You feel called to lead, but there's something terrifying about actually stepping into that role. The moment you share your vision with others, you face ridicule. Your nervous system screams danger. Every instinct tells you to retreat back to safety, back to belonging with your current tribe.

This is step two of sustainable leadership - and it's where most aspiring leaders give up.

Leadership isn't just about having a vision or communicating it well. True leadership means going against your own biology. It means being willing to face ostracization, to lose your initial tribe, to sit alone with your ideas until you find those rare people who actually get it.

In this episode, we walk through the complete five-step journey of sustainable leadership.

This isn't motivational fluff about "believing in yourself." This is the raw truth about what it actually takes to lead meaningful change.

We have all been there: You think you are making conscious decisions, but your actions tell a different story. It seems like you have decided to eat healthier, to forgive that person, to have that difficult conversation - you somehow it is not happening, even though you decided.

Willpower is not the problem. Willpower is not even required, because important decisions are not made by your conscious mind. They only happen when your entire inner ecosystem - the 99% of who you are, including subconscious beliefs, emotions and memories - align with what you consciously want.

In this episode, we explore the difference between conscious intentions and actual "full body" decisions.

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Chapters (auto-generated):

0:00 Introduction to Conscious Decisions 3:41 The Iceberg Model of the Psyche 6:06 Rethinking Free Will 9:14 The Trap of Believing in Yourself 14:13 My Story of Money Habits 20:37 Aligning Decisions with the Subconscious

You need to make a decision, yet you're either stuck in analysis or you think you've decided, but your actions tell a different story. You're not actually committed to what you said you'd do.

The "meta trick" is an emotionally intelligent approach, designed to shift your focus away from the decision itself towards your feelings about making it. Instead of obsessing over pros and cons, you learn to work with your inner resistance - just like a parent patiently talking to a child.

I'll walk you through an example of me going through a six-stage process of deciding to launch a new product, navigating through layers of pressure, identity shift, guilt, trust issues, grief, and fear. Each layer revealed what was actually holding me back. And it wasn't the product launch.

In this episode, you'll discover how to get your whole inner team on board, in order to stop unconsciously sabotaging your own decisions. Feeling through your own decisions in this way is a method you can use to arrive at a "full body yes" efficiently and commit fully.

Timestamps:

0:00 Decision is Process 2:38 The Meta Trick Explained 6:28 Understanding Inner Resistance 8:36 Real-World Example