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Who Do You Think You Are Talking To Podcast

Who Do You Think You Are Talking To Podcast

By: Jenny Maxwell
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Summary
 Hey, I'm Jenny, and if you're stuck in the cycle of overthinking, shutting down, snapping at people you love, or crying at work (again), Who Do You Think You Are Talking To is for you. This is the podcast for people who want to stop reacting on autopilot and start responding with emotional intelligence, especially in tough conversations. You'll learn how to: - manage emotional triggers in real-time - calm your nervous system when you're overwhelmed - stop spiralling after conflict or silence - speak with clarity and confidence—even when it's hard - hold boundaries without over-explaining - repair relationships without losing yourself Whether you freeze, explode, or go into full people-pleasing mode when things get tense, this show will help you feel more grounded, in control, and connected, to yourself and to the people who matter. Every episode offers honest insights, practical strategies, and tools for communicating under pressure, building emotional resilience, and actually enjoying the relationships in your life. If you're ready to change how you show up in conversations, from your partner, to your boss, to your own inner critic, hit follow now so you never miss an episode. Let's take the shame out of speaking up and give you the tools to talk like the grounded, clear, powerful person you already are.2024 Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • 101. Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: The 'Can't vs. Won't' Mindset Switch

    101. Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: The 'Can't vs. Won't' Mindset Switch
    4 Nov 2026
    Don't Miss My FREE Weekly Newsletter Every Sunday! Want more honest conversations and practical advice to help you navigate everyday life and relationships? Every Sunday, I share real stories, personal insights and simple tools you can put into practice in your own life. It's a chance to go a little deeper into the topics we explore on the podcast, with plenty of food for thought along the way. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/816991/142538089324086821/share How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty How many times have you caught yourself saying, "I can't do this anymore"? Maybe you're overwhelmed by family responsibilities, constantly saying yes at work, or feeling exhausted from putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. But what if the problem isn't that you can't do something? What if it's that you won't anymore? In this episode, I'm sharing one of the simplest but most powerful mindset shifts I teach my coaching clients: the difference between "I can't" and "I won't". It might seem like a small change in language, but it can completely change how you approach boundaries, people-pleasing, resentment and personal responsibility. I'll share the story of a client who spent years putting her family's needs before her own, until she reached breaking point. One simple question helped her recognise that she had a choice, and that choosing herself didn't mean she had stopped caring about others. We'll also explore why saying "I can't" can leave you feeling powerless, why people often resist your boundaries, and how to say no clearly and kindly without feeling the need to justify every decision. Because setting boundaries isn't about being selfish, difficult or unkind. It's about being honest about what you're willing to do and what you're no longer prepared to accept. What You'll Learn in This Episode - - The difference between "I can't" and "I won't" – and how changing one word can help you take ownership of your decisions. - Why people-pleasing leads to resentment – and how repeatedly saying yes when you mean no can damage your self-trust. - How to set healthy boundaries without guilt – even when family members, friends or colleagues are used to you always being available. - Why people push back when you start saying no – and how to stay consistent without arguments, drama or lengthy explanations. - How to communicate boundaries with kindness – using a simple framework that combines honesty, appreciation and collaboration. - How to recognise your automatic reactions – and use the trigger, pause, respond approach to make more intentional choices. - Why personal boundaries matter at work too – and how learning to protect your time and energy can improve both your personal and professional relationships. How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty One of the biggest misconceptions about setting boundaries is that you have to become harsh or confrontational. You don't. In this episode, I share a practical way to communicate what you're no longer willing to do while still being considerate of the people around you. Try completing these two sentences: "I won't..." "And what I will do is..." For example: "I won't answer work messages after 8 p.m., but I will get back to you first thing in the morning." It's a simple way to communicate a clear boundary without shutting down the conversation. I also revisit my three-part communication framework: Start with appreciation. Ask for what you want. Share the benefit for everyone. The goal isn't to control someone else's behaviour. It's to become clearer about your own choices and communicate them with confidence. Final Thought You can be caring, generous and supportive without being available to everyone all the time. Setting boundaries doesn't mean you've become cold or selfish. It means you're recognising that your time, energy and needs matter too. And sometimes, the first step towards changing an old habit is simply being honest about what you're choosing. You don't always have to say yes. And you don't always need an excuse to say no. Don't Forget Join Me Every Sunday If this episode has made you think about your own boundaries, people-pleasing habits or the things you've been saying yes to when you really mean no, I'd love you to join my weekly newsletter. Every Sunday, I share more real-life stories, practical tools and simple action steps to help you understand your habits, build healthier relationships and make changes that actually stick. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/816991/142538089324086821/share Connect With Me - Email me: jenny@jennymcoaching.com - Instagram: @jennymcoaching - LinkedIn: Jenny Maxwell Coaching This episode was produced by www.keystepsupport.com
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    19 min
  • 100. Nine Years, One Click, and the Smallest Action That Changes Everything

