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Do you ever feel pulled in so many directions that you’re not quite sure how you want to show up anymore?

In this episode, I talk about something I come back to often in workshops and conversations with farmers: values.

We hear a lot about identifying our values, but living them can be much harder when life feels busy, uncertain, and full of competing demands. I share why values matter, why they can sometimes feel uncomfortable, and how they can help us find direction when life feels messy.

I also share the difference between values and goals, why values need to go deeper than broad ideas like "family" or "work", and how understanding the way we want to show up can help us make decisions that feel more aligned with what matters most. Because often the challenge isn't knowing our values. It's working out what to do when they seem to be pulling us in different directions.

If you've ever felt torn between family and farm, presence and legacy, or competing expectations within yourself or your relationships, this episode will give you practical ways to reflect on what's important and find a steadier path forward. It's not about getting it perfect. It's about having a compass to help guide you when things feel uncertain.

I'd love to hear your thoughts after listening. What value is guiding you most in this season of life? Come and connect with me on Instagram and send me a DM @stephschmidt.farmlifepsych

What we cover in this episode

• Why values can seem simple in theory but feel difficult to live out in everyday life
• How values can act as a compass during stressful and uncertain seasons
• The difference between values and goals
• Why values are ongoing directions rather than achievements to tick off
• The discomfort that can arise when our actions don't align with what matters most
• Why values clarification can be confronting but useful
• The importance of narrowing down to one to three key values
• How conflicting values can leave us feeling pulled in multiple directions
• Why broad values such as family, work or health need deeper exploration
• Exploring the question: "What about family matters most to me?"
• Different ways people can express the same value through different choices
• Examples of values including presence, connection, stability, contribution, creativity and legacy
• How values can shift across different seasons of life
• Navigating value conflicts within ourselves
• Navigating value differences within relationships and families
• Practical reflections to help identify and clarify personal values
• Using values to move beyond expectations and "shoulds"
• Finding direction when life feels overwhelming or uncertain

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• Steph's upcoming events

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