Transform Conflict with Curiosity: Moving Beyond Defensiveness in Relationships

This episode delves into the concept of defensiveness in relationships and its impact on connection. The speaker shares personal experiences and professional insights to illustrate how defensiveness can escalate conflicts by protecting one's ego, rather than the relationship. Instead, the speaker advocates for using curiosity as an antidote to defensiveness. By asking open-ended questions and seeking to understand the other person's perspective, we can create a safer space for both parties. This approach helps in de-escalating tension and fostering empathy, ultimately strengthening the relationship. Practical steps and real-life examples are provided to guide listeners in applying these principles to their own conflicts.

00:00 Understanding Defensiveness in Relationships
01:12 The Physical and Emotional Response to Defensiveness
02:36 The Power of Curiosity as an Antidote
06:15 Practical Steps to Replace Defensiveness with Curiosity
06:58 Real-Life Application and Final Thoughts

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