Have you ever looked back at an earlier version of yourself and wished you had been kinder to the woman you were? Or found yourself frustrated with who you are today because you aren't the person you used to be?

Life changes. Our bodies change, our priorities shift, and circumstances sometimes pull us away from the routines and practices that once helped us feel our best. Yet we often judge ourselves for those changes without considering everything we've experienced along the way.

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, I'm exploring what it means to accept yourself exactly as you are today, without giving up on growth or the things you want for your life.

Through personal reflection and a guided practice, we'll explore how to look back with compassion, understand where we are today, and reconnect with what matters without trying to recreate a life that no longer fits.

Because you can honor the woman you used to be, appreciate the woman you've become, and still be excited about the woman you're becoming.

You are not starting over. You are starting from here.

If you're ready to move beyond a life that's simply good and begin finding more fulfillment in your everyday life, you're in the right place.

Welcome to Becoming. I'm Carrie, and I'm glad you're here.

Let's begin.

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

What Are You Resisting That Is Keeping You Stuck?

Sometimes the things we resist most are the very things worth looking at a little more closely.

In this episode of Becoming, Carrie explores four moments in her own life when her immediate response was, “No. Absolutely not. That’s not me.” Each time, she resisted the question, wrestled with it, and eventually discovered something she couldn't see at first.

Looking back, she sees something different now: four actual moments where resistance became a doorway into a completely different direction in her life.

But this isn't about assuming that everything we resist is true—or that we should simply give in to every uncomfortable idea. It's about becoming curious about our reactions. Sometimes the strongest emotional response is pointing toward a question we haven't been willing to ask ourselves yet.

What are you resisting?

And what if the thing you're resisting isn't something you need to accept—but a doorway?

This week, Carrie invites you to slow down, pay attention, and consider what might be keeping you stuck.

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

When you're building a life you love, it can be surprisingly difficult to know when it's time to stop.

This week, I'm exploring what happens when we give ourselves permission to rest—not because we've failed or run out of motivation, but because rest is part of the process.

I'll share what I've been learning through my own experience this week, what my clients have taught me about rest and recovery, and a piece of personal writing called Roots that has reminded me how much growth can happen beneath the surface.

Sometimes we get so focused on what's next that we forget to notice how far we've already come.

Maybe rest isn't about stopping.

Maybe it's about stepping back far enough to see what's already taking root.

Question for this week: When is it time to rest—and what might you notice if you gave yourself permission to do it?

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

How do you know when you're ready for change?

Sometimes we know something in our lives needs to shift long before we know what we're going to do about it. We notice something isn't quite right. We feel stuck, restless, or unsettled. We become aware of patterns that no longer fit—and then we wonder: Am I supposed to do something about this now?

In this episode, Carrie returns to a question that first surfaced in one of the very first Becoming Circles: How do you know when you're ready?

Together, we explore the space between awareness and action, the fear that can exist alongside knowing, the difference between intuition and urgency, and what it means to trust yourself when you don't have the whole path figured out.

You'll also be invited into a simple practice to help you slow down, listen to what you're noticing, and consider what “ready enough” might look like for you.

Because awareness doesn't have to be an emergency. And you don't have to force yourself to be ready.

Sometimes, the next step becomes clear when we give ourselves enough space to hear it.

The question to carry with you this week:
What is changing in you—and are you willing to trust yourself enough to let the next step reveal itself?

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

We spend so much of our lives somewhere other than where we actually are—thinking about what happened, planning what comes next, checking our phones, preparing what we're going to say, or simply moving through the day on autopilot.

But what happens when we actually stop and pay attention?

This week's conversation took an unexpected turn during one of my workshops when a simple question came up: What are you doing while someone else is talking to you?

From listening and feeling heard, to relationships, nature, and the way we experience our own lives, this conversation became an exploration of what it really means to be present—and how presence can become a practice rather than another thing we have to get right.

You don't have to slow your entire life down.

You might just need to notice when you've left the moment you're in... and learn how to come back.

So, how do you slow down enough to be fully present in your life?

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

What Is It Time to Let Go Of?

This week, I’m doing something a little different.

Instead of simply talking about an idea or sharing something I’ve been thinking about, I’m inviting you to do a little Becoming work with me.

The question we’re exploring is simple:

What is it time to let go of?

In this episode, I’ll walk you through a reflection exercise you can actually do alongside me. You’ll have the opportunity to pause, notice what feels heavy, name what you may be carrying, get curious about why you’re still holding onto it, and consider what might become possible if you were willing to put it down.

And I’m doing the exercise too.

I don’t know what my answer is going to be when I sit down with the question. I’m not going to pretend I do. I want to discover it alongside you—and see what happens when I give myself the same space and attention that I invite you to give yourself.

Because Becoming isn’t about reaching a place where you have everything figured out. Life still gets heavy. We still question ourselves. We still lose our motivation and sometimes have no idea what the next step is.

The practice is having somewhere to return to when we don't know.

And as we step into autumn—the Season of Expression, courage, and showing up more fully as who we are becoming—we’re also reminded by nature that some things are ready to fall away.

What is it time to let go of?

You may be surprised by what comes up.

And remember: you don't have to have the answer before you sit down to ask the question... in fact maybe it is better if you don't.

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

Are You Ready to Get Back to Your Routine?

As summer gives way to fall, many of us feel ready to settle back into familiar routines. But what if a change of season isn't always about going back to the way things were? What if we've changed, too?

In this episode of The Becoming Podcast, we explore the seasons of our lives—how we recognize when something is shifting, why we sometimes resist what we already know, and what we can learn by looking back before moving forward.

You don't have to know exactly what comes next. Sometimes, you simply have to notice that something has changed and become curious about what the next season might be asking of you.

What are you ready to return to—and does it still fit the person you've become?

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog

Do You Feel Seen?
What could happen when you see yourself—and allow yourself to be seen?

In this episode of Becoming, I sit down with Sean McNally for a conversation I couldn't fully prepare for.

Sean's story includes addiction, recovery, identity, self-worth, and the difficult work of rebuilding a life—but ultimately, this is a story about learning to see yourself as a person of value—and then building a life that reinforces that belief.

We talk about what it means to give yourself a chance, recognize your own worth, allow yourself to be truly seen, and keep moving forward when the road behind you has been difficult.

And because this is Sean, there's plenty of personality and unexpected fun along the way—including the original song he wrote and sent to me on his way to our conversation: Moving Forward.

This is a conversation about being seen, but maybe even more importantly, about learning to see yourself.

Do you feel truly seen?

A Resource from Sean

If Sean's story resonates with you and you're looking for support, Sean recommends SMART Recovery, a science-based approach to overcoming addictive behaviors.

Sean's SMART Recovery Meeting:
https://meetings.smartrecovery.org/meetings/9503/

Read my companion blog at:

https://www.totaltransformation.life/blog