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I disappeared for a while because my brain and my heart felt empty, and pretending otherwise didn’t feel honest. Between a year of deep reflection and the reality of perimenopause, I hit a point where I didn’t recognize parts of myself. The fog, the lost creativity, the no-focus days, and the constant second-guessing pushed me to get support, including HRT and therapy, and to finally say out loud: I’m tired of repeating my own patterns.

That’s where Bell Hooks comes in. I’m kicking off season six as a 13 to 14 week All About Love book study, using the preface, introduction, and chapter one to talk about what love actually is and what it isn’t. I share what it looks like when I’m more focused on being chosen than asking the question that matters most: are they right for me?

I also get practical about emotional safety and boundaries, including what happens when someone raises their voice, I shut down, and nobody feels heard. Bell Hooks and M. Scott Peck frame love as a choice, an act of will, and a set of actions like care, respect, commitment, trust, and responsibility. If you’ve ever felt lonelier with someone than you do alone, or carried resentment after betrayal, you’ll recognize the moments where self-trust breaks and how to start rebuilding it.

Listen, then come back and tell me this: is love a noun, or a verb you practice? If this resonates, subscribe, share the episode with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

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