Episodes

  • What to Do When Counseling Is Not Going Anywhere

    What to Do When Counseling Is Not Going Anywhere
    30 Sep 2026
    One of the hardest realities you have to face as a discipler is this: not everyone you meet with will change even when you are saying the right things, using solid resources, and praying faithfully. Some people will sit across from you month after month with very little movement, very little humility, and very little evidence that they intend to align their lives with what they say they believe. When that happens, a new kind of burden settles on your shoulders. It’s no longer just, “How can I help them change?” Now it’s, “How long should I keep doing this?” Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/what-to-do-when-counseling-is-not-going-anywhere/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    18 min
  • When Is Enough, Enough? The Hardest Thing You Will Ever Do

    When Is Enough, Enough? The Hardest Thing You Will Ever Do
    1 Oct 2026
    Every shepherd eventually faces this gut-wrenching reality: not everyone you care for will choose life. Not everyone you disciple will walk in wisdom. There are people you will fight for, cry for, lose sleep over, intercede for, and plead with, only to watch them return again and again to the very choices that are destroying them. What do you do with that reality? How you navigate and interpret it will determine whether you rest in God’s sovereignty or are crushed under imaginary responsibility. It will decide whether or not you serve difficult people with hope and endurance or whether you operate like a frantic, exhausted, despairing “mini-messiah” who tries to rescue people who have no intention of cooperating with God’s grace. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/when-is-enough-enough-the-hardest-thing-you-will-ever-do/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    17 min
  • Why Do I Do That? Can You Help Me?

    Why Do I Do That? Can You Help Me?
    15 Oct 2026
    Have you ever had that moment where you watch yourself behave, almost from the outside, and think, “Why in the world did I just do that?” Maybe it was a sharp tone with your spouse, a late-night dive into sinful escape, a moody withdrawal you couldn’t shake, or a wave of despair you couldn’t explain. That honest bewilderment—Why do I do that?—is actually one of the most hopeful starting points in the Christian life, because it means you are paying attention. You see something in you that doesn’t line up with who you want to be in Christ, and you’re not content to baptize it, excuse it, or pretend it doesn’t exist. Most believers live with a gap between who they are and who they long to be. That gap produces a constant hum of dissatisfaction: “I know the right answers, I know what I should feel or do, but when real life comes at me, I seem to default to the same old patterns. What is wrong with me?” Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/why-do-i-do-that-can-you-help-me/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    20 min
  • Church Discipline- How to Help a Person Get Right with God

    Church Discipline- How to Help a Person Get Right with God
    4 Oct 2026
    Every discipler eventually faces this sobering dilemma: What do you do when a professing Christian refuses to walk with God? Not someone ignorant of the gospel, but someone who knows the truth, has heard the truth, has been confronted with the truth, but chooses to ignore it. It is one of the hardest tensions you’ll ever carry in discipleship. You want to see them restored. But the more they push away from the Lord, the heavier your heart becomes, and the more you feel the weight of responsibility… even though you know you cannot change another person. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/how-to-help-a-person-get-right-with-god/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    19 min
  • Why Can’t I Have My Life the Way I Want It, on My Terms?

    Why Can’t I Have My Life the Way I Want It, on My Terms?
    7 Oct 2026
    Every person carries a vision—spoken or unspoken—of the life they hope to live. It forms early and grows quietly. Sometimes it begins in childhood with innocent dreams about the kind of home we want, the type of person we hope to marry, or the work we imagine ourselves doing. Sometimes it emerges later, shaped by our gifts, opportunities, hurts, and longings. And though the details differ from person to person, the instinct is universal. We picture a preferred future and move toward it with expectation. There is nothing sinful about this. God built into humanity the ability to imagine, hope, steward, cultivate, and plan. These desires reflect our status as image-bearers who long for order, beauty, purpose, and joy. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/why-cant-i-have-life-on-my-terms/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    14 min
  • You Can Do Better Than a Bible Study- Spend Time with God

    You Can Do Better Than a Bible Study- Spend Time with God
    8 Oct 2026
    Have you ever stopped long enough to think about the difference between spending time with God and simply doing a Bible study? At first, those two things may sound identical. After all, both activities may have a Bible open, perhaps a pen in hand, maybe a notebook beside you, or a study guide in front of you. But if you listen more carefully and look beneath the surface, there is a world of difference between the person who is interacting mainly with a book and the person who is walking with a Person while they read that book. One way of relating to Scripture can make you informed. The other way can transform you. One leaves you with answers on a page. The other leaves you with affection, assurance, and alignment with the living God. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/do-better-than-bible-study-spend-time-with-god/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    20 min
  • When You Can’t See What You Need to See

    When You Can’t See What You Need to See
    11 Oct 2026
    One of the most damaging misunderstandings in today’s church is the belief that a personal relationship with God is meant to be a private one. Many Christians embrace the idea that salvation is God-and-me, Jesus-and-me, my-faith-my-business. They view the Christian life like a private devotional journal—something tucked away, protected, sealed off from community involvement. They are grateful for salvation. They know the Lord has forgiven them. They know the cross has rescued them from sin and eternal judgment. They want the “personal benefits” of redemption, but they fail to grasp the relational demands and communal implications of belonging to Christ. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/when-you-cant-see-what-you-cant-see-you-need-a-friend-heres-what-to-do/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    21 min
  • There Are Only Four Problems In Life For You To Solve

    There Are Only Four Problems In Life For You To Solve
    13 Oct 2026
    Most people live as though their lives contain a thousand different problems, all unique, tangled, and unmanageable. They believe their story is so unusually complicated that no one else could possibly understand what they’re dealing with. That assumption is not just crippling; it’s untrue. The truth is far more hopeful: there are only four problems in life, and every person on the planet has the exact same four. Not only that, but God tells us the order in which those four problems must be resolved. Miss the order, and life becomes chaos. Follow the order, and clarity begins to rise, like light breaking through a fogged window. To see this more clearly, you need to meet Biff. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/there-are-only-4-problems-in-life-our-job-solve-them/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.
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    20 min