Early dating often feels clear one moment and confusing the next. In this episode, George breaks down the dating psychology behind what actually happens when someone pulls back after a good date—and why this shift in modern dating usually has more to do with pacing than interest.

We look at the dating behaviour patterns behind mixed signals, the difference between processing time and actual disinterest, and how masculine clarity often looks different from feminine pacing when the energy changes. The goal isn't to fix anything—it's to understand the pattern so you can see it earlier next time.

⏱️ Chapters (Timestamps)

(00:00) - Intro

(00:51) - The Story

(02:41) - Pattern Clarity

(05:19) - Psychological Insight

(12:00) - What to Say If You Have the Conversation

(14:41) - When The Roles Are Reversed

(16:58) - Masculine Feminine Timing

(17:45) - Practical Takeaways

(22:46) - Outro

📚 Concepts & Frameworks

This episode discusses:

• Early dating confusion and the "Frame Shift" after intimacy
• Interest vs. Readiness: Why they aren't the same thing
• Masculine behaviour (Reflection) vs. Feminine Pacing (Continuity)
• The 3 Pullback Types: Processing, Avoidance, and Playing

🎵 Music Credits

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By Your Side – Justin Lee

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Firelight – Hemlock

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Modern dating often feels like a game you can't win. That’s because the apps aren’t designed to help you find a partner—they’re designed to keep you searching.

In this episode, George Dus breaks down the real reason connections fade after a great first date. We look at the "Nicole and Mark" pattern—where hedging bets replaces choosing—and the dating psychology behind why endless options actually cause dating fatigue and confusion.

We explore:

• Why the "Paradox of Choice" makes us freeze instead of commit.
• How apps distort masculine clarity and feminine receptivity, leading to constant mixed signals.
• The business model that profits from keeping you single.

This is a grounded look at dating behaviour patterns and the system behind the swipe, helping you see the game clearly so you can stop blaming yourself for the results.

⏱️ Chapters (Timestamps)

(00:00) - Intro

(01:45) - The Story

(04:52) - How Apps Actually Work

(09:15) - Masculine & Feminine Energy on Apps

(10:44) - The Business Model

(11:37) - What You Can Do

(14:41) - Outro

📚 Concepts & Frameworks

This episode discusses:

• The Paradox of Choice (Barry Schwartz)
• Dating App Slot Machine Psychology
• Hedging vs. Choosing behaviors
• Masculine clarity vs. Feminine receptivity in digital spaces

🎵 Music Credits

Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!)

By Your Side – Justin Lee

→ https://uppbeat.io/t/justin-lee/by-your-side

License code: V9WDYDGF5FQ8EEQA

Firelight – Hemlock

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Welcome to The Spirit of Dating, your spiritual dating podcast.

Do you ever catch yourself texting slower, pulling back a little, or dropping hints to see how someone reacts? This week, George Dus explores the testing game—those subtle protective behaviours that feel like safety but quietly erode real connection.

Through a story many will see themselves in, George reveals why testing often starts long before a relationship becomes serious, how it impacts emotional safety, and why it keeps even the best connections stuck in uncertainty.

He also unpacks the energetic shift that occurs when we stop managing outcomes and start letting ourselves be seen.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I sabotage something good?” or “Why does calm connection feel unfamiliar?”—this episode offers the clarity you’ve been craving.

• What emotional testing actually is—and why it happens even with good partners
• How testing shows up differently in masculine and feminine energy
• A simple pause technique to break testing cycles before they do damage
• How to communicate uncertainty without turning it into a test
• Ways to build internal safety so trust feels less threatening

(00:00) – Intro

(02:26) – The Story

(09:23) – Spirit Lens

(12:23) – Polarity Lesson

(15:52) – Self-Awareness & Practice

(21:00) – Truth Telling

(24:27) – Practical Takeaway

(27:39) – Closing

(29:41) – Spirit Whisper

(29:54) – Outro

This episode touches lightly on:

• Trust & emotional safety
• Polarity and nervous-system dynamics
• Attachment patterns (non-clinical, practical lens)

Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!)

By Your Side – Justin Lee

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What Happens Next – Tyler Edwards

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The Spirit of Dating stands with all who face crisis or abuse in relationships. Love should never harm. If you need support, reach out to a trusted hotline or service.

U.S. National DV Hotline – 1-800-799-7233 | thehotline.org Canada – sheltersafe.ca U.K. – Refuge 0808 2000 247 | refuge.org.uk Australia – 1800 Respect 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Global – UN Women | unwomen.org · Hot Peach Pages | hotpeachpages.net

You are not alone. 💜

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