Dating apps give you plenty of information about a person, but sometimes what people don't say on their dating profiles can be just as revealing. So what does it really mean when someone calls themselves "moderate" or "apolitical"?

In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are tackling the increasingly complicated relationship between dating and politics. Still riding the wave from the Blue Tsunami, they're discussing two Reddit dating dilemmas that raise the question: Can you build a healthy relationship with someone whose political views fundamentally differ from your own?

From the rise of the manosphere and the influence of social media algorithms to the suspicious number of men leaving politics off their dating profiles, it's worth taking a look at how much political compatibility should influence dating choices.

Highlights of the episode:

• Why shared values matter more than political labels

• How social media and the manosphere influence politics and modern dating

• How politics influence every part of your life

• How to spot potential political incompatibilties before getting too invested

If you've always been someone who believes in agreeing to disagree, this conversation might make you reconsider where you draw the line. Because politics goes so much further than your vote. They're the values you hold, impact your loved ones, and can show a lot about how you view other people.

Time Stamps

00:00 – Welcome and let's talk about the Blue Tsunami

13:31 – Trans rights, political victories, and the work still ahead

25:31 – Accounatibility and political compromise

29:15 – Can you date someone with different political beliefs?

34:16 – Political radicalization through social media

38:32 – When political labels don't match someone's actions

42:21 – The difference between opinions and human rights

52:19 – Why some people hide their politics on dating apps

53:53 – Dating in Austin and the surplus of apolitical men

01:01:32 – Politics in pop culture and who gets to be cool

01:06:30 – The politics of everyday life

01:15:47 – Can you truly keep politics out of your relationships?

01:18:00 – Being civil isn't always the answer

01:24:56 – Are reality dating shows secretly conservative?

01:35:33 – How to spot political red flags in dating

01:40:01 – Where to find Liz and Harris

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Are dating apps even helping people meet anymore, or have they turned into a Wild West of gamified gambling, data mining, AI profiles and algorithms, and making insecurities worst?

In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley read Straight Arrow News and 404 Media's article, They Want Money, Pure and Simple: Singles Push Regulators to Crack Down on Dating App Algorithms.

Having experienced the rigamorole of online dating apps and sites, Liz and Harris explore how online dating went from a promising new way to connect with people to a pay-to-play experience. They're talking questionable dating app algorithms and how AI is trying to its hardest to take the human out of human relationships (and why it can't).

Highlights of the episode:

• Tinder's $500 monthly subscription tier

• The alarming lack of privacy on dating apps

• Why it's easier to find a swimming buddy than a lifeguard

• Video dating services in the 70s and 80s

• Remembering when the internet used to be FUN

But it's not all doom, gloom, and swiping right. Tune in for some useful insights on dealing with rejection and why creating a life you love might be just what your dating strategy needs.

Time Stamps

00:00 – Welcome to the show

01:15 – Are dating app algorithms rigged?

04:26 – Consumer complaints and class action lawsuits

06:02 – Your perfect match is just a paywall away

09:02 – The cost of trying to find love

13:24 – Premium subscriptions on Hinge and Tinder

19:42 – Data mining in dating apps

24:36 – Do dating apps want you to stay single?

26:26 – How dating apps exploit our need for connection

29:05 – We miss OkCupid!

32:58 – The gamification of dating apps

37:38 – AI dating profiles and AI algorithms

47:46 – Rejection and frustration are part of life

52:40 – Dating apps are just digital singles bars

56:38 – Paying more doesn't guarantee better matches

01:01:15 – Build a life you love before finding a partner

01:06:20 – Maybe you just need to go outside

01:15:26 – Support the show and follow Harris and Dr. Liz

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Is it love at first sight, or did your ADHD brain just find its latest hyperfixation?

In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell are getting personal about their experiences with ADHD, from being diagnosed as adults to recognizing how it shaped their relationships long before they had a name for it.

They're talking about the difference between love and limerence, why new relationship energy (NRE) can make forever feel like a fantastic idea (for three weeks), and how rejection-sensitive dysphoria can turn a perfectly ordinary interaction into an emotional disaster.

Highlights of the episode:

• Dr. Liz's 11-page relationship manual

• How ADHD can impact dating, attraction, communication, and emotional connection

• Why sensory overload and executive dysfunction can look like disinterest (and how to navigate it)

• The difference between asking for emotional support and making someone else responsible for your feelings
  
  

And because this wouldn't be an episode of Do As We Say without ADHD-fueled tangents, tune in for the dating discourse AND detours involving broken bones, attractive doctors, caffeine experiments, and the questionable decisions of their younger selves.

Time Stamps

00:00 – Dr. Liz's broken wrist adventure

16:10 – Getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult

21:54 – Why dating with ADHD can be so distracting

26:14 – All the ADHD red flags they missed growing up

33:22 – When a new crush becomes your latest hyperfixation

35:01 – Rejection sensitivity and the fear of making a move

39:40 – Dating and hookups before smartphones

45:06 – What happens when NRE wears off?

47:49 – ADHD and the appeal of novelty

50:39 – Why changing plans can feel like an attack

58:35 – Dr. Liz's 11-page dating manual

01:04:45 – Are you high maintenance or high information?

01:08:44 – Why men struggle to talk about their emotional needs

01:20:00 – When loneliness leads men to the wrong communities

01:27:16 – ADHD and the guilt of being a bad friend

01:33:40 – Where to find Dr. Liz and Harris

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