of Environment on Relationships

32:07 Looking Beyond the Knight in Shining Armor

34:02 The Importance of Looking Beyond Projections

35:21 The Impact of Upbringing and Society's Conditioning

36:17 The Desire for Safety and Security

37:23 The Need to Feel Seen and Special

38:28 Overlooking Important Qualities in Partners

39:01 The Impact of Masculine Energy in Relationships

40:04 The Importance of Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies

43:13 Differentiating Between Healthy and Toxic Relationships

50:33 Challenging Stereotypes and Superficial Expectations

52:25 Understanding Men's Desires and Emotional Capacity

54:09 Appreciating Natural Beauty and Authenticity

57:09 The Intentions Behind Chivalrous Gestures

58:06 The Impact of Modern Dating

01:13:34 The Influence of Dating Apps

01:21:20 Deep Conversations and Early Relationship Exploration

01:26:53 The Importance of Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

Alan Watts - The Love Engineer.

Alan is a relationship coach, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Alan's socials can be found on his link tree

Summary

Guests, Claire and Jules discuss the concept of human design and its impact on various aspects of life, including relationships and education.

The conversation highlights the need for a more individualised approach to education and challenges the traditional system that tries to fit everyone into the same mold.

The speakers also explore the correlation between human design and conditions like ADHD and autism, emphasising the importance of understanding and embracing individual differences.

Claire and Jules discuss human design and its application in relationships. They explore the unique energy of projectors and the challenges they face in understanding and being understood by others.

They also delve into the importance of setting boundaries and managing energy for projectors. The conversation highlights the differences in eating habits, decision-making, and learning styles between projectors and other types.

They emphasise the need to embrace individuality and live in alignment with one's design for more fulfilling relationships.

Takeaways

• Human design is a synthesis of ancient philosophies, quantum physics, and astrology, providing a blueprint of who we were always designed to be.

• Understanding human design can empower individuals to live in alignment with their true selves and make decisions that feel right for them.

• The traditional education system often fails to recognise and support the unique needs and strengths of individuals, leading to feelings of disconnection and frustration.

• Labels like ADHD and autism can be seen as part of the human makeup rather than as separate conditions, and human design offers insights into how individuals with these labels can thrive.

• In relationships, understanding each other's human design can lead to better communication, appreciation of differences, and a more harmonious connection. Projectors have a unique energy and understanding of others due to their shared experience as projectors.

• Projectors need to be aware of codependency in relationships and set healthy boundaries.

• Managing energy is crucial for projectors, as they don't create their own energy but transmute the energy around them.

• Projectors have different approaches to eating, routine, and adapting to different environments compared to other types.

• Understanding and embracing individuality, as well as setting boundaries, are key to thriving in relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Backgrounds

09:04 Understanding Burnout

15:29 Introduction to Human Design

22:07 The Impact of Human Design on Education

33:06 Correlation Between Human Design and Conditions like ADHD and Autism

35:35 Human Design and Relationships

46:29 Understanding Projector Energy47:21Codependency and Boundaries

48:01 Energy Management for Projectors

49:16 Intuition and Energy Absorption

50:18 Different Approaches to Eating and Routine

50:58 Adapting to Different Environments

51:37 Understanding Different Perspectives

52:42 Learning and Environment

53:20 Defined Centers and Decision-Making

54:20 Human Design and Relationships

55:21 Conditioning and Open Mindset

56:12 Navigating Challenges in Relationships

58:11 Embracing Individuality and Setting Boundaries

59:57 Shining Your Authentic Self

01:01:01 Struggles with Setting Boundaries

01:02:47 Gender and Human Design

01:03:35 Living in Alignment with Your Design

Alan is a life coach, who specialises in the area of relationships, working with divorcees and singles who have come out of a long term relationship, and would like to move forward in to a healthy, loving and lasting relationship. Alan can be found on all FB, Instagram, Ticktok and linked in. Links can be found on his ⁠link tree⁠ www.linktr.ee/LoveEngineer Or email directly to relationship-revolutions@theloveengineer.rocks

Claire & Jules

www.spaceandfreedom.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/claire-morton-holistic-life-and-business-performance-strategist-507a5b67/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jules-k-20639617/