What if flirting isn't something you do to get someone to like you, but a way of reconnecting with the playful, confident, magnetic part of yourself?

Confidence therapist, dating strategist, image expert, and Charisma Quotient host Kimmy Seltzer returns to That's What She Said for a bonus conversation all about flirting, especially flirting after 40.

Kimmy and Dr. Robin Buckley unpack why so many accomplished women feel awkward, embarrassed, or completely out of practice when it comes to flirting. They explore how rejection, relationships, aging, perfectionism, shame, and years of being responsible can slowly make women more guarded, even when part of them still wants to feel playful, attractive, and seen.

Kimmy explains why good flirting has less to do with clever lines and more to do with body language, eye contact, approachability, curiosity, playfulness, and letting go of the outcome. She also shares practical ways to practice flirting when you feel rusty, including starting small, making it a game, and learning to tolerate the discomfort of being noticed.

And this conversation goes beyond dating. Robin and Kimmy talk about why flirting often disappears inside long-term relationships, how couples can keep seeing each other as lovers rather than simply logistical partners, and how to distinguish harmless social warmth from outside attention that may be filling an unmet emotional need.

Whether you're dating after 40, putting yourself out there after divorce or a long relationship, trying to rebuild dating confidence, or simply wanting more playfulness and connection in your life, this episode is a reminder that flirting does not have to be a performance.

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Want to discover your own flirting style? Take Kimmy's free Flirt Over 40 quiz at FlirtOver40.com and get access to her follow-up videos and flirt formula.