In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, Emilia and Alan share a story that shines light on how hidden insecurities can turn love into misunderstanding. They gently unpack the weight of personalization when we take things too personally and how it quietly shapes the way we connect. With warmth and wisdom, they offer three simple tools to shift from tension to tenderness. Whether you're caught in your storm or reaching for your partner’s hand, this episode is a soft place to land and a path back to clarity, compassion, and connection.

Show notes:
(1:51) When personal choices trigger conflict
(4:51) Insecurity at the root of reactivity
(7:02) What personalization really means
(9:25) Listen to Jason's and Lisa's testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(11:11) The “me loop” that distorts reality
(16:04) Curiosity: the antidote to taking it personally
(18:03) Three tools to break the pattern
(19:48) Outro

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s eye-opening episode, they unpack what emotional safety means and why it’s the foundation for connection, trust, and long-term love. Through personal stories, coaching insights, and a touching moment from The Vow, they reveal how past experiences, misattunement, and unhealed triggers can quietly sabotage your connection. You’ll learn what emotional safety looks like, how to recognize emotional danger, and what it takes to build a relationship where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.

Show notes:
(3:18) The cost of hiding your true self
(5:26) How past relationships shape the present
(8:03) Real-life triggers in safe relationships
(11:07) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience.
(14:39) The power of attunement in love
(19:50) What emotional safety truly looks like
(23:36) Outro

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___________________________

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*Email:* 💬
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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Ever wonder why small comments turn into big arguments? In this powerful episode, Emilia and Alan reveal the four hidden shame responses that quietly shape how couples react, communicate, and connect. You will discover how blame, defensiveness, withdrawal, and self-criticism often stem from unconscious patterns and what to do instead. With relatable stories and expert insights, this episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to create emotional safety and deepen their relationship.

Show notes:
(2:22) How shame erodes relationships
(7:16) The four main shame responses
(12:38) Real-life examples of shame in action
(14:01) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(20:16) The difference between shame and accountability
(23:02) Coaching and creating emotional safety
(25:43) Outro

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🎙️Thinking about starting a podcast or tired of doing it all yourself? Next Level Podcast Solutions helps over 100+ creators to start, grow, scale, or monetize their podcast.
✨We do what we do best so you can do what you do best.
💬Reach out to Alan or Kevin:
Kevin@nextleveluniverse.com
Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
alan@theweuniversity.com
emilia@theweuniversity.com

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!