Dad Buzz is the unfiltered, slightly inappropriate dad-talk segment from Odyssey and Alchemy. Marty, Andy, and Tyler get together to compare notes on fatherhood, teenagers, sibling chaos, retro technology, waterbeds, infomercials, and the strange challenges of raising kids in the modern world.

In this inaugural episode, the dads tackle whether kids should be allowed to quit sports, how to handle sibling fights over the TV remote, what to do when you find porn on your teenager’s laptop, and whether only children are really doomed to be lonely. Expect crude jokes, questionable parenting theories, nostalgic tangents, and the occasional “psychologist take” that they may or may not follow.

No credentials. No expert advice. Just three dads figuring it out out loud.

Explicit language. Parenting adjacent.

Why do men who understand their patterns perfectly well still not change? Licensed mental health counselor Alexander Osterman, author of Quit Evading: A Therapist’s Field Manual for Men in Drift, explains why insight alone doesn’t change a life, and what does.

In this conversation, Martin and Alex cover:

• What “drift” looks like in a man’s life and how to recognize it
• How to start shadow work, including the “level 10 reaction” test
• Why men can be both under-therapized and over-therapized
• What real Stoicism offers that the cold-shower internet version misses
• Pain vs. suffering, Vipassana, and Buddhist psychology meeting Stoic philosophy
• Identity collapse, grief, and why holding onto an old role keeps you stuck
• The chrysalis: why transformation is messy before it’s beautiful
• Discipline as a built skill, tapas, and rebuilding agency with boring daily habits
• The one thing to do this week if you recognize yourself in all of this

Alex also shares his own collapse at 26 (cancer, a seven-and-a-half-year relationship ending, moving back in with his parents) and how making his bed, applying for a job and taking a walk started the rebuild.

Find Alexander’s book and work at alexanderosterman.com.

Chapters:

• 02:24 What drift looks like
• 03:37 Why insight doesn’t lead to action
• 04:30 Therapy vs. coaching
• 08:57 Alex’s own collapse and the case against insight alone
• 12:19 Why Jung
• 14:41 Are men over-therapized?
• 17:20 How to start shadow work
• 23:38 Real Stoicism vs. internet Stoicism
• 26:21 Pain, suffering and Vipassana
• 33:37 “Condemned to be free”
• 36:35 What avoidance protects, and identity
• 41:57 Grief and identity collapse
• 45:45 The chrysalis
• 48:16 Discipline and tapas
• 50:15 Working with men vs. women
• 51:16 Rebuilding agency day to day
• 52:23 One thing to do this week

What if the thing sabotaging your next big move isn't fear — it's a security guard who's been on duty since childhood?

Dr. Julie Gowthorpe is a registered social worker and founder of Gowthorpe Therapists in Ontario, where she and her team provide trauma-informed care for individuals, couples, and families — including specialized work with police, military members, and First Nations communities navigating intergenerational trauma. Her new book, Heal Childhood Trauma, lays out what she calls self-nurturing therapy: learning to become the parent your inner child never had.

In this conversation we explore inner transformation through the lens of attachment and the body — the four attachment styles formed in childhood and how they quietly run your adult relationships, why nervous system regulation (not willpower) is what actually lets someone stop bypassing pain through alcohol, humor, or compulsive behavior, the ACE study and how early trauma shows up decades later at the cellular level, why men specifically tend to be "fine, fine, fine — until they're not," and how intergenerational trauma gets passed down through parents who were never taught how to nurture in the first place. Martin and Julie also get into the Buddhist metaphor of the two bags we carry — one full of everyone else's shortcomings, one full of our own we can't see — and why your "villains" are often the clearest mirror into your own unhealed parts.

This is a conversation about what's actually on the other side of doing this work: not happiness, but freedom — the kind where your shoulders drop and you trust yourself to respond with wisdom instead of react from fear.

https://drjuliegowthorpersw.com/

If this conversation moved something in you, a rating or review helps more people find this work. Martin's book, The Weary Traveller's Guide to a Life Worth Living, is available now.