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Like Me Podcast

Like Me Podcast

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A podcast on identity, truth, and life after trauma. Honest conversations where the personal and the systemic meet. Hosted by J'K Frederick

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  • EP 23. Sister, Keep It Moving - Nine Lessons I Learnt After Sexual Violence

    EP 23. Sister, Keep It Moving - Nine Lessons I Learnt After Sexual Violence
    31 Jul 2026

    Episode number: EP 23

    Sister Keep It Moving - Nine Lessons I Learnt After Sexual Violence

    Podcast: Like Me Officially with J'K Frederick

    Category: Society & Culture / Gender-Based Violence / Policy & Accountability / Personal

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    Nine things I've learnt on my healing journey. Not steps. Not a formula. Just what actually held.

    In this episode:

    — Defending my truth to people who didn't believe me, and when I stopped

    — Forgiveness, and everything it isn't

    — The nervous system, and why it isn't the same as personality

    — Being named a victim before I'd named myself

    — Blame, and where it actually belongs

    — Triggers, reframed as information rather than failure

    — Choosing myself, and why that was necessary, not selfish

    — Still unlearning, because the list doesn't end here

    This episode touches on sexual violence and trauma. Please take care of yourself while listening, step away if you need to, and come back when you're ready.

    If anything here resonates, join the conversation on Substack - https://jkfrederick.substack.com/

    If You Need Support

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    25 min
  • EP 22. The Cost of Witnessing -Your Story on the World Stage

    EP 22. The Cost of Witnessing -Your Story on the World Stage
    28 Jun 2026
    Episode number: EP 22Podcast: Like Me Officially with J'K FrederickCategory: Society & Culture / Gender-Based Violence / Policy & AccountabilityThe Cost of Witnessing - Your Story on the World StageWhat does it actually cost a survivor to witness their own experience play out in reports, courtrooms, news cycles, and public arguments, often without ever being in the room? In this episode, J’K Frederick names that cost plainly, traces it through the body, and shares what has helped her manage it over the years.Opening with a tribute to Virginia Giuffre and Cassie — two women whose stories represent different dimensions of the cost of speaking out, J’K moves through the reality of sixteen active conflicts and what conflict-related sexual violence means for the estimated 840 million women and girls globally who share some version of this experience.This is not an episode about resilience. It’s an episode about determination, drive, and the work of staying present in your own life when the world keeps asking you to witness the worst of it.In This EpisodeVirginia Giuffre and Cassie - two names, two kinds of costSixteen active conflicts and what they mean for women and girlsUnited Nations data: conflict-related sexual violence more than doubled in one year840 million women and girls globally: the lived witnessThe body’s response to indirect trauma exposure - Van Der KolkThe Rape Crisis England and Wales Living in Limbo report (2025)>> readWhat J’K actually does: journalling, breathwork, walking, singing, crying, safe friends, silenceThe 5 Minute Journal - how J’K got back to writing after her diary was thrown awayLearning to be your own safe friend firstStopping self harm and replacing it with self loveAudre Lorde on self-preservation as political warfareBoys and young men - sexual violence isn’t exclusive to women and girlsDetermination over resilience — and why the distinction mattersKey Quotes“The body doesn’t read the news. The body feels it.”“Presence first. Release second. Not the other way around.”“Being a witness is not a role I asked for. But since it chose me — I have to find ways to manage all the feelings and emotions that come with it.”“Openness isn’t weakness. It’s how the good gets in.”“I decided I’m not finished.”Research & SourcesRape Crisis England and Wales — Living in Limbo (2025): rapecrisis.org.ukUN Annual Report on Conflict-Related Sexual Violence (2026): un.org/sexualviolenceinconflictOffice National Statistic - Sexual Offences in England and Wales: ons.gov.ukBessel van der Kolk - The Body Keeps the Score (Penguin, 2014)Peter Levine - Waking the Tiger (North Atlantic Books, 1997)Gabor Maté - When the Body Says No (Vermilion, 2019)Audre Lorde - The Cancer Journals (Aunt Lute Books, 1980)Audre Lorde -A Burst of Light (Firebrand Books, 1988)The Five Minute Journal - Alex Ikonn & U.J. Ramdas, Intelligent Change: intelligentchange.comIf You Need SupportRape Crisis England & Wales: rapecrisis.org.uk | 0808 500 2222 (Free, 24/7)Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02Samaritans: samaritans.org | 116 123 (Free, 24/7)Support Directory UK and Internationalhttps://jkfrederick.substack.com/ Get full access to J'K Here at jkfrederick.substack.com/subscribe
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    39 min
  • EP 21. Who Taught Them That?

