You love your partner. So why does living with their ADHD sometimes leave you feeling more like a parent than a partner?

Maybe you’re the one remembering the appointments, paying the bills, keeping track of the household, finishing forgotten tasks and carrying the invisible mental load.

You’ve tried reminders. Lists. Shared calendars. Calm conversations. Serious conversations. Arguments. Promises to do things differently.

And somehow, you still end up carrying more than your share.

Loving Someone with ADHD is a practical relationship guide written specifically for the non-ADHD partner who loves someone with ADHD but is exhausted by the patterns that can develop around it.

This isn’t about blaming your partner or trying to “fix” their ADHD. And it isn’t another relationship book telling you to simply be more patient.

Instead, it helps you understand how ADHD affects relationships— including executive dysfunction, time blindness, working memory difficulties, emotional dysregulation, hyperfocus and rejection sensitivity— while recognising an equally important truth:

ADHD can explain behaviour without erasing its impact on you.

When forgotten responsibilities, unfinished tasks and repeated reminders become part of everyday life, couples can gradually fall into a damaging parent-child relationship dynamic. One person becomes the organiser, reminder and rescuer while the other increasingly feels managed, criticised or inadequate.

This book shows you how to begin changing that dynamic and become partners again.

Inside, you'll discover how to:

• Understand what ADHD behaviour actually means— and stop taking every forgotten task or missed commitment personally
• Recognise and break the ADHD parent-child dynamic before resentment takes over
• Set healthy boundaries with an ADHD partner without drowning in guilt
• Stop rescuing and allow appropriate consequences without becoming cold or uncaring