    100. Nine Years, One Click, and the Smallest Action That Changes Everything
    28 Oct 2026
    DON'T MISS OUT – SIGN UP FOR MY FREE SUNDAY NEWSLETTER Do you want to feel more confident, take control of your emotional reactions and build healthier relationships? Every Sunday, I share real-life stories, honest reflections and practical tools to help you break old habits, communicate better and make small changes that have a lasting impact. Think of it as a little extra support in your inbox each week, helping you put what we talk about on the podcast into practice. https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/816991/142538089324086821/share What if the biggest change in your life started with one tiny decision you've been putting off? Welcome to episode 100 of Who Do You Think You Were Talking To? One hundred episodes! And to celebrate, I want to share a story that reminded me exactly why I started this podcast and why I believe so strongly in the power of small, consistent actions. Recently, a woman I'd never met booked a discovery call with me. She'd never worked with a coach before, and the first thing she said was, "I don't even know what to ask. I don't even know where to start." I knew exactly how she felt. Because before I ever took that first step towards changing my own life, I spent nine years feeling unhappy, frustrated and stuck in patterns I didn't know how to break. Nine years of reacting emotionally, feeling disconnected from myself and knowing something needed to change, but not knowing where to begin. In this episode, I'm sharing what happened during that discovery call, how learning to manage my emotional reactions transformed my relationships with my children, and why the smallest act of self-care can be the beginning of real, lasting personal growth. We also explore something I see all the time in my habit change coaching: how easily we put our own needs last, convince ourselves we haven't earned a little time for ourselves, and wait for the perfect moment to start making changes. But here's what I've learned. You don't need to have everything figured out before you start. You just need to take one small action. And sometimes, that action is as simple as giving yourself permission to enjoy a cup of coffee, take a longer shower or spend ten minutes doing something just for you. What You'll Learn in This Episode - Why taking the first step towards change feels so difficult, especially when you're unsure what you need or where to begin. - How to stop feeling stuck in the same emotional reactions and behaviour patterns. - Why personal growth can positively influence your relationships, family life and business. - How changing the way you communicate can help your children develop healthier communication habits. - Why we often feel we have to earn rest, self-care or time for ourselves. - How small daily actions can build self-respect, confidence and emotional awareness. - How to use my Trigger, Pause, Respond approach to challenge automatic thoughts and make more intentional choices. - Why consistency matters more than making big, dramatic changes. The Smallest Action Can Create the Biggest Shift One of my favourite moments from this discovery call came when I asked a simple question: What's one thing you could do for yourself today that you're not already doing? At first, the answers came with conditions. Things that needed to be bought, sold or earned before she could enjoy them. Sound familiar? How often do we tell ourselves we'll take a break when the work is finished, treat ourselves when we've achieved something, or start looking after ourselves when life settles down? But what if you didn't have to wait? That's where real habit change begins. By learning to recognise those automatic thoughts, pause before responding and choose a different action, you can start changing the way you treat yourself. And when you change how you treat yourself, that change can ripple into how you communicate, how you respond to difficult situations and how you show up in your relationships. Resources & Ways to Connect Ready to make a change but not sure where to start? If you're struggling with emotional reactions, communication challenges, self-confidence or habits that keep holding you back, I'd love to have a conversation. A free discovery call is simply an opportunity for us to talk about where you are now, where you'd like to be and whether working together might be a good fit. Book a Free Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/jennymcoaching/initial-call?month=2026-10 Connect With Me - Email me: jenny@jennymcoaching.com - Instagram: @jennymcoaching - LinkedIn: Jenny Maxwell Coaching Final Thought: You Don't Have to Wait Nine Years Looking back, I wish I'd started making changes sooner. But what I've learned, and what I want you to take away from this 100th episode, is that lasting change doesn't happen because we suddenly become a completely different person. It happens through small choices, repeated consistently. You can learn to manage your emotional reactions, ...
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    20 min
  • 99. Stop Trying to Fix It (Until They Ask)

