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SOCIAL HEALTH: Why am I always the one reaching Out?

SOCIAL HEALTH: Why am I always the one reaching Out?

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Why am I always the one reaching out?” That was hands down, by far the biggest complaint we heard from you when we asked about friendship. The texts that go unanswered. The friends who say, “We need to get together!” but never actually make a plan. The feeling that if you stopped reaching out, the friendship might just… disappear. So in Episode 2 of our series on social health, Liz Bohannon and I are tackling reciprocity and asking a complicated question: Do friendships actually need to be 50/50? What should we expect from our friends? When does being the one who always initiates become exhausting? And how do you know whether you're investing in a friendship that's actually giving something back? Liz challenges the way we think about keeping score in friendship and offers a completely different framework for thinking about who reaches out, who shows up and what we're really asking of one another. If you've ever thought, “Fine. I'm done reaching out. Let's see if they ever call me…”then this episode is for you. (I’m guilty of this!) Because friendship isn't always as simple as who texted first. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : 0:00:00 Initiation Is the Price of Admission 0:04:20 Social Health Is Your Job, Not Theirs 0:09:05 From Consumer to Co‑Creator of Connection 0:14:30 Replace Reciprocity with Long‑Term Mutual Benefit 0:19:45 When Unequal Initiation Still Works 0:25:10 Rhythms and Rituals Beat One‑Off Hangouts 0:30:20 Make Recurring Plans Your Social “Rock” 0:35:40 Handling Mismatched Commitment Like an Adult 0:41:15 Naming Your Needs with “Big Kid Words” 0:46:30 Treat Inner‑Circle Friendships Like a Marriage 0:51:00 Clear Expectations to Prevent Silent Resentment In this episode, we are diving into reciprocity in friendship and relationships, two things to consider if you are always the one initiating, how American culture shapes our view of friendship and community, mutual benefit in relationships and why that matters more than reciprocity, personal responsibility in friendship and social health, good communication with friends, and healthy expectations in friendship. Links + Resources SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. Connect with Paula on Instagram Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!! THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter is on Substack!! Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All YOUTUBE SEEDS: Download the free SEEDS app and take one small step today: plant your first seed and see what God can grow. https://tinyurl.com/RONSeedsApp Connect with Paula on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms is on Substack https://officialcarrymedia.substack.com/ Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!! https://paulafarisofficial.substack.com/ Grab a copy of Paula’s book, You Don’t Have To Carry It All : https://amzn.to/4e80WyF Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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