This week Jay chats with the brilliant Charlotte Law - mum, co-parent, advocate, creator of SENDFest, half of SAA Clothing, and the heart behind the Instagram community @twins_tides_and_autism_vibes.

It’s warm, funny, honest, and full of Fleetwood Mac, big feelings, and donut-based life skills.

What we talked about

💬 Charlotte’s world

• Mum to Jude, Tommy, and twin girls.
• Co-parenting with James from Stories About Autism.
• Building SAA Clothing as a community built on “we see you, we get you.”

🎵 Music as magic & regulation

• How music opens Jude’s world - from Alexa playlists to full-on raves.
• Why music is connection, regulation, and comfort rolled into one.
• Her three road-trip songs.
• The song that makes her cry every time:

😂 Playlists, raves & donut challenges

Jay and Charlotte compare playlists, talk about music that transports them, and agree they absolutely need a donut-in-one-bite showdown.

🧡 Inclusion — what it actually means

Charlotte puts it perfectly:

• Different is not less.
• Inclusion is seeing the whole person, not hunting for a “special talent.”
• Celebrate difference - don’t shrink it down.

🌈 Advice for young disabled people & parent carers

• Don’t reshape yourself to fit in.
• Being you is enough.
• Celebrate your uniqueness - it changes the room.
• Hard days are normal. Don’t hide them.

🌙 The after-9pm idea…

Charlotte and Jay accidentally invent a new series: the weekly inappropriate round-up of phrases Jay brings home from college. Coming soon (probably from a locked bathroom so Charlotte’s 8-year-olds can’t hear).

Where to find Charlotte

Instagram: @twins_tides_and_autism_vibes

This is where she shares family life, advocacy, SENDFest updates, and all the behind-the-scenes realness.

In this episode Jay sits down with the brilliant Gemma Bryan, known to many of you through Isla’s Voice, her honest, funny and much-loved corner of the internet. Gemma talks about parenting, inclusion, lived experience and the power of music to help you laugh, cry and get through life.

We chat about her road trip bangers, the songs that shaped her childhood, the tracks that bring happy tears, and why Roam by The B-52s absolutely deserves its place on any playlist. Gemma also shares how music has carried her through the hardest moments, what real inclusion actually looks like, and why nothing about us without us should always be the starting point.

There are stories about Roland Rat on vinyl, Dad’s band days, bath-and-a-beal moments, 90s classics, and the chaos of Mariah Carey ruining perfectly good songs. It is warm, funny and full of proper SEND-world honesty.

You can find Gemma at Isla’s Voice on Facebook at https://facebook.com/islasvoice where she is most active and regularly shares life, humour and lived experience.

For more information about Festability and inclusive events, please go to festability.co.uk.

In this episode Jay chats with Kerry Banks, the fundraising powerhouse behind Martha Trust and the organiser of Music on the Farm. Kerry has spent almost twenty years in events and fundraising, and her passion for community, inclusion and music shines through from the very first minute.

Kerry talks about the song that always lifts her up, the Elvis track that still brings tears, and which song guarantees she is on the dance floor. She also shares the story of how she first got into charity events, what she has learned from working with people with profound disabilities, and how music has become the heartbeat of her work.

Jay and Kerry dive into what inclusion really means, the tiny things that make a big difference, and how she uses her voice to challenge ignorance and champion disability awareness. There are also some excellent dad jokes about Sandwich and Ham, which she absolutely leans into.

It is warm, funny and full of proper community spirit.

If you would like to find out more about Martha Trust and their work, please visit marthatrust.org.uk.

For more information about Festability and inclusive events, please go to festability.co.uk.