Are You Helping or Are You Controlling?

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Are You Helping or Are You Controlling?

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We all say the same thing: “I’m just trying to help.” But what if sometimes our helping is actually controlling? (slowly raising my hand, here) In Episode 3 of my month-long series about CONTROL with my good friend, NYT bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst, we’re putting this whole responsibility-vs.-control question to the test. I throw real-life scenarios at Lysa, from checking Find My Friends and reminding your kids about deadlines to researching literally everything you can to keep your family healthy, and she has to decide: responsible or controlling? We’re talking about the razor-thin line between caring and controlling, how our motivations can reveal more than we realize, and how stepping in to help might actually keep someone from taking responsibility. And yes, I may have gotten called out a few times. 😂 So… are you actually helping? Or are you trying to control the outcome? Let’s talk about it. Listen in to learn more: 0:03:00 Check Your Motive 0:05:15 Let Trust Grow With Evidence 0:09:55 One Reminder, Not a Campaign 0:10:42 Speak Once, Then Let Go 0:11:28 Care Without Curiosity 0:12:34 Share Ownership, Don’t Take Over 0:15:59 Practice Letting Go 0:16:29 Stop Feeding the What-Ifs 0:19:08 Be Preventive, Not All-Powerful Summary In this episode, we dive into the difference between helping and manipulation, with real-life examples of when responsibility becomes controlling behavior and how to recognize the signs of control. LINKS and RESOURCES: Connect with Paula on Instagram Paula’s Newsletter is on Substack!! THE CARRY ALL weekly newsletter is on Substack!! Paula’s Book: You Don’t Have To Carry It All Connect with Lysa on Instagram Lysa’s New Book: Making Peace with What I Can’t Control Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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