Someone can check every box on your list and still be wrong for the life you actually want to build.

Episode Summary

In this episode of The Connection Fix, host Joey Klein breaks down why the list most of us bring to dating (the height, the income, the look, the career) means very little until you know the life you're trying to build.

You'll learn the questions to answer about your own life first, what someone's emotional energy and mindset tell you that their current stats can't, and discover why dating works better as an exercise in discernment.

Question of the Day 🗣️

What was on your list that, looking back, had nothing to do with the life you actually wanted to build?

Key Take-aways

• Get clear on how you want to live, where, and what you're building before you evaluate anyone else
• Watch the core energy someone brings into a space, because that's what they'll fuel the relationship with
• Read their mindset for who they already are, not what they've accumulated so far
• Two high performers can build an extraordinary life, but somebody still has to run the house and raise the kids
• Stop asking whether someone earned their way onto the list; ask whether their way of being fits your vision

Timestamped Outline ⏱️

00:00 - The list most people start with
00:38 - Vision before qualifications
02:05 - Their current stats aren't who they are
02:34 - Start with their emotional energy
03:24 - Then look at their mindset
04:26 - Two ultra-high performers, one household
05:56 - Stop looking for impressive
06:52 - Dating as an exercise in discernment
07:16 - Start with your own life
08:26 - One question to sit with

Links & Resources 🔗

• Issue 034, Believe Them The First Time -> https://youtu.be/crUcZPoDKSk
• Issue 030, Your Most Important Investment -> https://youtu.be/REAVpiOqoBw
• Issue 028, Listen to Their Actions -> https://youtu.be/wD1Ye4Xy2pc
• The Connection Fix on the Blog -> https://joeyklein.com/the-connection-fix
• The Connection Fix Podcast (Spotify) -> https://open.spotify.com/show/3oMvTF6uHxAh5QQ8JezjEH
• The Connection Fix (full YouTube playlist) -> https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuuZmMSR_HqdY8vE6a0Kv2gi8sEBXkEJt
• Subscribe to The Connection Fix -> https://theconnectionfix.com

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Credits

Host: Joey Klein
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