This one's for the person everybody looks at and goes, "I can't believe they can do all that stuff."

The one who always gets things done... and is running on fumes by Thursday. The calls, the meetups, the drives, the taxi, the business meetings. And the face that says this is fine, I've got it under control.

The ones most at capacity are usually the ones who look the most capable. And they don't want to own up to it.

What's in this one

• Why the person everybody thinks is grand is usually the one struggling the most
• A manager I coach. Staff off sick, nobody to cover, so she works the day and the evening, and then even tracking her food feels too hard
• What actually happens if you stop at half seven or eight o'clock, and what you get back when you draw a line in the sand
• Another client who could feel burnout coming. We planned a recovery before she needed it, protected the morning, no meetings before nine. Nothing burnt down
• The dream world and the reality world, and why "Monday it's going to be fine" never is
• Stress test your list, pre-decide your stop time, tell one person
• My own stress test, with a brand new baby landing in the house and my sleep about to go
• A seventy year old man on a plane to Dubai, one of the first guys to have a mobile phone in his car (in his Ferrari), and why he took time away and held his hands up when he needed help

The line I'd leave you with

Tell one person you're at your limit. Nobody can help you if they don't know.

Your homework

Stress test your list. Everything on your plate for the next fortnight, score each of them out of ten. Does it need you ? Does it have to give you something back ?

Pre-decide your stop time, where your recovery comes in, and tell one person.

Then DM me on Instagram. I'd love to know what you change, what you dismiss, the people you say no to.

Come and tell me

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Everybody's tried the quick fix. The training, the nutrition, the plan... and they get to a certain point and it stops.

So in this one I wanted to clear up why I work the way I do. And it goes back to the army. I got promoted quickly, and I used to hear sergeants say "this soldier's terrible". I'd ask them, have you actually coached him? Have you shown him how to do it properly? And the answer was nearly always no.

You're probably doing the same thing at home, in your business and with yourself. That's why I start where I start, with the hierarchy of needs, and it always starts with you.

What's in this one

• What 12 years in the army taught me about getting people past the ceiling everyone thinks they have
• Why frustrated business owners are usually the ones who haven't trained their staff, and how the same thing shows up in your health
• The hierarchy of needs from the bottom up, and why it's never static, it slides week to week with your life, your business and your hormones
• Where did you lose the last battle? What got in the way the last time you hit the brick wall?
• The now. The one nobody does properly, and why it usually ends up emotional when we crack it
• "I used to play hockey." "I used to be a prop." Why the old story keeps you stuck
• Your support network, and why the people who love you might be keeping you comfortable instead of moving you forward
• Plugging exercise into your life so it supports how you turn up as a leader, a parent and for your clients, without making your whole life about fitness

The line I'd leave you with

That's the story you tell your mates down the pub. What I want to know is where you're at right now.

Your homework

If this one hit home, drop me a DM on Instagram. Reach out and raise your hand, because I know I can help you where you're at right now.

Come and tell me

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Week three you're flying. Telling everybody about the plan, showing up energised, loving it.

Week six, you're out.

And then you decide it means something about you. That you're the sort of person who doesn't finish things. You've started six or seven of these now and every one has gone the same way.

It's not bad luck and it's not the wrong time. It's a loop, and you keep starting at the same point solving the same wrong problem.

What's in this one

• The loop, mapped out: start, progress, sacrifice, boredom, the pit, restart
• Why the killer isn't the pit, it's the sacrifice stage
• The night I cut my steak in half and asked the chef to cook it with no butter, and what I missed while everybody around me was laughing
• Why I stayed in a version of that far longer than I should have
• Why "sustainable programme" means nothing when it still starts at 10,000 steps and a calorie number
• The Hierarchy of Needs, and the questions nobody asks you before handing you a plan
• Why the weight loss might be slower, and why weight loss was never actually what you wanted
• The known pain of staying where you are, and why it wins so often

The line I'd leave you with

Never sacrifice something you love to make it work.

Your homework

Work out which part of the loop you're actually in right now. Starting. Progressing. Sacrificing. Bored. In the pit. About to restart.

Then fix one simple thing first. One problem at a time. Not the weight, not the whole life, one thing.

And if you're near the top of the loop, starting or making progress, message me before you get to week six. I'd rather give you a quick overview now than pick you up out of the pit in a month.

Everybody accepts that building a business is hard, and that saving money is hard. Then we all decide looking after ourselves is easy, and yet almost nobody does it.

Come and tell me

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