“For years, I never ordered what I actually wanted.”

Losing yourself in a relationship rarely happens all at once. Sometimes it happens one small compromise at a time, until one day you realize you don't even know what you want anymore.

Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith welcome guest Shea Daspin for an honest, funny, and sometimes emotional conversation about people‑pleasing, losing your identity in marriage, and rebuilding after divorce.

We're talking about watching whatever your husband wanted on TV, giving up Britney Spears tickets, refusing to change your pink hair, and the chair he never let you buy.

When does compromise become sacrifice? And how do you find yourself again after spending years making everyone else happy?

Because sometimes getting your life back starts with buying the damn chair. 💛

MEET OUR GUEST: SHEA DASPIN

Shea Daspin is a fashion influencer who joins us to share her experience of rebuilding her life after divorce, rediscovering what makes her happy, and learning to make decisions for herself.

From Britney Spears tickets to pink hair and the chair she finally bought, Shea reminds us that reclaiming your identity sometimes starts with the smallest decisions.

CONNECT WITH SHEA

Instagram: @shea.daspin
https://www.instagram.com/shea.daspin/

Website:
https://www.sheadaspin.com

YOUR TURN

What's your "bite of his"?
What's something you gave up in a relationship without even realizing it?

Come tell us on Instagram @highfivehotmess. We want to hear your story!

EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Losing Yourself Without Realizing It
08:48 Who Am I Without My Partner?
16:40 When People-Pleasing Costs You
25:51 Finding Help and Healing
35:30 Compromise or Sacrifice?
39:25 What Are We High-Fiving?

ABOUT HIGH FIVE HOT MESS

We're Lisa and Lisa, two friends having funny, occasionally inappropriate, and unexpectedly honest conversations about the things that make life interesting.

If you've been looking for a podcast that feels like hanging out with your girlfriends, welcome.

You're not alone. 💛

WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBECOME HANG OUT WITH US

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I thought tarot card readings were a total scam. Then my tarot reading started coming true, month by month, and now my group chat is on fire. So can someone actually predict your future?

Lisa Wilson went from skeptic to believer after a 12-month tarot reading called a surprise money call in May, a wave of influential people in July, and a hard August she never saw coming. Lisa Smith, a longtime tarot fan, shares the reading that predicted a workplace plot six months out. Plus: would you want to know the day you'll die, the 7-Eleven psychic Lisa W knocked over with a car door, and our tarot predictions for November. A funny podcast for women over 40 who like their woo with a side of skepticism.

HIGH FIVE: PARIZ SALON

Huge thanks to Hope and the team at Pariz Salon in Lake Las Vegas (Henderson, NV). They gave Lisa W a blowout that lasted three days, then the whole salon followed us on Instagram to push us past 200. Women helping women. Go see them.

Website: https://parizsalon.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ParizSalonLLV

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@parizsalonllv

YOUR TURN: Have you ever been so desperate for an answer that you started looking for signs? A tarot reading, a horoscope, your mom, the universe?

Tell us on Instagram @highfivehotmess or in the YouTube comments.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Can Someone Predict Your Future?

08:12 A Tarot Skeptic Gets a Reading

12:00 The Tarot Predictions That Came True

20:59 The 7-Eleven Psychic

24:17 Our November Tarot Predictions

28:32 Our High Fives

We're Lisa and Lisa, two friends having funny, occasionally inappropriate, and unexpectedly honest conversations about the things that make life interesting. If you've been looking for a podcast that feels like hanging out with your girlfriends, welcome. You're not alone.

COME HANG OUT

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMessPodcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highfivehotmess

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@highfivehotmesspod

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Website: https://highfivehotmesspod.com

Email: hello@highfivehotmesspod.com

New conversations every Thursday.

How much woo is too woo? Crystals in your bra, moon water, past-life regression, and spiritual wellness trends that make you wonder: Have we officially lost our minds?

Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith are asking where curiosity ends and complete nonsense begins. From Mercury retrograde ruining dinner to questionable cleanses, psychic readings, sound baths, and the promise of healing your money problems by peeing on your credit card, we're exploring just how far down the woo rabbit hole we're willing to go.

One Lisa is getting increasingly woo-curious. The other has questions. LOTS of questions.

But underneath the ridiculousness is something surprisingly real: When does trying something new become believing something that might actually hurt us?

We're not here to judge your crystals. We're just wondering how many you can fit in your bra.

YOUR TURN: What's the woo-iest thing you've ever tried—and would you do it again?

Tell us on Instagram @highfivehotmess or in the YouTube comments.

CHAPTERS

00:00 How Much Woo Is Too Woo?
04:17 Too Woo or I'm In?
12:31 When Wellness Becomes Woo
23:53 Past Lives and Ridiculous Woo
30:54 Sound Baths and Witchy Expectations
39:27 Where Do We Draw the Line?

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Curious about some of the things we discussed? Here are the official websites:

Whole30 — The 30-day food elimination program Lisa Wilson tried.
https://whole30.com/

Reiki — Learn about the Japanese energy-based practice Lisa Smith discusses.
https://www.reiki.org/what-reiki

Kate's Magik — Botanical aromatherapy, anointing oils, and aura sprays.
https://www.katesmagik.com/

Aveda Chakra Balancing Sprays — The chakra-inspired aromatic body mists.
https://www.aveda.com/body/chakra-balance-spray

ABOUT THE SHOW

We're Lisa and Lisa, two friends having funny, occasionally inappropriate, and unexpectedly honest conversations about the things that make life interesting. If you've been looking for a podcast that feels like hanging out with your girlfriends, welcome. You're not alone.

WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE

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COME HANG OUT

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMessPodcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highfivehotmess

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@highfivehotmesspod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61591526858631

Website: https://highfivehotmesspod.com

Email: hello@highfivehotmesspod.com

New conversations every Thursday.