In this introductory episode, Dr. Paulette Sherman explains how your love psychology, defensive styles, past baggage, limiting beliefs and relationship patterns may block your ability to move forward in love, whether you are dating or married. Examples are given about how you contribute to what is not working in your relationships and how your partners can be mirrors for your growth.

This episode discusses how we all have defenses that we use without our awareness. We use them when we are afraid, in order to protect us from being hurt in love. But, oftentimes these defensive styles create issues in our relationships, whether we are dating or married. They tend to push our partner or potential partner away and stop us from having intimacy and connection. Examples are given about how to identify your defensive style, to observe where it comes from and how to change it. This opens up your ability to shift from fear into love and to have greater choice about how to move your relationship forward.

This episode explores how our early familial blueprint affects our romantic relationships when we are dating or married. Our familial blueprint affects us in two ways:

We often unconsciously repeat the dynamics that our parents had with each other in our new relationship because it feels familiar;

And, we may also choose partners similar to our opposite-sex parent, because that was what we learned about the opposite sex and how they would treat us.

When we don't make the past conscious we are often doomed to repeat it. So, we can find ourselves acting as our parents did in our marriage or choosing partners with the same characteristics as our parent.

In order to create what we want now, we need to become conscious of our old blueprint and create a new one so that we have freedom of choice and can create the relationship we desire.

This episode gives examples of how to do this so that you do not repeat the same old unhealthy patterns and can customize your relationship to your own values, lifestyle, personality, and desires.