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Do you feel like you're watching your own life from a distance instead of living it? That numbness, the lost time, the sense that you were in the room but not really
there — that's dissociation, and it's one of the most common and least discussed trauma responses. Tracy explains why you left, what it's costing you,
and how to come back without flooding.

Every show at House of Blues had a front row and a back of the room. Same band. Same songs. Completely different experience.

In this episode:
- Why you stopped being present — and why it was never a character flaw
- Why you cannot numb selectively, and what that means for your joy
- The four things it costs you to stay at a distance
- Why you can do all the healing work and still feel nothing
- Presence is proximity, not intensity
- Why presence without an exit isn't presence
- 5 ways to come back into the room

"You cannot numb one thing. Your system does not have a dial for dampen the grief but leave the joy alone. It has one master fader and it pulls the whole mix down."
— Tracy Smaldino

🎵 SONGS THAT SAVED US — Healing Playlist:
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