When a marriage ends, the loss extends far beyond the relationship itself. Dreams, identity, friendships, family traditions, and the future you imagined can suddenly feel uncertain. For women navigating divorce after betrayal, the grief can be overwhelming, especially when faith, family, and community are deeply intertwined. But what if the end of a marriage doesn't have to mean the end of a meaningful, joy-filled life?

In this episode, we welcome Brandi Wilson, author of Better Than Okay: Finding Hope and Healing After Your Marriage Ends. After the unexpected end of her 20-year marriage to a megachurch pastor, Brandi found herself rebuilding a life she never imagined living. Through grief, loss, and uncertainty, she discovered renewed purpose and hope. Brandi shares her personal journey and offers heartfelt encouragement to women navigating divorce, reminding them that healing is possible and their stories are far from over.

Key Takeaways from the Episode

• Grieving the immediate and unexpected losses of divorce
• Navigating doubt and second-guessing difficult decisions
• The church's response to divorce and destructive marriages
• Finding connection and support through loneliness
• Helping children navigate divorce and family changes
• Rebuilding identity, confidence, and purpose
• Finding hope when life looks nothing like you imagined
• Encouragement for women beginning again

Connect with Brandi Wilson

Book: Better Than Okay: Finding Hope and Healing After Your Marriage Ends (Bethany House, 2023)

Website: www.lovebrandiwilson.com

Instagram: @lovebrandiwilson

Connect with Kris Rocha

Watermark Coaching: www.watermarkcoach.com

Afternoon Tea: Join our confidential weekly online support group for women healing from betrayal trauma. We meet every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and register through Watermark Coaching.

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

Email: thebrtpodcast@gmail.com

Thank you for listening to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! If today's conversation encouraged you, we'd be grateful if you subscribed, rated, and reviewed the show. Your support helps us reach more women searching for hope, healing, and transformation after betrayal.

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

Betrayal shakes us to our core. It doesn't just damage trust in a relationship ... it can leave us questioning who we are, what we believe, and whether we'll ever feel like ourselves again.

In this special episode of the Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, Kris Rocha shares a conversation from the Choose Connection Summit, hosted by Dr. Jake Porter. Interviewed by Kathy Reynolds, Kris explores one of the most meaningful aspects of betrayal recovery: rediscovering our God-given identity.

When betrayal becomes part of our story, it's easy to allow the pain, confusion, and trauma to define us. But betrayal is something that happened to you. It is not who you are.

Drawing from her personal healing journey and her work as a betrayal recovery coach, Kris shares how understanding our unique personalities, strengths, gifts, and values can help us rebuild confidence, reclaim our sense of self, and begin living intentionally again.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why betrayal can leave us feeling disconnected from our identity.
• The difference between what has happened to us and who we truly are.
• How understanding our God-given design can support healing and personal growth.
• The importance of identifying our personality, strengths, gifts, and core values.
• Why rediscovering ourselves is about more than simply returning to who we were before betrayal.
• How we can move beyond survival and begin living with greater purpose, confidence, and intention.

Healing isn't about erasing our story. It's about learning that our pain doesn't get to author who we become.

You are more than what happened to you. You are uniquely designed, deeply valuable, and worthy of a life filled with meaning and purpose.

Connect with Kris & Watermark Coaching

Watermark Coaching: Individual betrayal recovery coaching and identity-focused personal development. https://www.watermarkcoach.com

Afternoon Tea with Kris: Looking for connection with other women who understand the complexities of betrayal recovery? Join Kris for Afternoon Tea, a supportive weekly gathering where women can find encouragement, meaningful conversation, and community.

Learn more at https://www.watermarkcoach.com

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching

About the Choose Connection Summit

Special thanks to Dr. Jake Porter and Kathy Reynolds for the opportunity to share this important conversation as part of the Choose Connection Summit.

Production Credits

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.

What if, instead of fighting the parts of ourselves we wish would go away, we learned to move toward them with curiosity and compassion? In this episode, we welcome Jenna Riemersma back to the podcast to explore a simpler, practical approach to Internal Family Systems (IFS) through her new book, Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You. Jenna shares how this accessible framework can help us understand what is happening inside of us during moments of activation, respond to ourselves with less shame, and move toward greater healing and connection.

Jenna Riemersma is a bestselling author, therapist, Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist Supervisor (CSAT-S), and nationally recognized speaker whose work makes Internal Family Systems accessible and applicable to everyday life. She specializes in helping people heal from trauma, shame, relational wounds, and internal conflict through IFS. Her newest book, Move Toward, distills the heart of IFS into three simple steps—Notice, Know, Need—that can be used in real time when difficult emotions or protective parts show up.

Key Takeaways from the Episode

• A simple introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS)
• Why Jenna created Move Toward
• The three steps: Notice, Know, Need
• Using Move Toward during betrayal triggers
• Responding to our parts with curiosity instead of shame
• How inner healing can change our relationships
• Practical ways to use Move Toward in everyday life

Connect with Jenna Riemersma

Learn more about Jenna, explore her free resources and guided Move Toward meditations, and find information about her books on her website.

Book: Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You

Find Move Toward on Amazon

You can also visit MoveToward.com for resources related specifically to the Move Toward approach. Jenna offers free guided experiences for areas including anxiety, depression, betrayal trauma, triggers, and compulsive sexual behavior.

Continue Your Healing Journey

Visit Watermark Coaching for resources on betrayal recovery and identity coaching.

Afternoon Tea — Join our confidential weekly online support group for women healing from betrayal trauma. We meet every Thursday at 4:30 PM Pacific. Learn more and register through Watermark Coaching.

Instagram: @watermarkcoaching Email: thebrtpodcast@gmail.com

Thank you for listening to The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast! If today's conversation encouraged you, we'd be grateful if you subscribed, rated, and reviewed the show. Your support helps us reach more individuals and couples searching for hope, healing, and transformation after betrayal.

Edited and produced by Cory Gonzalez.