    EP 21. Who Taught Them That?
    14 Jun 2026
    Episode number: EP21Podcast: Like Me Officially with J'K FrederickCategory: Society & Culture / Gender-Based Violence / Policy & AccountabilityIn 2024, over 122,000 child sexual abuse and exploitation offences were recorded in England and Wales. Half were committed by children aged 10 to 17. Online offences rose 26% in a single year. Over half of all recorded cases are child on child.Something is being taught to our young people. And it is being taught young.This episode of Like Me Officially examines the ecosystem shaping adolescent boys and girls — the manosphere, the structural failures that left young people without community, the algorithm that filled the gap, and where responsibility actually lands.Who Taught Them That? The Danger of the Adolescent Ecosystem.Episode summaryIn 2024, the Youth Justice Board confirmed that proven sexual offences committed by children rose by 47% in one year and a further 6% the following year. 33% of children reported seeing content online that encourages violence against women and girls. Barnardo's found that one in seven girls aged 13 to 15 had been asked to send nude images.In this episode, J'K Frederick asks three questions she couldn't stop thinking about. How does a 13-year-old boy commit a sexual offence against a girl he goes to school with and believe that was acceptable? Why does a boy who grows up watching a man hurt a woman repeat that behaviour ten years later and call it normal? How are girls being groomed online, moved onto encrypted apps, exploited, and then used to recruit other girls — and why is it still happening?The answer isn't one person. It isn't one platform. It isn't one piece of content.It is the ecosystem.J'K traces how social media algorithms connect everyday interests — fitness, gaming, music, self-improvement — to harmful content gradually, across hundreds of videos, without anyone noticing. She examines the 73% cut to UK youth services since 2010 that left young people without community and without the adults who would have spotted the problem early. She looks at what the neuroscience of adolescent brain development says about why current approaches in schools may be making things worse. She names girls as both victims and participants in online harm — and asks what shaped them too.She also shares what she witnessed growing up — domestic violence in real time — and draws a direct line to how early exposure shapes long-term sensitivities, hyper-awareness, and the fuel it takes to fight back.This episode also examines what governments are doing — age restriction legislation in Australia, the UK, and China — and why restriction alone is not enough when the influencers in question don't need the main platforms to reach young people.It ends with a call to the village. And a question about whether the adults in the room have decided that's their responsibility.What this episode answersWhat is the manosphere and where did the term come from?How do social media algorithms connect boys to harmful content?What happened to UK youth services after 2010?What does the developing adolescent brain have to do with online radicalisation?Why are gender equity lessons in schools potentially making things worse for some boys?What is the Youth Justice Board evidence review and what did it find?What are Australia, the UK and China doing about social media and children?Why is restriction not the same as protection?Are girls only victims in this conversation — or is the picture more complicated?What does an actual whole-of-society response to VAWG look like?What does the UK's VAWG strategy actually require to work?Key topics coveredThe manosphere as ecosystem — Movember UK research, 2025Social media algorithms and cultural touchpoints — inverted iceberg modelUK youth services funding cuts 2010 to 2021 — 73% reduction, 4,500 jobs, 760 centresChild poverty in the UK — 4.5 million children in relative low incomeAdolescent brain development — prefrontal cortex, peer approval, neurological vulnerabilityProfessor Jessica Ringrose, UCL — defensive responses to gender equity lessonsYouth Justice Board evidence review — child-on-child sexual offences, algorithm-driven harmBarnardo's UK — online exploitation and peer pressure dataUK drill music — court cases, Ofcom investigations, Metropolitan Police injunctionsDomestic abuse and major England football matches — 26% and 38% increase dataAustralia's social media ban — under-16s, 4.7 million accounts restrictedUK Children's Wellbeing and Schools Act 2026 — restrictions for under-16sChina's gaming and social media time limits — enforcement challengesUK Violence Against Women and Girls Strategy 2025Proverbs 22:6 — train up a childWhitney Houston — I believe the children are our futureIf you need supportRape Crisis England & Wales — free, confidential support for anyone affected by sexual violence. rapecrisis.org.uk 0808 500 2222 — free, 24 hours, 7 days a weekRape ...
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