After 43 years together and more than 40 years of marriage, David asks Julie a question on camera: "Are you still attracted to me?" Her honest answer starts a conversation about how attraction really works in a long-term relationship. It rises and falls, it changes as we age, and it takes effort to keep.

Julie Bulitt, a family therapist, and David Bulitt, a divorce and family lawyer, talk about what drew them to each other when they met in 1983 and what keeps that pull alive now. They cover the everyday things that make a partner more attractive, the behaviors that turn us off, and why feeling seen, safe, and respected matters so much to desire. They also explain the Gottman Institute's 5 to 1 ratio, which says it takes five positive interactions to balance a single criticism, and why small moments of noticing work like bricks in a wall.

To finish, the Bulitts answer listener questions. They share what each of them finds sexy about the other, whether couples can get too comfortable, and how important it is to feel desired at any age. Relationships are not self-driving cars. They are manual transmission, and you have to keep your hands on the wheel.

What You'll Learn:
• Why attraction ebbs and flows in long-term relationships, and why that's normal
• How feeling seen, valued, and safe builds attraction and intimacy
• The Gottman 5 to 1 ratio and how small acts of appreciation strengthen connection
• The warning signs couples miss when they get too comfortable
• How desire changes with age, and how it can stay strong in new ways

About the Hosts:
Julie Bulitt is a licensed clinical social worker and family therapist with more than 30 years of experience. David Bulitt is a divorce and family lawyer with more than 35 years of experience. Married for over 40 years, they bring both professional insight and personal experience to every conversation.

🌐 Website: https://thebulitts.com/
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Julie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Meg Rock was married to a PGA Tour pro when a back injury changed everything. With two young boys at home and tour income shrinking, she went looking for a way to earn from home and ended up building a direct sales business that grew into a multiple six figure income. Her husband, Brent, stepped into the Mr. Mom role, and the two of them had to figure out a marriage where the roles had completely reversed.

In this episode, Julie and David talk with Meg about what that shift did to their relationship, why she started saying "our business" instead of "my business," and how Brent's time at home paid off for their sons, including a youngest who is now a high school senior fielding baseball scholarship offers. Meg and Julie also compare notes on growing up with undiagnosed learning struggles, and how the things that made school so hard turned into persistence later in life. Meg closes with what she is building now: a new business with LegalShield, which she came to after her own identity was stolen.

What You'll Learn:

• How a career-changing injury reshaped one couple's roles at home
• Why the language you use about money and work matters in a marriage
• What it took to build a home-based business from scratch over three lean years
• How learning struggles in childhood can become strengths in adulthood
• Why Meg believes direct sales is harder to break into today than it was 15 years ago
• What pushed Meg toward legal and identity theft protection plans

Connect with Meg Rock:
Instagram: @themegrock
Instagram show: Boycotting Boring
Email: megrockonline@gmail.com

Connect with Julie and David Bulitt:
Website: https://thebulitts.com/
Follow: @TheBulitts

Julie Bulitt is a professionally licensed clinical social worker and family therapist. David Bulitt is a divorce and family lawyer. Julie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Can happily married people still flirt with other people? Is it okay to have close friendships with someone you could be attracted to? Julie and David Bulitt are back from their summer break and kicking off a new season of Conversations for Couples with a topic that sparks plenty of debate: the two F's, flirting and friendships outside the relationship.

Julie, a family therapist for more than 30 years, and David, a divorce and family lawyer for more than 35 years, go back and forth on where playful fun ends and crossing the line begins. They explore the difference between intent and behavior, why the person on the receiving end may not read your flirting the way you meant it, and the "would you do it in front of your spouse" test. From there, the conversation turns to opposite sex friendships, lifelong friends who predate the relationship, staying friends with an ex, work wives and work husbands, and late night texts that can quietly erode trust.

Along the way, they introduce a third letter, the C word: compromise. And they close with a reminder that the most important flirting happens inside your relationship, plus a simple tip for bringing playfulness back when it has faded.

In this episode:
Can married people flirt with others, and where is the line?
Intent vs. behavior: why how it looks can matter as much as what you mean
The "would you do it in front of your spouse" test
Opposite sex friendships before and after marriage
Friendships with exes and why they can get complicated
Work wives, work husbands, and setting after hours boundaries
Respecting a partner's insecurity instead of dismissing it
Why flirting with your own partner is key to a long lasting relationship

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Website: https://thebulitts.com/
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Julie Bulitt is a licensed clinical social worker and family therapist. David Bulitt is a divorce and family lawyer. Julie is not your therapist and David is not your lawyer. This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only.

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