This is my summer playlist of podcasts where I guested this past year. I am so excited to share this provocative conversation I had with Artist and Activist Stephanie Graham on her podcast, nosey AF.

We talk about what it actually takes to stop running on empty. I share how I went from being a self-described "recovering grind culture addict" to building a whole business around helping high-achievers and everyday radicals reclaim their time and energy. I get to introduce you to the Calm Calendar Club, a program built around planning your life in a way that actually honors your energy — not just squeezes more out of it. If you've ever felt like you're dropping the ball, this conversation will remind you: you're not dropping balls, you're just carrying too many.

What We Talk About

Okay, so pull up a chair — this one goes places.

1. How Nicole went from overachiever to burnout recovery coach (and what growing up in Omaha, Nebraska had to do with it)
2. Why hustle culture is literally designed for you to fail — and why that's not your fault
3. Burnout in ministry and why being "on call 24/7" is just not human
4. What COVID quietly taught us about the power of saying no
5. The seven types of rest from Sacred Rest by Sandra Dalton-Smith — sleep is just ONE of them
6. How planning your calendar with your values first changes everything
7. Why ADHD and neurodivergent folks need planning systems that actually work for their brains
8. The Calm Calendar Club: what it is, how it works, and who it's for
9. Why "you're not failing the system — you're just trying to do too much"
10. The radical act of rest as resistance, especially for Black women (shoutout to Tricia Hersey's Rest Is Resistance)
11. Doing your part in activism and community work — without burning yourself all the way down

Things We Mentioned

Calm Calendar Club: defythetrend.com/calm-calendar

Rest Is Resistance by Tricia Hersey (affiliate link)

Sacred Rest by Sandra Dalton-Smith (the seven types of rest: physical, mental, sensory, creative, social, emotional, and spiritual) (affiliate link)

Artist Admin Hour — Stephanie's weekly co-working session for artists tackling the admin work that makes the work work → artistadminhour.com

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Summer Playlist

02:11 Welcome to noseyAF

03:16 My Grind Culture Story

09:35 Burnout is Common in Ministry

16:32 The Impact of COVID on Volunteerism and Community Engagement

19:26 Involving more people as volunteers

24:57 Cultural Attitudes Towards Busyness and Rest

27:02 Reducing your judgement of laziness

33:04 Understanding the Time Management Challenge

36:03 Creating Accessible Planning Solutions

39:44 Time Management for Self-Care

42:30 The System is Designed for Failure

50:44 Engaging with the World Without Burnout

01:06:09 Ask Nicole Anything

Connect with Stephanie

• Website: noseyaf.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephaniegraham?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==
• Substack: https://substack.com/@noseyaf
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniegraham/

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