    99. Stop Trying to Fix It (Until They Ask)
    21 Oct 2026

    Join Me Every Sunday

    Want more honest conversations and practical advice to help you navigate everyday life and relationships?

    Every Sunday, I share real stories, personal insights and simple tools you can put into practice in your own life. It's a chance to go a little deeper into the topics we explore on the podcast, with plenty of food for thought along the way.

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    This Episode

    Have you ever been telling someone about a difficult day, only for them to jump straight in with advice you never asked for?

    Or maybe you're the one who does the fixing. Someone you love is stressed, frustrated or upset, and before they've even finished talking, you're already thinking about what they should do.

    I know that feeling because I've been there myself.

    The problem is that even when our advice comes from a place of love, it doesn't always land that way.

    In this week's episode, I'm talking about why we feel the need to fix other people's problems, how unwanted advice can create resentment in our relationships, and what we can do instead to become better listeners.

    I'm sharing a conversation I had with a coaching client who noticed this pattern in her marriage, along with my own experiences of learning to listen differently as a parent.

    And I'm giving you four simple questions you can start using today to improve communication, support the people you love and stop taking responsibility for problems that aren't yours to solve.

    Why Trying to Fix Everything Can Damage Connection

    When someone we care about is struggling, our instinct is often to help them find a solution.

    But here's something I've learned through my own personal growth and coaching work: sometimes people don't need your advice. They just need to feel heard.

    Jumping in with solutions can unintentionally send the message that we don't trust the other person to work things out for themselves.

    And that's where resentment can begin.

    You feel frustrated because they aren't taking your advice. They feel frustrated because they never asked for it.

    Neither of you intended to create distance, but suddenly you're both feeling a little less understood.

    The good news? You can change this pattern, and it starts with curiosity.

    What You'll Learn in This Episode

    - Why we instinctively try to fix other people's problems, even when they haven't asked for help.

    - How unwanted advice can create frustration and resentment in relationships.

    - The difference between listening to understand and listening to respond.

    - Four practical questions that encourage better communication and emotional connection.

    - How to stop taking responsibility for other people's feelings and decisions.

    - Why curiosity is more powerful than judgment when someone is struggling.

    - How to ask for emotional support when you're the one who needs to vent.

    - How to use my Trigger, Pause, Respond approach to change your automatic reactions.

    Final Thoughts

    Learning to listen without jumping in to fix everything takes practice, especially when it's someone you love and you genuinely want to help.

    In this episode, I want you to think about how you show up in those everyday conversations. Are you really listening to understand, or are you already working out what the other person should do next?

    Small changes in how we communicate can make a big difference to our relationships. And sometimes, the best way to support someone isn't to offer a solution, but to give them the space to figure things out for themselves.

    So this week, pay attention to that urge to fix. Get curious, notice your reactions and see what happens when you approach a conversation a little differently.

    Don't Forget to Join Me Every Sunday

    If you've enjoyed this episode and you'd like more practical tools to help you change old habits, improve your relationships and navigate everyday life with a little more awareness, I'd love you to join my weekly newsletter.

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    Connect With Me

    - Email me: jenny@jennymcoaching.com
    - Instagram: @jennymcoaching
    - LinkedIn: Jenny Maxwell Coaching

    This episode was produced by www.keystepsupport.com
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    25 min
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